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5 Ways To Boost Your Confidence
Not feeling comfortable in your own skin?
With all of the various social, moral and romantic quagmires in today's society, it's easy to lose confidence in your own abilities. We've all been told for years that the only thing a man really needs is the confidence to do whatever he wants, and like so many of the things we consider to be cliché, it is actually true. But how does one attain this magical feeling of power? How is one to quell the rebellious mental demons that seek to destroy the tender ego? Well dear readers, I, the swami of self-assurance, will reveal to you the broad strokes of acquiring your own mojo.
Style
Your out ward(Why wont it let me make it one word?) image is the only way you can convince people you don't know that you are worth something. This doesn't exclusively mean your clothes, though they are a small part. It's how you carry yourself that really matters. Work on your posture and smile more; train your voice until you can be heard over a train. The only thing that matters is your attitude, so if you're even a moderately good actor, you can convince almost anyone that you're worth the effort. Maybe you can even convince yourself.
Conversation
The most common problem with conversation isn't the boring topics that most people view as trivial; it's not having the charisma to carry those topics out into something unique. You can talk about the weather and be fascinating, you can extol on the virtues of Snapple cap fun facts and capture the rapt attention of everyone around you. The wonderful thing about conversation is, the more you try at it, the easier it is to figure out. And the more you figure out, the more of it you will do.
If you're someone who has a real problem interacting with strangers, then a good way to gain some social grace is to just start talking. Start slow and simple; a hello to the fellow bagging your groceries, or a good morning to the bus driver. Baby steps, folks.
Become Fearless
This one may sound like non-advice, but I'm not advocating confidence as a cure for a lack of confidence. If it was that easy I would have stopped there. What this means is that you need to identify all of your irrational fears such as: fear of rejection and fear of awkward pauses. These might make you uncomfortable, they might give you some butterflies, but the only way to gain confidence is to fight against your ridiculous fears and realize that they don't matter. Even if you do fail, even if you stammer out something without getting a favorable response, remember, it doesn't matter. The consequences of such a thing are so minimal that they have no effect on you. There is nothing to fear.
Exercise
I know, this might be more than you bargained for, and how dare I mention a step that requires actual work? But this is one of the most important ways of gaining confidence in yourself and in your abilities. Something as simple as lifting weights or running on a treadmill can do wonders for you. The crazy thing is, it's not because you get in better shape, though that is a nice side effect. The point of this is to give yourself goals that you can attain. Try to run farther, swim more laps or add more weight to your routine. The ability to set goals and actually reach them is an incredible boost to anyone's ego. Your improvement is the best thing you can do for yourself. This leads me to the next item on our agenda.
Success
The fact is that success is an addictive and evolving process. Every new victory gives you fuel to power you through the next hurdle. It doesn't have to be anything major. You don't have to be a captain of industry. Start with something simple; learn how to shoot a bow, take an improv class or become the world thumb-wrestling champion. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's important to you, it will help in your everyday interactions with the rest of the world.
_______________________
you, but better
So there you have it. You might have noticed that at no time did the words, "be yourself," appear in this article. This is because it doesn't really work. Being yourself is a right you have to earn and can abuse once you've tricked someone into being friends with you. Your job for the first few months is to make yourself as interesting and wonderful as possible.
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Not feeling comfortable in your own skin?
With all of the various social, moral and romantic quagmires in today's society, it's easy to lose confidence in your own abilities. We've all been told for years that the only thing a man really needs is the confidence to do whatever he wants, and like so many of the things we consider to be cliché, it is actually true. But how does one attain this magical feeling of power? How is one to quell the rebellious mental demons that seek to destroy the tender ego? Well dear readers, I, the swami of self-assurance, will reveal to you the broad strokes of acquiring your own mojo.
Style
Your out ward(Why wont it let me make it one word?) image is the only way you can convince people you don't know that you are worth something. This doesn't exclusively mean your clothes, though they are a small part. It's how you carry yourself that really matters. Work on your posture and smile more; train your voice until you can be heard over a train. The only thing that matters is your attitude, so if you're even a moderately good actor, you can convince almost anyone that you're worth the effort. Maybe you can even convince yourself.
Conversation
The most common problem with conversation isn't the boring topics that most people view as trivial; it's not having the charisma to carry those topics out into something unique. You can talk about the weather and be fascinating, you can extol on the virtues of Snapple cap fun facts and capture the rapt attention of everyone around you. The wonderful thing about conversation is, the more you try at it, the easier it is to figure out. And the more you figure out, the more of it you will do.
If you're someone who has a real problem interacting with strangers, then a good way to gain some social grace is to just start talking. Start slow and simple; a hello to the fellow bagging your groceries, or a good morning to the bus driver. Baby steps, folks.
Become Fearless
This one may sound like non-advice, but I'm not advocating confidence as a cure for a lack of confidence. If it was that easy I would have stopped there. What this means is that you need to identify all of your irrational fears such as: fear of rejection and fear of awkward pauses. These might make you uncomfortable, they might give you some butterflies, but the only way to gain confidence is to fight against your ridiculous fears and realize that they don't matter. Even if you do fail, even if you stammer out something without getting a favorable response, remember, it doesn't matter. The consequences of such a thing are so minimal that they have no effect on you. There is nothing to fear.
Exercise
I know, this might be more than you bargained for, and how dare I mention a step that requires actual work? But this is one of the most important ways of gaining confidence in yourself and in your abilities. Something as simple as lifting weights or running on a treadmill can do wonders for you. The crazy thing is, it's not because you get in better shape, though that is a nice side effect. The point of this is to give yourself goals that you can attain. Try to run farther, swim more laps or add more weight to your routine. The ability to set goals and actually reach them is an incredible boost to anyone's ego. Your improvement is the best thing you can do for yourself. This leads me to the next item on our agenda.
Success
The fact is that success is an addictive and evolving process. Every new victory gives you fuel to power you through the next hurdle. It doesn't have to be anything major. You don't have to be a captain of industry. Start with something simple; learn how to shoot a bow, take an improv class or become the world thumb-wrestling champion. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's important to you, it will help in your everyday interactions with the rest of the world.
_______________________
you, but better
So there you have it. You might have noticed that at no time did the words, "be yourself," appear in this article. This is because it doesn't really work. Being yourself is a right you have to earn and can abuse once you've tricked someone into being friends with you. Your job for the first few months is to make yourself as interesting and wonderful as possible.
http://lifestyle.sympatico.msn.ca/5+Ways+To+Boost+Your+Confidence/Relationships/NEWContentPosting_TheSoko.aspx?isfa=1&newsitemid=t hesoko-1560&feedname=THESOKO_V2&show=True&number=5&showby line=True&subtitle=&detect=&abc=abc&date=False
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