3 questions

[handle]

First:
What can I do to stop the feelings of jealousy or whatnot when a girl you have your eye on is hitting it off with that sharp guy that seems so much better? How can I get rid of that jealousy and reinforce that positive mindset?

Second:
I know you're supposed to put your passions ahead of the girls, but sometimes I feel like I'm constantly working on all my goals while letting some opportunities pass by. Should I cut myself a bit of slack every once and a while or just try to cram in chatting up chicks with everything else?

Third:
I have ADD and I take pills for it, but I feel like a bit more of a natural talker when I'm off them... It's as if being on these pills puts in a mental block from me saying things without thought, doing things with ease and confidence... But they do help me with my work. Has anyone gone through something like this and can share insight into what I can do?

Thanks for any insights guys

 

[Docs]

1. You don't let it affect you, or in other words, don't place your priceless feelings at the expense of a girl's decision.

2. Don't cram, involve. If you're a artist...get a girl to pose. If you play music, stand out in the park and play your heart off. If you are a nerd..well..that's alittle harder, but I'm sure there's something..

3. I haven't gone though ADD and pills, but I know how it is to not really want to do work..and just chill with people. Basically, you kinda take the good with the bad, you buckle down when you need/want to, and you play when you can.

 

[Desdinova]

What can I do to stop the feelings of jealousy or whatnot when a girl you have your eye on is hitting it off with that sharp guy that seems so much better? How can I get rid of that jealousy and reinforce that positive mindset?

If you're not in a LTR with her, you have no reason to be jealous. She's not exclusive to you. Also, if you're not even dating her, You have no business whatsoever in who she talks to.

I know you're supposed to put your passions ahead of the girls, but sometimes I feel like I'm constantly working on all my goals while letting some opportunities pass by. Should I cut myself a bit of slack every once and a while or just try to cram in chatting up chicks with everything else?

Well, you can't go out sarging when your at home doing a jigsaw puzzle. Take advantage of interests that require you to get out of the house. This is where you focus on your passion, and meet women as a side project.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

To answer your first question, you need to become THAT guy. Once you are him, the jealousy will go away. Jealousy is nothing more than a feeling that tells you without words, "You are inadequate". Take it as a hint that it's time you start working on yourself. Subconciously you know that he IS better than you. That doesn't mean you cant' become better than him.

You should be busy with your work and career and follow your dreams but it doesn't mean you can't meet girls.

Being busy keeps you from worrying about wether or not a girl is interested and will probably cause her to chase you, if she is attracted enough. It's a natural way of playing hard-to-get.

I don't know a thing about the drugs your on

 

[AmIAFC]

First:
What can I do to stop the feelings of jealousy or whatnot when a girl you have your eye on is hitting it off with that sharp guy that seems so much better? How can I get rid of that jealousy and reinforce that positive mindset?

First, you ask yourself..."Why am I comparing myself to another guy?" You don't know what else is going on in his life, so don't take anything at face value, and don't be so quick to put him on a higher social pedestal than you based on what you see at face value.

Next, ask yourself what makes him so "sharp" in your eyes. Is it his clothes, haircut, shoes? Take notes and then look at yourself in the mirror: Do you honestly see a greater prize looking back than what the other guy is presenting? If not, embrace self-improvement.

 

[Kaptain]

Originally posted by handle
Second:
I know you're supposed to put your passions ahead of the girls, but sometimes I feel like I'm constantly working on all my goals while letting some opportunities pass by. Should I cut myself a bit of slack every once and a while or just try to cram in chatting up chicks with everything else?

Cut yourself some slack.