"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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9th grade sensation

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I had a friend all throughout middle school, we weren't the most popular of kids, but we weren't lame. But um, we started highschool, and he decided to play football, and now he's like some highschool superstar. We dont hang out with each other any more, dont even talk. But here's the catch, I'm on the team as well. He plays Quarterback, and I'm a wide receiver. What's the problem?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like he's putting himself out there. You should try it :cool:
 

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buckleyindahouse said:
If you know anything about football, QB's always get the most attention, head of the team.
That's not always true.
 

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buckleyindahouse said:
If you know anything about football, QB's always get the most attention, head of the team.
...No. In high school, I would even go as far to say that there are more teams that have a stand-out running back or d-lineman that "gets all the attention".

It's more often that you see an incredible athlete physically at running back, or a d-lineman who's already a giant of a man at 17 years old.

Sure, QB is the glamorous, sexy position. But I disagree that they get all, or even most, of the attention.
 

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Differences, Differences.

I know what you mean when you explain your little situation there.
I've known a couple of people who I know longer hang out with that become very popular.

Here's the thing: people mature differently.
He may have gotten into different cliques or friend groups that boost his popularity.
And despite what you may think, football position doens't really matter all too much. If I was a girl I'd not really date people on the football team; some tend to be really ****y, arrogant, and just jerks (not saying anything about you though.)

So don't fret about it too much, different people change in different ways. It's just a part of life that you can't change. And think of it this way; if he gets all of the attention, you may be the better person. Think about it: when he wants to date a girl, temptation will always be there with the other women, cheating may occur, or he'll be torn apart by decisions. And he might be extremely arrogant like he rules the school. Less-popular guys may just have the personalities they might lack. Just saying.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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