Young Juan
Senior Don Juan
Been juggling 4 plates and then I got clean swept: 1 moved outta town to go to grad school, 1 gave me an ultimatum for a relationship I wasn't having, 1 had to be dropped due to acting out of order (damn I'm gonna miss that cooking!), and the last 1 all of a sudden got super religious on me and decided she wants to be a better mother to her kids, rather than stay out all night sucking and fvcking me.
Charge it all the game.
So now your boy is back on his Bear Grylls and in Man v. Whatever mode. Went to Vegas last weekend and as I started to see beautiful women that I wanted to talk to, I froze up! I forgot about this feeling, but I remember it now! The dreaded Approach Anxiety. I started thinking to myself: what am I going to say? What kind of signals should I look for? etc.
And then I remembered what got me over my AA in the first place: The 3 Second Rule!
In a nutshell, the 3 second rule says to approach a women in the first 3 seconds of getting the urge, before approach anxiety even has a chance to set in! For me, it's all about getting my feet moving and make sure whatever I say is said in a strong voice, whatever I say will be whatever I say. I only have 2 pre-can openers: "Hello, how are youuuuu doing?" and "I couldn't help but notice you from XYZ and I had to come meet you and see what you're about." The first one is meant to be corny/funny and get a smile, the second is to put her on the spot from the jump. I don't always use these two as I prefer to be situational, but you keep prepared.
Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. Even Michael Jordan missed more shots than he made.
A couple things that I didn't realize about the 3 second rule before now are the following:
1. No Time for Negative Thoughts to manifest themselves
2. No time to over-think the situation
3. I'm much less nervous because I haven't built anything up yet, the conversation flows naturally and my conversation is on point as I'm focused on the moment and not the outcome.
4. I've internalized so much of this stuff that my subconscious keeps my game on point.
I say all this to say, the 3 second rule is the truth when it comes to cold approaches.
Field tested, field approved!
Thoughts, feedback, etc?
Charge it all the game.
So now your boy is back on his Bear Grylls and in Man v. Whatever mode. Went to Vegas last weekend and as I started to see beautiful women that I wanted to talk to, I froze up! I forgot about this feeling, but I remember it now! The dreaded Approach Anxiety. I started thinking to myself: what am I going to say? What kind of signals should I look for? etc.
And then I remembered what got me over my AA in the first place: The 3 Second Rule!
In a nutshell, the 3 second rule says to approach a women in the first 3 seconds of getting the urge, before approach anxiety even has a chance to set in! For me, it's all about getting my feet moving and make sure whatever I say is said in a strong voice, whatever I say will be whatever I say. I only have 2 pre-can openers: "Hello, how are youuuuu doing?" and "I couldn't help but notice you from XYZ and I had to come meet you and see what you're about." The first one is meant to be corny/funny and get a smile, the second is to put her on the spot from the jump. I don't always use these two as I prefer to be situational, but you keep prepared.
Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. Even Michael Jordan missed more shots than he made.
A couple things that I didn't realize about the 3 second rule before now are the following:
1. No Time for Negative Thoughts to manifest themselves
2. No time to over-think the situation
3. I'm much less nervous because I haven't built anything up yet, the conversation flows naturally and my conversation is on point as I'm focused on the moment and not the outcome.
4. I've internalized so much of this stuff that my subconscious keeps my game on point.
I say all this to say, the 3 second rule is the truth when it comes to cold approaches.
Field tested, field approved!
Thoughts, feedback, etc?