"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sir_Chancealot

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Ran a pattern today on a chick that I have known about 2 months. I ran the "friends to lovers" pattern. She stopped me a little way into it, and said "I am exclusive with someone. Blah, blah, blah".

I said "Borefriend? You have a borefriend? Tell me, does he touch you in all those deep places you long to be touched, or does he only say 'I love you' when you're bored with him?" She replied "I haven't let him do that yet". I rolled my eyes and said "I didn't mean THAT!", then I started laughing.
Then she said "Why didn't you ask me 6 weeks ago?!" (Always a good sign!
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Anyway, this pattern was a bust (at least for now). I don't have any boyfriend destroyer patterns memorized yet, so I couldn't run any. I see this chick fairly regularly, so I will bone up, so that I can bone up! HAHAHHAAA!

If she breaks up with her borefriend, I think she'll come looking for me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I need "friends to lovers" pattern...cOULD someone post it?
 
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