"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Comeback Kid

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I was relaxing last night and noticed a show that a HB and I are both fanatics of happened to be on TV at 11pm. For background, we get along very well, great rapport, she tagged along with me to my friend's super bowl get-together this past weekend. Because we were making references to the show in class earlier in the day, I texted her that I found it on TV and that it apparently has a regular time slot.

While we normally get back to each other quite quickly, I didn't hear from her. There's a chance her text was messed up because there was a mark next to her name on my phone, but w/e. Anyway, I get a text at 3:00 AM from her (I forgot to turn off the sound on my phone before I went to sleep), she apologized for not getting back to me, as she just noticed the text then. Obviously, I waited until this morning to make fun of her for it, then briefly clarified how our show is on TV.

There could be a million reasons for it, but...Why would a girl text/try to establish contact at 3am on a weeknight?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CaptainJ

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The Comeback Kid said:
I was relaxing last night and noticed a show that a HB and I are both fanatics of happened to be on TV at 11pm. For background, we get along very well, great rapport, she tagged along with me to my friend's super bowl get-together this past weekend. Because we were making references to the show in class earlier in the day, I texted her that I found it on TV and that it apparently has a regular time slot.

While we normally get back to each other quite quickly, I didn't hear from her. There's a chance her text was messed up because there was a mark next to her name on my phone, but w/e. Anyway, I get a text at 3:00 AM from her (I forgot to turn off the sound on my phone before I went to sleep), she apologized for not getting back to me, as she just noticed the text then. Obviously, I waited until this morning to make fun of her for it, then briefly clarified how our show is on TV.

There could be a million reasons for it, but...Why would a girl text/try to establish contact at 3am on a weeknight?
Seriously. Why over analyze this. Girls do weird things some times, get over it. It means nothing.

Ring her up and tell her to come see this programme with you. Then escalate.
 

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High interest, perhaps?
 

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Say this aloud. Speak the words.

I

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OVER-ANALYZING
 

The Comeback Kid

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HolyG said:
Say this aloud. Speak the words.

I

AM

OVER-ANALYZING
okok I get it. I didn't think it was anything big. She did text me out of the blue a little while ago explaining why she sent the text though (fell asleep early, randomly woke up and saw it). Interesting, but as you said, really means nothing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't get me wrong, now. This girl might be attracted to you, and even if you aren't sure, you being attracted to her is what really matters. That said, do not waste time analyzing every single little thing girls say and do. Stress and dwelling on that stuff BLOWS.
 
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