"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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6 Things that Make You Irresistable to Women!

ChrizZ

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Hi,

Don't make a problem where there is none.

Short and Simple:

Here are the six things that make you stand out and get you tons of choosing signals:

- Social Proof

- Body language

- Positive Energy (confidence)

- Being a good dancer

- Muscular body

- Clothes

It's not that hard fellas, you just need to know exactly what you have to work on.

The better you are at these things the more hot *****es will be attracted to you even before you open your mouth.

It's a done deal then.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ChrizZ said:
Hi,

Don't make a problem where there is none.

Short and Simple:

Here are the six things that make you stand out and get you tons of choosing signals:

- Social Proof - this is hard to do some people this site. Most people have no money, not many friends, not a great job, etc, etc.

- Body language - hard to do for people on here, comes with confidence

- Positive Energy (confidence) - hard to get without some aspirations and goals. Most people here think, its never happened, why try now?

- Being a good dancer - again hard.

- Muscular body - only easy one. although to supplicate for height is hard.

- Clothes - need money here and that is hard to get without a good job.

It's not that hard fellas, you just need to know exactly what you have to work on.

The better you are at these things the more hot *****es will be attracted to you even before you open your mouth.

It's a done deal then.
Your points are great but you are telling the wrong people on this site. Again, its like telling someone who can't pay rent:

- It's easy, just got a good paying job and save more than you spend, then you can always pay rent.
 

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Social Proof - this is hard to do some people this site. Most people have no money, not many friends, not a great job, etc, etc.
You don't need any of that. When you go to a club go and talk to strangers. That'll give you social proof. Nobody will know they are not your real friends.

Body language - hard to do for people on here, comes with confidence
no, it doesn't. If you are consciously aware of it you can change it.

Positive Energy (confidence) - hard to get without some aspirations and goals. Most people here think, its never happened, why try now?
Well, then those people need to fvcking find out their purpose in life and their goals. Quit being pu$$ies fellas.

- Being a good dancer - again hard.
Why is it hard??? Take dancing lessons...

- Muscular body - only easy one. although to supplicate for height is hard.
The shorter you are the more jacked you need to be.

need money here and that is hard to get without a good job.
Then get a fvcking job Christ Sake! Just buy only one outfit if you have to. Get a suit for a couple hundred dollars and you will turn heads in clubs.


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The reason why most people are here is to improve themselves and to get better with women.

With a self defeating attitude like yours you won't get far in life.
 

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Why is it hard??? Take dancing lessons...
I'm a dancer in a semi-pro performance troupe, so I guess I can say that I'm good. It is not easy to become a good dancer. I know plenty of people who are still crap after years and lots of money spent on lessons. Even for those with natural abilities (I'm fortunate to be one), it will take quite some time and lots of work to get decent. However, it's not too hard to be competent enough in social dancing so you can socialise and build rapport with people.

You gotta realise that yes the simple advices work best, but they are the hardest to implement. People love giving them though because it doesn't take much thinking to point out the obvious (that's why the most popular dating/relationship advice is "be yourself"). What you've pointed out are mere end results. Everyone knows those. What's hard is how you get there, and once you've got there, how you maintain it.
 

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Jitterbug said:
You gotta realise that yes the simple advices work best, but they are the hardest to implement. People love giving them though because it doesn't take much thinking to point out the obvious (that's why the most popular dating/relationship advice is "be yourself"). What you've pointed out are mere end results. Everyone knows those. What's hard is how you get there, and once you've got there, how you maintain it.

Amen brother.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jitterbug said:
I'm a dancer in a semi-pro performance troupe, so I guess I can say that I'm good. It is not easy to become a good dancer. I know plenty of people who are still crap after years and lots of money spent on lessons. Even for those with natural abilities (I'm fortunate to be one), it will take quite some time and lots of work to get decent. However, it's not too hard to be competent enough in social dancing so you can socialise and build rapport with people.

You gotta realise that yes the simple advices work best, but they are the hardest to implement. People love giving them though because it doesn't take much thinking to point out the obvious (that's why the most popular dating/relationship advice is "be yourself"). What you've pointed out are mere end results. Everyone knows those. What's hard is how you get there, and once you've got there, how you maintain it.
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses...


IT IS ALL COMMON SENSE, BUT HOW MANY PEOPLE ON HERE ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT EXCEPT FOR WHINING, WHINING, WHINING???


That's why most losers stay losers.
 

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That's like saying I want to be rich and sitting on the couch all day watching TV and then whining "WHY AM I NOT RICH???"
 

