"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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to my wedding ...

cant wait for the cake
cant wait for all the wedding planning to be over
and cant wait to take my already packed suitcase and go on the honeymoon


thought i would share:)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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yes for affordablitily reasons . the resort says all food and drinks are included any time .
which is great when you wanna drink right?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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penkitten said:
to my wedding ...
cant wait for the cake
cant wait for all the wedding planning to be over
and cant wait to take my already packed suitcase and go on the honeymoon
thought i would share:)
guys notice how her man is not included int the "can't wait for" list


i thought the date was "new years", was it postponed??
 

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About the resorts, the all-inclusive ones are great if you like to drink, yes. They also offer the added benefit of more security. I haven't been to Aruba, but pan-handlers/beggars are pretty bad in the Caribbean in general. The people are less violent than Americans, but theft is bad; there are a lot of poor people who have no problem stealing from what they see as rich Americans. So the all-inclusives also offer the benefit of not having to carry around as much money to pay for drinks. The downside of the all-inclusives is that they insulate you from much of the culture of the Caribbean, most of which is a lot of fun, but with a cultural experience you also have to deal with a lot of crap, which is not what you want on your honeymoon. So you made a wise choice there. Bring some strong sunscreen and wear a t-shirt if you snorkel so that you are not the stereotypical lobster-red tourist.
 
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AVERAGE & FRUSTRATED said:
guys notice how her man is not included int the "can't wait for" list


i thought the date was "new years", was it postponed??
It's about her, not her man. I mean after all it is HER WEDDING.

That poor sucker is just there... you know, as an excuse to invite more people.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Congratulations!

I give it 6 months.
Based on what? The subtle cues that you're able to pick up on from this Internet chat board? Good work, Dr Gottman.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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