5 Reasons why nice guys finish LAST

[lYlasTer]

Hi. This was taken from my blog at www.beawomanizer.com, please visit it if you have a chance

“Nice Guys Finish last.” I’m sure you’ve heard this saying before, actually I think it could qualify as a modern proverb. So what does it seem like all the women sleep with the *******/jerk/player types and let the nice guys remain friends? Women are illogical creatures. I remember how confused I was back in the day when I was in “love” with one of my friends. She complained about how mean her boyfriend was to her, and there I was wondering to myself why she never considered dating me. Ah I wish I had a fairy godfather back then to tell me what I’m about to tell you.

There’s nothing wrong with being nice to women, it’s just that some guys just emit so much unattractive qualities to women that pushes them away.

1. They’re too emotional/clingy/insecure

I think this is the #1 attraction killer right here. Once a nice guy finds a girl he likes he’ll do anything to try and keep her. G Understand that the woman is suppose to be the one that’s emotionally attached to you, not the other way around. It’s also very important once she’s attracted to you that you give her some space. If you’re calling all the time how is going to miss you? Also understand that you should never communicate your interest verbally. Don’t tell her you like her, show her you like her.

2. Not physically aggressive enough

Women love sex almost as much as guys. The problem is that some guys are worried that the women will be “offended” if they make a physical move. We’re guys, we’re suppose to be the ones in control. Advancing towards her shows her that you’re a confident man that’s not afraid to get what they want.

You have to change your thinking and understand you should try and have sex with her BEFORE the relationship starts. Think about it, would you buy a car before you take it on a test drive?

3. Theymake women their #1 priority

Women should never be your first priority. The most important person in your world is you. I’ve seen guys waste precious time in the best years of their life chasing women, and in the end they end up with nothing but regrets. Nice guys should always focus on improving themselves by their own standards. Once they get into a habit of self-improvement, then they will naturally become more attractive and get more women.

4. They put women on pedestals

She’s a human just like you. She eats, sleeps, and picks her nose too. Men want to be with good looking women, if not then you’re either lying or you’re gay. But understand that looks is not everything. I would never put up with someone who disrespected me no matter how hot she was.

5. They’re too predictable

He asks her out on a date. He brings flowers. They go eat dinner then watch a movie. He waits until the end of the night to kiss her. He calls her every night.

It’s like the nice guy follows a script and she can predict your every move. Women are bored with their lives. They wake up, go to work/school, go home to watch TV, sleep, repeat. They want you to excite her and take her on an adventure with her emotions.

Don’t get me wrong, nice guys have plenty of great features. Just make sure you’re only showing the positive ones or else you’ll be hearing a lot of “Let’s just be friends.”

 

[comic_relief]

I agree with your post and think that it is very true. I just disagree with your post on one point.

Also understand that you should never communicate your interest verbally. Don’t tell her you like her, show her you like her.

I believe that while single or looking for a girl that it is very true. but if you are in a relationship, then I believe that if you do BOTH then you will be able to actually be the most attractive to that significant other.

comic_relief

 

[Zwitterion]

Hi. This was taken from my blog at 3. Theymake women their #1 prio... combined with self improvement really works.

 

[lYlasTer]

I agree with your post and think that it is very true. I just disagree with your post on one point.

I believe that while single or looking for a girl that it is very true. but if you are in a relationship, then I believe that if you do BOTH then you will be able to actually be the most attractive to that significant other.

comic_relief

Hi good point, the article was more meant for the guy that's still in the dating phase. Too many guys will flat our tell a girl he likes out and this will make them loser interest because women love a challenge.

As for the relationship part you're absolutely right. However, it's all about TIMING, just like compliments. It's rare for me to say I love you even in a relationship, but each time I say it she remembers. Not some predictable time like Valentine's day dinner or after sex. Rather when we're having a special moment together and I really do FEEL it, that's when I say it. The guys that tell the girls they love her after every conversation, I think it loses its effect.

 

[lYlasTer]

I'd just like to point out some ways self-improvement has helped me avoid this.

