5 months into relationship, turning AFC

[cky]

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Would you guys still game your 5-month long girlfriend, or do you think some aspects of an AFC are fine? I believe once you have her for a longer period, C+F and such things aren't ALWAYS necessary, there are moments for intimacy as well as for DJing.

 

[cky]

Turning AFC? Bullshyt you wuss.



I'll have to re-read your post but it almost sounds like you are a girl in a lesbian relationship. Does this "gf" of yours brush your hair and share tears with your over a latte? Does she order you on your hands and knees so she can put things in yous ass?

**** me. I'm sorry. I just can't get over all the absolutely bullshyt AFC no balls behavoir that is being posted lately. Where did all the men go? We are left with these weak emo's who get their hair styled and wear a make up.

Look at the posters lately; basically they chop off their balls and hand them to their women and then run crying to this forum after their "gf" ass rapes them like the emo bytches that they are.

You claim you "want to be the man in the relationship." LOLOLOLOLOLOL You have to have a set of balls to be a man you weakling.

And then some of you stupid mother ****ers after you come crying here for advice and are given it, go and symp out again the same ****ing day, and then later that night you post again about how you should have listened because now even her friends are laughing at you the pathetic beta emo. Like that stupid idiot yesterday who asked how to handle a flake. He was told exactly what not to do and you know what the symp does an hour later? He goes and dances like a retarded monkey and then says what an idiot he was and how he should of listened. Then the ****er says "oh well, live and learn." bull**** that's the ****ing problem, some of you idiots don't learn; hell, you don't want to learn. You are just happy running around like faggots bytching on a forum about life isn't fair, while secretly you love the dysfunction of being treated like a bytch by women. You weak ****s.

I'd seriously recommend some of you get thrown in jail on purpose so you can have Brutus and the other well hung felons take turns putting curlers in your hair and putting lipstick on you while they rape you. Maybe then you would feel complete.

Where in the **** is your inner game? Your power? Your dominance? Your self ****ing control? Do you ****ers walk around with your shoulders rounded and your head down? This OP can't let his "gf" go because "she's my best friend?" Dumb ****, she's already let you go because you were weak.

Look again at what you wrote:



Do you have any strong male role models in your life? Could you imagine a dominant male becoming like "gay friends" with a hot woman they wanted to ****?

Watch parts 1 and 2 of this video and tell me if John Wayne would sell his testicles and act "gay" with a woman he had chosen to nail.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYEvd0TYdUA


OK, I'm done with the rant. The past two weeks has seen an influx of some of the sorriest excuses for so called "men."

Thanks for wasting 10 minuets of your life, and I left a wrong impression indeed. But as you're incapable of reading my text and getting some facts straight, I'm not even gonna bother myself with explaining them to you.

I don't need "to let my GF go" cause I have no reason for that. Disregard everything in the first post. I've gone through my previous posts from November etc, I'm fine and back on track.

There's a HUGE difference and transitions from going getting laid into a long-term relationship. Girls don't expect you to be a jerk all the time, after 9 months of dating. If saying "I love you" to my girlfriend is not being MAN enough for you, then I'm sorry, keep watching movies featuring Chuck Norris and Bruce Lee.

For the record, I've an army haircut and don't you dare question me just cause you've been around longer. If you read through my older posts, you just MIGHT see the difference. Can't guarantee it in your case though.

You're barking up the wrong tree, DISREGARD MY ENTIRE FIRST POST. And however stupid and prejudice your post was, can't say it didn't re-inspire me. Sasd

 

[mothballs]

It's always hard to give an 18 year old advice... understand that I know people can fall in love at that age... but it sounds like you still have a lot of infatuation mixed in there. When I was 18, I was in a very similar relationship. She was my best friend before the "relationship", there was very minimal PDA, a lot of talking on the phone... like a couple hours a day, and we saw each other in school all day. The relationship lasted about 8 months all told and it screwed me up pretty bad afterwards. Looking back, I was just a horny teenager with a **** buddy... she cared a lot about me, but just wasn't as into me as I was into her.

So, that said... just don't get caught up too much on her. Things change, this relationship will probably end, and you should just try to have the most fun with it. Just know... you don't need to makeout in public to show your affection, most girls don't like to be a spectacle like that. If you want her to gush to her friends... bring her some flowers now and then (to her home), open doors for her... take her stargazing... whatever you can stand. If she still doesn't respond, with increased romance, it's probably best to not push it and just get what you can out of the relationship until it reaches it's conclusion.

 

[cky]

Alright, to rephrase the entire question and topic: Would you guys game your long-term girlfriend or would you think certain aspects of AFC'ness are ok?

I'm pretty sure once you get to know someone, it's completely ok to display SOME characteristics of an AFC whilst of course still having the mindset of a DJ, but not in the sense of picking up girls constantly.

To mothballs: I actually don't think describing one's relationship status and the personality of their significant other is possible. Just for the record, in reality, we're doing very good, there are no big problems after 5 months, we're both happy and by PDA, I don't mean making out in public.

I'm convinced she cares for me as do I. And for her, as well.

Thanks anyway.

 

[mothballs]

Hmm... well, what constitutes being AFC has a lot to do with what stage you're in... for instance, in the beginning you don't want to be too available, but in an LTR you don't want to be too distant.

