Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
coolguy676767 said:Did you even think about this before you posted, I mean seriously, I mean even if you had absolutely no knowledge of weightlifting what-so-ever you should still know that this is so far from impossible its not even funny.
I mean lets do some simple math, lets take the low end of his number, 5-10 pounds, well take 5, no instead lets take 4 pounds in 2 weeks.
Hmm over the course of a year 4 pounds every 2 weeks would be 104 pounds of mucle a year. Thats funny, cause that means that if I followed whatever routine someone was going to give you, that I could be bigger than Ronnie Coleman, and win Mr. Olympia with ease.
Hell even 1 pound a week with beginner's gains is unfreaking believeable.
Why dont you go back and evaluate your motives, if you plan to lift until you reach your goal and then stop or slack off, then weightlifting and/or bodybuilding is not for you. Its a lifestyle, no matter how small or extreme your goals are its still a lifestyle.
I just can't stand when people come here and want a quick fix to something, and expect this stuff to be easy and then they quit after 2 weeks cause they dont have the determination or the motivation to keep it going.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.