"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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penkitten

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to my wedding ...

cant wait for the cake
cant wait for all the wedding planning to be over
and cant wait to take my already packed suitcase and go on the honeymoon


thought i would share:)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yes for affordablitily reasons . the resort says all food and drinks are included any time .
which is great when you wanna drink right?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten said:
to my wedding ...
cant wait for the cake
cant wait for all the wedding planning to be over
and cant wait to take my already packed suitcase and go on the honeymoon
thought i would share:)
guys notice how her man is not included int the "can't wait for" list


i thought the date was "new years", was it postponed??
 

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About the resorts, the all-inclusive ones are great if you like to drink, yes. They also offer the added benefit of more security. I haven't been to Aruba, but pan-handlers/beggars are pretty bad in the Caribbean in general. The people are less violent than Americans, but theft is bad; there are a lot of poor people who have no problem stealing from what they see as rich Americans. So the all-inclusives also offer the benefit of not having to carry around as much money to pay for drinks. The downside of the all-inclusives is that they insulate you from much of the culture of the Caribbean, most of which is a lot of fun, but with a cultural experience you also have to deal with a lot of crap, which is not what you want on your honeymoon. So you made a wise choice there. Bring some strong sunscreen and wear a t-shirt if you snorkel so that you are not the stereotypical lobster-red tourist.
 
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AVERAGE & FRUSTRATED said:
guys notice how her man is not included int the "can't wait for" list


i thought the date was "new years", was it postponed??
It's about her, not her man. I mean after all it is HER WEDDING.

That poor sucker is just there... you know, as an excuse to invite more people.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Congratulations!

I give it 6 months.
Based on what? The subtle cues that you're able to pick up on from this Internet chat board? Good work, Dr Gottman.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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