"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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6 Red Flags Worth Considering

self_is_an_illusion

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From my experiences and observations, here are some red flags that really stand out:

Continued Close Contact with Exes: When someone can’t seem to cut the cord with their exes, it often screams boundary issues or an inability to let go of the past. Sure, it’s fine to be friendly with an ex, but if your new partner is overly involved with theirs, you’re likely heading for a world of unnecessary drama and trust headaches.

Sleeps with a Lot of People: A track record of jumping from bed to bed can be a glaring warning sign of mismatched relationship goals. If they’re known for their extensive romantic escapades, brace yourself for potential conflicts over monogamy, commitment, and even sexual health.

Sexual Abuse Victim: Dealing with a partner who’s a sexual abuse survivor is no walk in the park. They come with a suitcase full of intense emotional issues. It takes a ton of support and understanding to handle this, and not everyone’s cut out for it.

Anxiety Disorder: Entering a relationship with someone who has an anxiety disorder can be like walking on eggshells. Their constant worry and stress can be draining, not just for them but for you as well. It’s a condition that requires patience and understanding, and let’s be honest, it can be a real test of your own mental and emotional stability.

Grew Up Without a Dad: Lacking a father figure often leaves behind some deep emotional scars. These individuals might grapple with trust issues or a fear of being left alone, adding extra layers of complexity to a relationship.

Past Pregnancies: Having been pregnant before, especially if they’re still tied up in co-parenting, opens up a whole can of worms in terms of extra responsibilities and emotional baggage. It’s a situation that demands a lot more than the usual relationship readiness.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Scars

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You're lucky to find a girl with only 2/5 these days.
 
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