4 destructive traits i have noticed

[Pandora]

I have been thinking a lot of things that hamper a person from living a good life. I have a list of 4 things that I have I noticed. Tell me what you think.

1.) Lack of discipline: This is probably the most devastating problem on the list. Having discipline down pact is the key to reaching even the smallest goals. Think about how many new year’s resolutions have gone unaccomplished because of a lack of discipline. Every thing from losing 10 lbs to getting that degree requires discipline.

2.) Not taking constructive criticism/self-reevaluation: This one takes a lot of humility. Good friends and family members often can see flaw in your lifestyle that you can not. We all have a weakness, and it often takes a 3rd party perspective to notice it. Constructive criticism from a person that loves you can often literally save your life.

3.) People pleasing: This can really destroy a person if they let it. I don’t know where this defect stems from. But I have seen good men, including my father fall because of this one. A perfect example is not being to say no to people. Especially when they ask for money. Generally speaking, most people will not appreciate any favors done for them. Most people are not grateful.

4.) Insecurities: This is a problem that effects social behaviors the most. A lot of odd behavior is rooted in insecurities. AFC behavior is a direct result of insecurities. People pleasing may be a consequence of this. Girls playing mind games is their insecurity. Trying to brag and show off is a symptoms of insecurity. The list can go on and on.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I would throw "lack of respect" in there at number 5.

If you don't respect yourself, you'll engage in self-destructive behaviours.
If you don't respect others, you won't earn respect back and you're more likely to allow yourself to be manipulated.

So many of the world's problems wouldn't exist if people had more respect.

 

[Pandora]

Greasy Pig what exactly do you mean by self respect. Do you mean knowing what you are worth? Are you referring to AFC tendencies? Or do you mean no letting people take advantage of you?

 

[synergy1]

Generally speaking, most people will not appreciate any favors done for them. Most people are not grateful.

"men are more ready to repay and injury than a benifit becasue gratittude is a burden and revenge is a pleasure"

- Tacitus c. a.d 55-120

 

[Gro0ver]

I have been thinking a lot of things that hamper a person from living a good life. I have a list of 4 things that I have I noticed. Tell me what you think.

1.) Lack of discipline: This is probably the most devastating problem on the list. Having discipline down pact is the key to reaching even the smallest goals. Think about how many new year’s resolutions have gone unaccomplished because of a lack of discipline. Every thing from losing 10 lbs to getting that degree requires discipline.

2.) Not taking constructive criticism/self-reevaluation: This one takes a lot of humility. Good friends and family members often can see flaw in your lifestyle that you can not. We all have a weakness, and it often takes a 3rd party perspective to notice it. Constructive criticism from a person that loves you can often literally save your life.

3.) People pleasing: This can really destroy a person if they let it. I don’t know where this defect stems from. But I have seen good men, including my father fall because of this one. A perfect example is not being to say no to people. Especially when they ask for money. Generally speaking, most people will not appreciate any favors done for them. Most people are not grateful.

4.) Insecurities: This is a problem that effects social behaviors the most. A lot of odd behavior is rooted in insecurities. AFC behavior is a direct result of insecurities. People pleasing may be a consequence of this. Girls playing mind games is their insecurity. Trying to brag and show off is a symptoms of insecurity. The list can go on and on.

Very interesting and very true.

 

[The Duke]

The first 4 are pretty common in women! ;-)

 

[Pandora]

"men are more ready to repay and injury than a benifit becasue gratittude is a burden and revenge is a pleasure"

- Tacitus c. a.d 55-120

i like this quote

 

[bmp2cpm]

3.) People pleasing: .....But I have seen good men, including my father fall because of this one.... /QUOTE]

I think a big one not on the list is realizing and facing the fact that we are products of our childhood and our parents. While there's a lot of good there, there is also a lot of bad. The sooner you address it, learn from it, and grow from it is the day you let go of all sorts of limitations that have been holding you back. Often these are limitations you didn't even know were there or just ignored them for a long time because it was the easy thing to do.

 

[speed dawg]

1) Lack of discipline....

This has me written all over it.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Greasy Pig what exactly do you mean by self respect. Do you mean knowing what you are worth? Are you referring to AFC tendencies? Or do you mean no letting people take advantage of you?

If you respect yourself, you won't put up with any sh!t from low-quality women. You'll also stay fit and look for ways to improve your life.
From respecting yourself, your life should improve and so should your appeal to women.

If you respect others, you make them feel important and, in turn, you command respect yourself.
If you respect others in a way that commands respect from them (ie women), you're more likely to find one that won't treat you like a doormat.

 

[drak_ool]

1.) Lack of discipline: This is probably the most devastating problem on the list. Having discipline down pact is the key to reaching even the smallest goals. Think about how many new year’s resolutions have gone unaccomplished because of a lack of discipline. Every thing from losing 10 lbs to getting that degree requires discipline.

this could be the motto for AFCs worldwide. They start going to the gym with big ambitions and three weeks later they're back lounging on their couch, playing video games and talking about how they're too busy to work out. Or they'll start the 100 approaches challenge and stop after the first 10 rejections, talking about how game ain't sh.it...

4.) Insecurities: This is a problem that effects social behaviors the most. A lot of odd behavior is rooted in insecurities. AFC behavior is a direct result of insecurities. People pleasing may be a consequence of this. Girls playing mind games is their insecurity. Trying to brag and show off is a symptoms of insecurity. The list can go on and on.

This one I would rename "(lack of) Self-Confidence." Due to a series of difficulties/challenges in my life over the last few months (some due to women, others due to work) my self-confidence took a dip and I could see the results in my daily interactions with chicks. However, once I was able to solve my problems and come back on top, my self-confidence has reached unflinching levels once again and my social life has been pumping for the last couple weeks.

Self-confidence is the root of so many insecurities... If guys could just accept themselves for who they are, and try to play to the best of their abilities AT THAT MOMENT, so many more dudes would be getting regular pvssy from hot chicks. For example, after moving to LA, I started buying into the attitude that you need a fancy car/home and plenty of disposable cash to attract the hottest of the women here. Since I have none of the above, I handicapped myself from the start, thinking I couldn't get the HBs I wanted. Now that my confidence is back though, I've been seeing this HB 10, probably one of the top 3 chicks I ever hooked up with, whose ex is a physician (he beats me as far as cars/house/job prestige and $$), yet guess who she chooses to hang out with?

(over) confidence is everything!