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Good body language= walking upright (that's just one thing, but watch Tiger Woods walk)
 

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ChrizZ said:
That's like saying I want to be rich and sitting on the couch all day watching TV and then whining "WHY AM I NOT RICH???"
Not really. I think most people here do understand that life doesn't work by instant-gratification.

I do think it was unnecessary for DonJuan11 to flame your post....Because of course you were absolutely right there. I dunno about others but I liked your post. :up:

SoSuave really does a good job at supplying the Means and the Methods to become successful in life and with the ladies (Heres what you need to attract and build interest, and heres how you do it...).

What it does lack however is the ability to help those who lack a way to put those methods to use. Its easy to reply, when someone asks you "How can I afford this nice suit to attract the ladies' attention?" "Get a well-paying job." I'm pretty sure one asking that probably knows that response is the answer before even asking the question. Life isn't always as easy as that though.

I'm pretty sure if half the people here cloned themselves, their clones could probably be able to spout out a generic response to any question posed by themselves. (If that makes any sense lol)

But my post was just food for thought....goes along with what Jitterbug said.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Six things:
1.) Six pack muscles/looks
2.) being the mascot (instant social proof)
3.) Vice-President of two clubs and in two other clubs on campus
4.) Life Experiences
5.) Dreams and ambitions
6.) Work with multiple not-for-profit organizations

ChrisZ good post and your reply to DonJuan11 was spot on. As to excuses that people make, you are constantly using up your time complaining and making excuses instead of using that same time trying to change and evolve.

comic_relief
 

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ChrizZ said:
The better you are at these things the more hot *****es will be attracted to you even before you open your mouth. It's a done deal then.
Um...not exactly :rolleyes:

I have seen way to many cases of guys having the qualities you list, only to blow it with the wrong words. It's not a done deal by any means.
 

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Dongfu said:
Um...not exactly :rolleyes:

I have seen way to many cases of guys having the qualities you list, only to blow it with the wrong words. It's not a done deal by any means.
That's why I the better you master the qualities I listed, the less you have to talk.

When she is interested in you, it's your job NOT TO MESS IT UP!
 

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ChrizZ said:
That's why I the better you master the qualities I listed, the less you have to talk.

When she is interested in you, it's your job NOT TO MESS IT UP!
I'll agree with that.
 

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comic_relief said:
Six things:
1.) Six pack muscles/looks
2.) being the mascot (instant social proof)
3.) Vice-President of two clubs and in two other clubs on campus
4.) Life Experiences
5.) Dreams and ambitions
6.) Work with multiple not-for-profit organizations

ChrisZ good post and your reply to DonJuan11 was spot on. As to excuses that people make, you are constantly using up your time complaining and making excuses instead of using that same time trying to change and evolve.

comic_relief
You guys are correct, most of us (including me) are lazy.

Six ways to get rich:
1) Get a well paying job
2) Spend less than you earn
3) Pay down credit cards
4) Don't buy big ticket items
5) Watch every penny

I do those and I'm rich beyond my wildest dreams, and so can everyone on here too. There is no excuse for everyone not to be rich and if you are not, you only have yourself to blame.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonJuan11 said:
You guys are correct, most of us (including me) are lazy.

Six ways to get rich:
1) Get a well paying job
2) Spend less than you earn
3) Pay down credit cards
4) Don't buy big ticket items
5) Watch every penny

I do those and I'm rich beyond my wildest dreams, and so can everyone on here too. There is no excuse for everyone not to be rich and if you are not, you only have yourself to blame.
you can't get rich by working a job.

If your lazy a$$ did some research you would know more.
 

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ChrizZ said:
you can't get rich by working a job.

If your lazy a$$ did some research you would know more.
You can if you follow the other 5 steps and don't give excuses. It's a process.
 

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It's all about establishing the metaframe and maintaining control over it in the interaction with the woman. You don't have to DO anything. You don't have to dance. All you have to do is talk, and keep that frame.
 

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comic_relief said:
Six things:
1.) Six pack muscles/looks
2.) being the mascot (instant social proof)
3.) Vice-President of two clubs and in two other clubs on campus
4.) Life Experiences
5.) Dreams and ambitions
6.) Work with multiple not-for-profit organizations
When it all comes down to the NUMBER 1 thing is..CONFIDENCE!
1) you can be muscular yet not have the ballz to approach/not have the calibration to make what you say sound good, what you say matters most. Looking like a young Arnold is not going to make girls ask you out.
2) social proof = confidence, you don't need to know people just start talking to people and there you go, social proof
3) but if you're a puss and can't approach women it only makes you a nerd
4) you can make these up (dhv stories)
5) see above
6) see above
 

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I would also add a 7th item to the list.

7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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