The other day I was noticing how at work I was begining to avoid confrontations and I was so disgusted with this realization I sought to change it. for the next few days I was focused on standing up for myself in public areas, with friends and family, and defending ideas I believed. This took up most of my focus on curing my fear of confrontation that I stopped focusing on "getting women" for a little while. I may not have cured it or even gotten the results I hoped for but I was attracting alot more women (and people in general) by just reshifting my focus to changing something I don't like about myself.

People overanalyze getting women TOO TOO much on this site and it's becoming a problem. Feeling combined with self improvement really works.

Good stuff. My advice for you is to sit down and write down things you want to change about yourself, how you can change, and set a reasonable time line. Ex. I wanted to walk more like a confident guy, so I decided to always walk with my chest somewhat sticking out, and consciously do this for a week. After a week, it became natural to me. It's much better than just saying "oh I wanna look more confident." Turn it into a goal and you'll achieve it faster.

 

[noirsake]

You have to change your thinking and understand you should try and have sex with her BEFORE the relationship starts. Think about it, would you buy a car before you take it on a test drive?

nice!

 

[speakeasy]

I agree with your post and think that it is very true. I just disagree with your post on one point.

I believe that while single or looking for a girl that it is very true. but if you are in a relationship, then I believe that if you do BOTH then you will be able to actually be the most attractive to that significant other.

comic_relief

I agree, if you ever want the type of relationship that leads to marriage, you need to drop some aspects of the game like being a challenge and mysterious, and learn to be more expressive and forthright. But that's further down the line of course. That's why a lot of these gurus are great at finding women to screw, but aren't the type of guys that could ever have a healthy long term relationship.

 

[comic_relief]

I agree, if you ever want the type of relationship that leads to marriage, you need to drop some aspects of the game like being a challenge and mysterious, and learn to be more expressive and forthright. But that's further down the line of course. That's why a lot of these gurus are great at finding women to screw, but aren't the type of guys that could ever have a healthy long term relationship.

you can never drop being a challenge from the relationship or sometimes being mysterious in my opinion. Why?

If you drop both of them, than it will lead to predicability (not stability, but predictability).

Some ways to keep being mysterious and a challenge.

Mysterious - Getting a gift for her (b-day) and leaving the gift out in the middle of the open area for a while just to let her see it and wonder. Personally, I have it out in the open right now. or going out with your friends for a couple of hours longer than planned, while she is wondering where you are at (I suggest that you call her though and tell her where you are unless at a strip club or porn shop).

Challenge - Saying, "I don't think that I want to have sex right now, you better be able to give me some good reasons." or "I am not in the mood right now." (meaning try harder) or moving away from a kiss or hug to make her come after you.

I say that everyone should always stay a challenge and a mystery to keep the relationship fresh and new.

On the other hand though, I believe that you MUST become more forward toward her and let her know that you actually care about her. It is all about balance in a relationship.

comic_relief

 

[tmpgstx]

I'd say the biggest reason nice guys fail with girls is by not making a girl feel sexy. Girls want to be around a guys that invokes emotion. Nice guys aren't triggering those deep emotional buttons in women.

This is why hot and cold works so well with women. The art of confusion gets the emotionally attached in some way. They start thinking about you alot, wonder if you like them, how you would be as a boyfriend (or even husband) etc.

I like the term 'Emotional G-spot' (thanks Fingers) in referring to a woman's emotional psyche.

Girls have sex for emotional reasons. When they feel you understand them (and no one else does as much as you), they become attached and share alot with you. The nice guy does this quite well, but fails to get it sexual at the right times.

 

[lYlasTer]

Interesting how you mentioned the part about sexy. I was watching Juggler's seduction school and one of the main keys he talks about is telling a girl she's sexy, rather than "cute" or "hot." It lets them know how you view them, and makes you different.

 

[tmpgstx]

I think it is really how you say it too. Use voice inflection when telling her she is sexy. Drag out the word like Seexxxxyyy.

What really got a good response for me was "You are just too dam sexy, gonna have to tone it down a bit".

For added effect, give her elevator eyes while doing this (look her up and down). Shake your head a little and have sly smile.

Then ... take off. Watch her magically appear around you later. She wants more of that charm.