IMO, the art of being a DJ completely transcends picking up girls... it's more of a way of wowing women in all aspects of life... your mother should (truly) think you're a great catch, your sister should talk you up to other people... your wife should make her co-workers jealous. If you're in an LTR, as a DJ your goal should be to make her completely head over heals for you. Once you're in an LTR, there are other tactics you need to develope... you do want her to feel that she's a part of your life, that her opinion matters, but you are still your own self. It's really hard to describe, it's just something you will learn over time... it might take a couple different serious relationships until you get a grasp, but as long as you pay attention and evaluate your failures and successes logically, you'll get it. In the end, it's still all boils down to not getting walked on, and maintaining your dignity.

 

[Daniel1099]

your mother should (truly) think you're a great catch, your sister should talk you up to other people... your wife should make her co-workers jealous. If you're in an LTR, as a DJ your goal should be to make her completely head over heals for you.

to me this forum comes off as a "self help" forum

Be the best person you can possibly be...and once you have that down...everything will fall into place.

like...
Women, making money, friends, etc.


the most basic advice one should give to someone is this.

Get your own life in order before you try and come into someone elses...

If you have a job, an awesome social circle, some hobbies you really have a passion for, etc etc.

Then gaming women will be SOOO easy....it will come naturally because you already have things to talk about. I honestly dont think women care about all this dumb sh!t like "negging", waiting to call her, etc. etc.

being Alpha is self explanatory...no one needs to know what it means,

from the time you were a toddler you could tell who was alpha in the room. so your obviously going to strive to be like that...

just be who you are in the relationship.

If you want to tell her YOU love her, and you want to get more emotional with her. then so be it.

whos stopping you?? If she doesnt like it, then she is NOT the right women for you.

Do what YOU want...not because you want to keep her...theirs no point in acting

 

[cky]

I used to have a lot better inner game than now. I haven't visited the forums nor the site for a few months and I'm losing my faith in myself along with the confidence.

Gotta restart that!

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

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Would you guys still game your 5-month long girlfriend, or do you think some aspects of an AFC are fine? I believe once you have her for a longer period, C+F and such things aren't ALWAYS necessary, there are moments for intimacy as well as for DJing.

It's easy to get lazy. I think we all unconsciously take breaks now and then. But remember you are always going to want to know what to do when you find a girl you want to be with.

 

[Kal0051]

ok, these types of threads annoy me a bit. You've been dating this girl for 5 months so I think your done the whole "gaming" phase. Just be the best you that you can be, live your life the way you want to and you'll always have women in it (be it this girl or so other one). That's really all the advice I can give you.

 

[Tazman]

If you make women the most important focus of your life, you won't truly be "living". They aren't the answer to your happiness, but they can serve to "compliment" you.

The day that your woman is convinced that she is your only option is the day she starts losing interest. Don't let that happen.

 

[Scars]

I know it's not what you want to hear but DonS hit it dead on. You can't get lazy. Stay dominate and in control. Don't turn into an AFC or show AFC qualities. We all get lazy, a few months with a girl we start to get "comfortable" and let our guards down. Next thing you know you're back here brokenhearted wondering, WTF HAPPENED?! Being a DJ isn't a part-time job. Unless you want to lose her, avoid being AFC.

 

[ready123]

I don't think it amounts to getting comfortable and turning AFC. It amounts to your real self coming out. So if you've been faking it the whole time, and are actually an AFC trying to hide behind techniques and a pimp ego, that sht comes out when you're well into a relationship.

And from a logistical standpoint, no, you don't "run" C&F and other attraction techniques when you're well into a relationship. Most of the tricks on this board are to get attraction. If she's been with you for 5 months, she's already been attracted to you for 5 months. You can do that attraction sht for fun (I roleplay with my girl all the time), but it's not the lifeline that'll keep her with you. This is one thing this board really fvcks up on - thinking you can take the same techniques you used to get the girl and extend them indefinately to keep her in a relationship. With a relationship, you should be focusing on depth and connection. You should be worrying about getting to know the girl, not having the wittier comeback to keep your value up. There are a ton of dudes out there who can also do C&F and all that flirting sht as well as you do. What would be keeping her with you? Connection, among other things

That being said, I used to think this board was the worst place to get info on LTR's. Now I think the seduction community in general sucks at giving LTR advice because I honestly think nobody really knows. The few PUA's who ended up in LTR's are now off the radar and the PUA's who are trying to write books about LTR's (IE TD) have only been in them for a couple years, which personally I don't think is long enough to be able to determine firsthand how to keep your girl (AND YOURSELF) from taking each other for granted.

 

[Captain]

Would you guys still game your 5-month long girlfriend, or do you think some aspects of an AFC are fine? I believe once you have her for a longer period, C+F and such things aren't ALWAYS necessary, there are moments for intimacy as well as for DJing.

Many relationships fall apart because the man let his game slide. Don't do it.

There are current threads on this very forum about guys who have screwed up like that. The sad part is that the men (men?) don't often realise they have turned into a chump, even when they post in detail about how their woman is distant.

 

[cky]

I've let my inner game slide, I too used to use this forum for self-help, it has always been more about improving myself than using fake walls and shields for posing and showing myself off as something I'm not.

I guess the biggest difficulty is about the LTR, just not used to it, the entire point of view to women and life sort of just changed.

Thanks guys.