"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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3 prospects, what now?

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Ok, this is where i am at the moment.

Got a number from a chick who's a decent 7.5. She's open to going out/getting together together.

Got another number from a chick who is really pretty and seems cool, she's definitely an 8. Also got her number and she definitely wants to go out sometime. I asked her if she was interested and she told me definitely yes. I told her i was really busy, which is true, and i'll let her know when i'm available.

Then there is another chick i met a few weeks ago and saw yesterday. She's smoking hot. I'd say she's between 9 and 10. Yea really. She has a cute face, a body to die for and she's also cool. One of those very few girls i would want to have as a girlfriend. Don't asked her number yet, but i see her every now and then. When the time is right, i'm gonna make my move. You can read all about her in one of the posts on page 5 in the link in my sig.


The question
Now, what to do? Should i date both of the chicks i already have the number of? I haven't dated much and i have no experience at all with going out with multiple girls. Does that sh*t lead to complications?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Oh and by the way.... i never could had imagined i'd post something like this on here. Hard work does pay off my friends. Again, you can read it in my journal.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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snowdog said:
...The question
Now, what to do? Should i date both of the chicks i already have the number of?
Date them??? I think you should just call them and evaluate the situation realistically first. You're talking about dating them and you don't yet know if the telephone numbers are real.
 

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Don't worry about that. I been texting a lot with one of them so that number is read. The other one i am 100% sure she didn't gave me a fake number; she pretty much threw herself at me.
 

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So how did it go when you've met up with them a second or third time?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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in my limited experience

unless im doing something wrong.... which I probably am


3 out of 4 chicks will flake on you


Meaning...out of every 4 girls that you call that seem interested to hang out...only one will actually show up or wont cancel on you last minute :moon:
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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judoguy said:
in my limited experience

unless im doing something wrong.... which I probably am


3 out of 4 chicks will flake on you


Meaning...out of every 4 girls that you call that seem interested to hang out...only one will actually show up or wont cancel on you last minute :moon:
Just sounds that you're not qualifying them before hand.
 

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A lot of posts, but no one has answered my goddamn question yet. If you smartasses don't know the answer, i'm not interested in the other things you have to say. I'm not sking for your view on how i got the numbers and if they are real etc...
 

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Since you didn't answer my question I'll answer your latest one. We're not smartasses because we don't know the answer, were're smartasses because we don't have the problem.
 

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Date multiple. It's far easier to keep more than one than it is to keep just one. The reason is because you're not so available (emotionally or physically). I would be up front with them that you want to date around and not get tied down just yet.

You need to see if any of these girls have anything to offer, and you can tell them that, too. This makes you more interesting. It also causes these girls to wonder about you. Why aren't you easy like most guys? hmmm...because you're dating around and not settling for the first pretty face - that's why. That means you are a man, and you won't deal yourself a bad hand. Delayed gratification is far better than the momentary satisfaction that most guys seek. Good luck!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'd say go on a date with each of them and see which one you have the most chemisty with. Doing that will also help you get to know them better, which might help you with your decision.
 

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I think everyone should date around so I'm inclined to agree. You should try to see each of these girls at least once. It'll be a good experience for you and might elevate your game.

Kudos and good luck:up:
 

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Hey guys, many thanks for the useful replies. I appreciate them, and I sincerely do mean that. I'll post in my journal what'll happen.

And Francisco d'Anconia, no offence, but you sound like a frustrated guy to me. You don't have to take it out on me.
 
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