"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

A better head-start for improving

tactic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2003
Messages
1,322
Reaction score
1
Age
39
Don't ask people from the internet for help, unless they really prove that they know. This site, in fact, has members who actually know alot about woman so i don't go against everything about getting help from the internet. However, there are alot of things you should not trust because they will only lead you to a wrong direction.

What i suggest is..get help from the real guys outside the internet world. Do you know what i mean? If you see a guy in the hallway in school or at a place, then you see him with girls, then you should go up to him and try to talk to him. Try to find ways for the guys to be your wingman, give you some tips, and so on. This gives you more confidence than reading stuff on the net.

Also, social proof or whatever that is helps alot. You can also learn by observing, by seeing what the guys do to make girls be with them.

Some guys may say, "I don't know, i just do it" and they don't really know what they really KNOW about girls.. well that's because they go with the flow.

This site used to give me confidence but not anymore. It's nothing new in knowledge to me.

This is just a suggestion, guys.. good luck.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Lifeforce

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 8, 2003
Messages
2,091
Reaction score
18
Location
SWEDEN
Very good post. First thing I've read in a while I've agreed with fully.
 

tactic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2003
Messages
1,322
Reaction score
1
Age
39
thanks
 

Double

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2004
Messages
1,212
Reaction score
1
thats how i started(before i knew this site). i tried to copy everything he did and how he dressed. yeh it was ridicolous and i was called a bad copy of him but it was the best thing i could do.
 

Lifeforce

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 8, 2003
Messages
2,091
Reaction score
18
Location
SWEDEN
I'm sure he doesn't mean you should copy everything. More like to give a basic guide and let you go from there =)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Double

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2004
Messages
1,212
Reaction score
1
hey i only said how i did it nothing more nothing less :p
 

tactic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2003
Messages
1,322
Reaction score
1
Age
39
Well being exactly like the guy wouldn't teach you everything about him. It's good to watch what he does, how he handles things like a girl slapping him.
 

4afe

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 6, 2004
Messages
116
Reaction score
1
Age
41
Location
AZ
The best thing I did was find a wing in my area. I went from total AFC to "entry level PUA" (lack of better term) with in the frist 2 hours. I was a keyboard jocky and spent all my time on the net reading posting.... I decided I can read about this stuff forever and never know all the Bull Sh-t that I read half the time. I got off my ass and sarged 4days a week 4hours each time. My advice dont spend to much time trying to learn it, get some stuff from the web try it, imporve it, do it again.
 

tactic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2003
Messages
1,322
Reaction score
1
Age
39
so 4afe, tells us how the wingman helped you.
 

4afe

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 6, 2004
Messages
116
Reaction score
1
Age
41
Location
AZ
I will tell you only if you do something for me.... (lol) .

What I did before I ever met anyone in person, I would read for hours on end and write down notes and sh-t like that. I would buy books/CDs/Videos.... every thing that claimed success with women. I would watch and study the videos of the pros. It never occured that I was watching videos of pros, Its like watching a video of Jordan playing B-Ball and trying to play just like him. Then I would get out in the feild and come accross really weird, I would try approaches that mystery would use on Models and such. Im not saying videos and books are bad, but you can learn much more from them when you are further along in the game. Some books I would suggest are business books that teach things like "sticky eyes" "epoxy eyes"...

If you would rather read online stuff (probably shouldnt post this) but www.fastseduction.com is a great resource for ebooks.

As for a wing. If you can find someone who is already a DJ/PUA/... in your area that is willing to help you out (most people in the community are really cool about it) then hang out with that guy as much as possible. There is something about meeting these people in person, you get the whole alpha-male vibe that you cant get from a video screen or speakers.

The Bible boot camp thing here teaches a ton of AFC stuff, that I stay away from (ie Eye contact) if you are totally looking this HB8 in the eyes for a while before you even approach her, arent you showing her she has your complete attention? When I was learning I was trying to make EC before I would approach and all that BS. But after a while I would check if she had boobs and a pretty face, that was all I needed to approach. What my wing tought me was that if you wait for her to make EC and give you a clue she could be gone.

One thing I noticed that my wing would be social he would sit down next to the hottest girl or social group. I learned that DJ/PUA is a way of life, it isnt some front when you go out to a club or party. its who you are. Also he was able to teach me the importance of warming up. it is just like any sport, you have to warm up. He said if you dont approach for a few days it is very important to do some sh1t approaches, run your stack on a person who works at a store. approach UG's, Fatties, guys, anything that you could give a sh1t less if you dont #close/kissClose.

With a good wing, you get a lot more than Fukclose/#close/KissClose. A good wing can help you if you need help he can intercept that Cok-block so you can close your target. If he is experinced he can watch from another area then tell you what your doing right/wrong... I would use my hands when talking, my wing told me to STOP IT! and point at my dik the whole time, did it help? Maybe... I dont scare them away by waving my hands in their faces anymore. He helped me with my posture (no more stiff, football player look). What a good wing can do is read into your approach and note it then report it.

If you cant get a good wing, have a friend video tape it... then study your tape later. if she asks about the camara make a routine/story out of it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

tactic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2003
Messages
1,322
Reaction score
1
Age
39
thanks for the tip 4afe,

what i prefer though, is a wingman or maybe someone who you know who can help you by saying it in words. For example, i heard this guy saying to a guy who sat next to me.. "If you touch her and she smiles it shows that she likes you.".. He wears blings and all that and he's with the girls alot. I think ways of getting help is by asking a question and getting a honest answer.
 
Top