Hello friends, my observations regarding the social circle and people around me have led me to obtain various conclusions.
I hope the world isn't black and white, but this is what my eyes see and feel on my skin every day:
1) Women are looking for a rich man, financially stable or with a job that is considered "status":
The LTR monogamous couples, who last longer, who have children, a house with a swimming pool, other rental properties, work on their company/business, in short, where the two people continue their life together, are precisely those in which the woman has chosen a man described above, and do not break up even if they are treated badly, abused, etc.
The woman works part time and takes care of the house and children. Also the social agenda.
The man limits himself to working 90% of his time. He's a money machine and in return he gets sex (pure desire?), a clean house, ready meals, clean clothes, companionship and intimacy, a tidy social agenda, a "nice" woman in the circle, and a sl0t in bed.
This does not mean that their relationships are not toxic and that their children grow up well.
1a) Further observation: Women who are treated badly, or have a husband they are afraid of, are unlikely to cheat. The others who are with men who treath them fine, have already cheated.
This does not conclude that women have more respect nor desire for husbands who treat them badly.
1b) Further observation: Husbands may cheat and wives may "turn a blind eye".
This does not mean that relationships are healthy where the man cheats, or that a man who cheats is more valuable.
2) Women who are not looking for a rich man, because they are already rich, financially stable, are looking for a doormat they can use/control:
Usually these women may or may not have a secret life, but they are rich so they are looking for a father substitute, important that they can trust him.
They would usually reject the guys who are confident, instead they go for the ugly and insecure man, so that they can control him, but he has aptitude and social skills, so that he can handle the hassles of their business. They will realize over time that with the work of "changing" him to make him better, this man could become arrogant, therefore no longer a doormat. At that point they will "fire" him and "hire" someone else to start the process from scratch.
These women usually cheat a lot with very handsome guys, and the husband may even "turn a blind eye".
This doesn't mean this is a healthy relationship.
3) Most of the above couples, who become financially independent, powerful, and have status in the city, stay together and now is the time to keep the grandchildren, otherwise they had no purpose in life other than to work.
With the grandchildren they have a second "reliving" of life. They are simply finding ways to while away their early retirement at 60.
4) Attractive bachelors who are not committed, or have invested large social circles of friends, but are lonely. However, they continue to suffer from the social programming and media brainwashing we all undergone.
In fact, some will be tempted to get their ex back, while others have managed to reprogram themselves and it wasn't easy, it cost them time.
They may live lowkey lives and work lower paying jobs, but are less stressed about maintaining status/validation.
Unlike the others, they didn't leave their solid group of friends to be in a long-term monogamous relationship.
Unlike others, they do not seek status, but rather economic stability through career.
It really seems like life is much simpler than expected and that there are key factors that determine relationships.
Some people, especially women, are programmed to repeat what they saw "happen" to their parents, only to later discover whether or not it was what they really wanted.
This means that many of our generation (between 25 and 35 today) discover at 35/40 that having children and getting married early wasn't really what they wanted.
So in the future, there will be many relationships and second marriages, the "second wave," which will see women and men with children choosing partners with completely different characteristics than those that were decisive before.
In fact, think about it: if a woman had chosen a man for his status/money, and he was an *******, now she'll choose him because he's attractive and kind.
Usually, those who are lucky find an excellent life partner in the second wave.
Although the luckiest ones will actually find it in the first wave.
I hope the world isn't black and white, but this is what my eyes see and feel on my skin every day:
1) Women are looking for a rich man, financially stable or with a job that is considered "status":
The LTR monogamous couples, who last longer, who have children, a house with a swimming pool, other rental properties, work on their company/business, in short, where the two people continue their life together, are precisely those in which the woman has chosen a man described above, and do not break up even if they are treated badly, abused, etc.
The woman works part time and takes care of the house and children. Also the social agenda.
The man limits himself to working 90% of his time. He's a money machine and in return he gets sex (pure desire?), a clean house, ready meals, clean clothes, companionship and intimacy, a tidy social agenda, a "nice" woman in the circle, and a sl0t in bed.
This does not mean that their relationships are not toxic and that their children grow up well.
1a) Further observation: Women who are treated badly, or have a husband they are afraid of, are unlikely to cheat. The others who are with men who treath them fine, have already cheated.
This does not conclude that women have more respect nor desire for husbands who treat them badly.
1b) Further observation: Husbands may cheat and wives may "turn a blind eye".
This does not mean that relationships are healthy where the man cheats, or that a man who cheats is more valuable.
2) Women who are not looking for a rich man, because they are already rich, financially stable, are looking for a doormat they can use/control:
Usually these women may or may not have a secret life, but they are rich so they are looking for a father substitute, important that they can trust him.
They would usually reject the guys who are confident, instead they go for the ugly and insecure man, so that they can control him, but he has aptitude and social skills, so that he can handle the hassles of their business. They will realize over time that with the work of "changing" him to make him better, this man could become arrogant, therefore no longer a doormat. At that point they will "fire" him and "hire" someone else to start the process from scratch.
These women usually cheat a lot with very handsome guys, and the husband may even "turn a blind eye".
This doesn't mean this is a healthy relationship.
3) Most of the above couples, who become financially independent, powerful, and have status in the city, stay together and now is the time to keep the grandchildren, otherwise they had no purpose in life other than to work.
With the grandchildren they have a second "reliving" of life. They are simply finding ways to while away their early retirement at 60.
4) Attractive bachelors who are not committed, or have invested large social circles of friends, but are lonely. However, they continue to suffer from the social programming and media brainwashing we all undergone.
In fact, some will be tempted to get their ex back, while others have managed to reprogram themselves and it wasn't easy, it cost them time.
They may live lowkey lives and work lower paying jobs, but are less stressed about maintaining status/validation.
Unlike the others, they didn't leave their solid group of friends to be in a long-term monogamous relationship.
Unlike others, they do not seek status, but rather economic stability through career.
It really seems like life is much simpler than expected and that there are key factors that determine relationships.
Some people, especially women, are programmed to repeat what they saw "happen" to their parents, only to later discover whether or not it was what they really wanted.
This means that many of our generation (between 25 and 35 today) discover at 35/40 that having children and getting married early wasn't really what they wanted.
So in the future, there will be many relationships and second marriages, the "second wave," which will see women and men with children choosing partners with completely different characteristics than those that were decisive before.
In fact, think about it: if a woman had chosen a man for his status/money, and he was an *******, now she'll choose him because he's attractive and kind.
Usually, those who are lucky find an excellent life partner in the second wave.
Although the luckiest ones will actually find it in the first wave.