"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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99 percent of the problems on this site are self-inflicted.

rhcp83

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Yup, I said it. Here are the reasons:

- Choosing low quality women based on lust.
- Chasing after low quality women because of the "chase" and the "challenge."
- Staying with low quality women for the sex.
- Trying to make a hoe a housewife.

I could go on.

Most men on here think with their d*cks not their real brains.

I'm in no way saying to go for fatties or that "not as hot" women don't come with problems because we all know that's bs. But a nice cute low maintenance girl comes with SIGNIFICANTLY less bs than some AW (regardless of her number.)

I get the impression a lot of guys on here discovered this site sometime during or after high school, where they were rejected/humiliated by the hot, popular girls and vowed to "get revenge" by fvcking women like them or get a girlfriend like that to prove their worth to society.

So some guys never make it...some guys learn enough information/put on enough muscle to fake the funk...then they finally get "that" girl only it comes with a price...her attitude/bad personality. Then they complain about her on here and how "there aren't any good girls."

Sound familiar? It should. This site for most (not every poster) is no different than women sitting around eating ice cream complaining about their boyfriends that beat them and cheat on them.

Bottom line...you want a stereotypically hot club type girl? Don't complain about the ensuing drama or for the less fortunate how hard it is to get into their pants or get anywhere with them.

These women want the real mccoy...someone as douchey and hot as them.

I speak from experience...going for those women, and dating low maintenance cuties, and seeing the significant difference in quality of personality...funnier, funner to be around, smarter, more mature. And it all feels the same anyway. It's just ego "Oh if I get a "10" to society it means I made it in the world."

Got news for ya...most people don't notice or care what type of women you are or aren't getting. Your lay count or the hot factor of your gf doesn't make you as a man.

Who's more of a man, Van Damme in his prime or Jay Z? We all know Jay Z only has Beyonce because he's a famous rapper. If he were just some average joe and went up to her on the street she'd laugh at him.

The bottom line...figure out what YOU actually like, and live your life for the reasons you want to.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NotAgain

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Uhh... this site was more about me getting my life back on track. Said oneitis almost screwed up my future during uni exams. Now I am over her because of this site. I'm now living my life, hitting the gym (not just for looks but in prep for pre-season football), doing my hobbies and chasing my dreams.

In terms of woman, I am surrounded by them 24/7 but I'm not that AFC no more. I've used this time of the year to actually pick myself up, reassess my life and where I want to go.

If it weren't for this site, I'd still be a snovelling AFC instantly messaging that girl back, too afraid to approach woman and a mess in general or if I did get the girl, the type of guy you're describing.
 

floydb25

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Couldn't agree more. I say the same thing constantly - even to myself whenever those bitter moments come. It's all on you. When you ***** about women - regardless of why - its your fault for sticking around, and choosing this person - knowing full well what you're getting yourself into.

For instance, a guy complains because a girl is seeking after a bad boy, and complaining about him. His fault right there. He's seeking after, and complaining about this person. "Oh, all girls want jerks; nice guys finish last", he says - as he's chasing after a girl with no interest in nice guys. But, its not like the girl he is pining after is nice, either. Then, he *****es because she's a ***** - while STILL chasing after her.

All of these guys who complain about women are no better than they are. They always have a choice. They choose to stick around and ***** about them... Then, they to attract them - only to find out that they're still the same way. Just like the women do. The guys complaining about these women do the exact same things with them. They are also just as shallow as they are. The HOT chick they claim is shallow - as they're chasing after her for being hot.

Most people don't care, though. They just like to complain, and be told they're in the right - when they're the ones making all these stupid choices. They also like drama, conflict, and difficult people.
 
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