I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
though perhaps unrealistic esp. for most gals.Throttle said:as someone who's lost a lot of bodyfat, kept if off, and is in the process of getting rid of the last of it, I would re-arrange the numbers and consider dropping a few. I believe that #5 is absolutely critical (though I disagree with the distribution of macronutrients), and #1 may be irrelevant. I disagree with #6 also -- anything that smacks of boring or deprivation is a recipe for failure.
#2-4 are in the proper order as far as I'm concerned.
I also believe it's natural to get about 40% of your calories from fat. There's too many carbs in the formula you've given. for me the key in #5 is to adopt principles of eating, not trying to count calories or macronutrient proportions. Eat real foods (in the US, that means shopping the perimeter of a supermarket and avoiding most of the interior), lose your fear of dietary fat, and avoid added sugars, esp. HFCS. Those three steps alone I think would do enough for most people to put them at a weight they can reasonably expect. With no added exercise (I know, that's heretical too).
Right now I'm in the midst of a self-debate over artificial sweeteners. I literally grew up with aspartame (Diet Coke is the family drink, as ridiculous as it sounds), and rely on it and sucralose more than I'd like. I'm not convinced of the scare-stuff (eg. aspartame causes everything), but I'm coming to conclude that anything that throws off your body's ability to judge calories by taste is bad for you. That said, I really like ON whey, low-sugar yogurt, and i'm still mildly addicted to diet sodas.
Oh -- and the photo attached to your article is hot
Anyone would lose fat with the 7 tips in the article, you'll agree. On number 6: I've been doing that for at least 5 years. Every day the same meal, weekends something different. You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
fixed. Thanks a lot spesmilitisspesmilitis said:
i don't disagree that it will work, i'm just concerned always concerned about sustainability (i know a lot of yo-yo dieters, among other things, though thankfully i'm not one of them!)stronglifts said:We all have our methods
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.