I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
though perhaps unrealistic esp. for most gals.Throttle said:as someone who's lost a lot of bodyfat, kept if off, and is in the process of getting rid of the last of it, I would re-arrange the numbers and consider dropping a few. I believe that #5 is absolutely critical (though I disagree with the distribution of macronutrients), and #1 may be irrelevant. I disagree with #6 also -- anything that smacks of boring or deprivation is a recipe for failure.
#2-4 are in the proper order as far as I'm concerned.
I also believe it's natural to get about 40% of your calories from fat. There's too many carbs in the formula you've given. for me the key in #5 is to adopt principles of eating, not trying to count calories or macronutrient proportions. Eat real foods (in the US, that means shopping the perimeter of a supermarket and avoiding most of the interior), lose your fear of dietary fat, and avoid added sugars, esp. HFCS. Those three steps alone I think would do enough for most people to put them at a weight they can reasonably expect. With no added exercise (I know, that's heretical too).
Right now I'm in the midst of a self-debate over artificial sweeteners. I literally grew up with aspartame (Diet Coke is the family drink, as ridiculous as it sounds), and rely on it and sucralose more than I'd like. I'm not convinced of the scare-stuff (eg. aspartame causes everything), but I'm coming to conclude that anything that throws off your body's ability to judge calories by taste is bad for you. That said, I really like ON whey, low-sugar yogurt, and i'm still mildly addicted to diet sodas.
Oh -- and the photo attached to your article is hot
Anyone would lose fat with the 7 tips in the article, you'll agree. On number 6: I've been doing that for at least 5 years. Every day the same meal, weekends something different. Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
fixed. Thanks a lot spesmilitisspesmilitis said:
i don't disagree that it will work, i'm just concerned always concerned about sustainability (i know a lot of yo-yo dieters, among other things, though thankfully i'm not one of them!)stronglifts said:We all have our methods
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.