"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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48 Laws of Power

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Darth said:
I agree that the 48 laws are interesting, but Carnegie's book is a lot more practical in the real world...
Which one..... "How to win friends and influence people"?

Yeah I agree, I recommend folks read this book. They're a bit apples and oranges though. I'd prefer to say both are very helpful. I haven't read 48 laws yet, but I plan on it. Of course i read the synopsis that was linked earlier in the thread.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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On an off-topic note, how do you pronounce Carnegie's last name? I thought it was with emphasis on the first syllable, like Andrew Carnegie, Carnegie Halll, library, etc. But I had a boss who pronounced it 'car-NAY-gie,' emphasizing the second syllable.
 
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Bible_Belt said:
On an off-topic note, how do you pronounce Carnegie's last name? I thought it was with emphasis on the first syllable, like Andrew Carnegie, Carnegie Halll, library, etc. But I had a boss who pronounced it 'car-NAY-gie,' emphasizing the second syllable.
It's Car Nuh Gee.
 

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Not that this is any real news to anyone on this board:
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/worklife/03/15/48.laws.of.power/index.html?hpt=C1


However, I did thoroughly enjoy reading the (predictable) comments from the general populace. 90% of which are shining examples of the 49th Law - Always discourage others from educating themselves about power. Vilify it or disqualify it, but never reveal the benefits of powers influence. Marginalizing the influence of power is itself an exercise of power.
 

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I enjoy 33 strategies of war more.

It would be cool to have a usable set of rules for the workplace/social contact, we already have stuff like:

don't answer the call if you want to be mysterious (which is really if you just want to have a little edge)

or whoever cares least in the relationship, usually is the one in command


or, always be willing to walk away.


we need more defined ones. like how do I get someone to call me when I am the underdog - how do I go up to someone I want something from and make it look like we are both winning from trading that something.

Francis Bacon had an amazing part in his essays about appealing to a certain trait in certain people, with some you had to talk to the master, or sense of worth, or greed, etc.. brilliant guy
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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