mahon83050 said:
I know it is not as "taboo" as it once was, but I tried this a few years ago and DID NOT LIKE IT!! I think online dating is bad for these main reasons.
1.) It is a copout for most men. Any schmuck with no confidence and balls can hide behind a computer and e-mail hotties from his room. These are passive approaches (which hurt confidence) and many men will fail to approach women in public because they have become too complacent in "approaching" women online.
2.) You can like a girls pics and vice versa and have a great repoire online and even on the phone. However, there is still a good chance either of you will be dissapointed once you meet in person. By dissapointed I mean by the persons looks or personality.
**If you go out on a first date with someone you met in person prior to the date, you avoid this altogether and it is less nervewracking**
3.) If a girl is attractive (a 7 or higher) and is on an online dating site, she is getting dozens of e-mails a day. When you e-mail her on one of those sites, you don't stand out and are like "every other guy".
4.) The COST!! Why spend $25.00 a month or almost $70.00 a month (E0-harmony) while there are attractive women everywhere (shopping malls, classes, bookstores etc.)
5.) Though not like it used to, It is still embarrasing to tell others you met online.
I’ll add to this list.
6: Online dating is a breeding ground for single mothers.
7: Online dating attracts the prissy princess Madonna types who are only there to see how many hits and emails they can get from men, they have no intention of ever meeting a guy in real life, its simply a great source of female wuss validation.
8: Fat women never put there TRUE weight on there profiles they always mask it with some thing to make them appear to be not such fat fuc*ers.
9: A large % of women on those sites (and men) will use old pictures where they have looked there best, but in reality there actually 5 years older then the pic and have acquired about 15 stone of fat, or are so old there eye wrinkles are touching there knees.
10: Perception (general norm) Doing online dating for a guy, your seen has some sad looser who can’t get women in the real world (subconscious design)
10a: If you’re a good looking guy with a decent profile you’re a player, but still a loser who cant get girls in the real world
10b: If you’re an ugly guy with a poor profile, your still living at home and wan*ing over Barbie, don’t worry though there are plenty of single mothers looking for mister sad chump provider guy, so you may get ‘lucky’!
11: Online dating is a ratio of about 50% AFC men who don’t have the balls to talk to women in the real world.
11a: The other 50% is taken up by:
15% are men that are players (who can’t get girls in the real world)
10% are men pretending to be girls with fake pictures of very attractive women (sometimes there sisters) to see how many AFC/Players they will get emails from.
25% are actually women, with which; 10% single mothers, 5% are old women posing as there daughters or have pics that are 5 years old, 5% are prissy Madonna’s and the other 5% are women, who just want to know what the fuss is about and get putt off off online dating when they realize how many chumps are on there, including girls.
The above was not ment to be satirical, it was intended to be the real truth.
On a final note, the 5% of women who just happen to see what the fuss was about, 3% of them are competing for the same guys, not for the sake of pulling the men, no this is simply due to ‘popularity’ the more women he has, the more the other girls will want to get ‘one up’ on the other women, by thinking; ‘he choose me, dam I must be hot’!
This to me is online dating in a nutshell.
simple conclusion: A breeding ground for female validation.
Oh there is one last edit.
There is a secret 2% of people both male and female that have the idea online dating is what is says on the box!
and about .5% where some women would simpy fuc* anything as long as your in the closest vicinity.
How to spot online validation:
1. You get emailed from half way across the world (she wants another smuck to add to her chump emailing list, or she wants you to drive 60+ miles for her (validation validation validation).
2. She wants you to MSN (spend x amount of hours talking to me with all the other guys (there is a chance of hook up, but the time invested is a waste imo), validation validation e.t.c)
Sometimes when i did it though you will come accross some girls who just happened to be in the web, so sometimes it can be worth it, but has a general norm, online dating is a breeding ground for AFC men and AFC women looking for validation.
anyway sticky my reponse we all know its true
The above is what i believe to be the what 95% of people believe about online dating, some in parts some in the whole.
the concept of the 'player' who cant get girls.
A true player wont have time to waste browsing through emails of chicks on an online dating site, in fact when all is said and done, hes nothing but a prissy male madonna, hoping for female validation in the terms of emails back from women:- based on looks, status or what ever trick or tactic he managed to weave into his emails or profile.
A true player will be out getting girls or dating so many women, to persue lesser women on online dating forums would not be in his agenda, this is imo the way i see it.
the quality of women on a online situation is vastly in question, granted some guys can make it work but i think the guys that can have a high tolerance for cra* and have a very high level of persistance, this is alien to a player, no player persists with one girl who is evidentially clearly got options in the form of supplicating chumps or other players competing this is back to the concept of 'she likes me i must be hot' female thinking!
Hence do online dating but be aware of all the fake people on there, be true to your ideals, standerd, cos rather frankly most of the others dont seem to be, but there is a small % that either:
Know the score and traverse the land mines.
or
really are nieve!
I know guys that are succesful at online but for every guy i know about 10 that are not.
Its no wonder the ratio of men to women is so top heavy.
Yes i tried it, I was populer shock horror, but the quality was far and few between, seems far too much like wasted persuits, but each to there own, some guys swear by it, me i dont think you can ever replace one to one interaction (face to face), personnally.
