Hey, I'm a long-time lurker, budding DJ. Read the Bible, been reading these boards for a couple of years. I "play" 'em only to the point where no one gets hurt. This is the first time I've needed actual help.
So I've been dating this girl -- "hanging out" we call it -- for about four months. No sex, everything but -- slow dancing, hour-long kisses, cooking each other dinner -- when we're together we're positively drunk with each other. I really thought I had this one going on. It's been a handful of date-caliber nights and a lot of coffee / lunch / long walks over the past few months.
It gets a little tricky because I'm in the midst of a career change and I've been traveling a lot for training but she knew that at the outset. Now I get an email breaking a dinner date for the weekend, telling me that we shouldn't see each other again -- no mention of "you're spending too much time away," or of my new job -- just that she doesn't think it's "in the great plan" and that it would only "confuse things" if we were to see each other again.
She's not seeing anyone else; I'm sure of that. I've got a couple warming up in the bullpen but at this point they're coffee dates and email convo's. Gonna take a lot of work to get them moving but I digree.
BUT. . . . WTF . . .She writes: "Let me know what's going on in your life, drop me a line from time to time. I treasure the time we've had together," ya da ya da.
And yes, she's dropped. Nuked her # off my phone, I'll never contact her again.
FWIW, She's Filipino, former sorority / HS cheerleader, 2nd gen American. I'm white, hardcore Alpha Male, buff, well-employed but reactivated into the Reserves (hence the handle and the "career change" -- I'm undergoing a heavy training schedule right now and likely facing deployment in the next 6-12 months.)
My question: Anyone have one of these "we shouldn't see each other but keep in touch, let me know how your life goes" situations? It's a new one on me. If you've been there, what happened "from time to time?"
advTHANKSance,
- Sgt. DJ
So I've been dating this girl -- "hanging out" we call it -- for about four months. No sex, everything but -- slow dancing, hour-long kisses, cooking each other dinner -- when we're together we're positively drunk with each other. I really thought I had this one going on. It's been a handful of date-caliber nights and a lot of coffee / lunch / long walks over the past few months.
It gets a little tricky because I'm in the midst of a career change and I've been traveling a lot for training but she knew that at the outset. Now I get an email breaking a dinner date for the weekend, telling me that we shouldn't see each other again -- no mention of "you're spending too much time away," or of my new job -- just that she doesn't think it's "in the great plan" and that it would only "confuse things" if we were to see each other again.
She's not seeing anyone else; I'm sure of that. I've got a couple warming up in the bullpen but at this point they're coffee dates and email convo's. Gonna take a lot of work to get them moving but I digree.
BUT. . . . WTF . . .She writes: "Let me know what's going on in your life, drop me a line from time to time. I treasure the time we've had together," ya da ya da.
And yes, she's dropped. Nuked her # off my phone, I'll never contact her again.
FWIW, She's Filipino, former sorority / HS cheerleader, 2nd gen American. I'm white, hardcore Alpha Male, buff, well-employed but reactivated into the Reserves (hence the handle and the "career change" -- I'm undergoing a heavy training schedule right now and likely facing deployment in the next 6-12 months.)
My question: Anyone have one of these "we shouldn't see each other but keep in touch, let me know how your life goes" situations? It's a new one on me. If you've been there, what happened "from time to time?"
advTHANKSance,
- Sgt. DJ