"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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3 days exclusive with the BPD. She is already a headache.

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So I had the exclusive talk with the BPD. I like this girl more than the other plates so I am not concerned with losing my other plates.

I'm not ruling out messing around on this girl, she is already a headache. These sh!t tests have been non stop and they are continuing as I type this!

1) Ever since the talk, she has held out on the sex and even kissing! Twice she has gotten me all hot and bothered into the bed like she wants sex, and then rolls over! The first time I left her alone in the bed, the second time I was drunk and passed out on her. I got sex in the morning both times but it's still unnacceptable.

2) She said she might come over Sat night and ended up hanging with her girlfriend. I was just like F-ck it. It was a test to see if I would get controlling and possessive.

3) She came over Sun morning. No sex. She would barely even kiss me. This is the 3rd strike already! She also told me to take her to the mall and take her shopping she wants some clothes and me to pay. Take yourself shopping, b!tch!

I ignored her ever since she left Sunday. She was texting me tonight "now that you got me, you ignore me"

I decided to call her out on her BS. I said "now that you got me, you wont even kiss me anymore. That sh!t is unacceptable"

She just replied "Why are you so mean?"

I'm still deciding whether or not to reply.

Bottom line, I want to see what this girl is made of thats why I had the exclusive talk. I do NOT expect her to be faithful at all. I am keeping myself ready to walk at a moments notice.

Oh yeah, she wants to do it without the condom again. She swears she is still on the pill.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm shocked! :confused:

What happened to change from this post from the other day?


I have this under control. I have played the game so well she wants me more than I want her and that's how it's supposed to be. I have oneitis, I love this chic bad I won't deny that. But I am going to handle it properly.

Say it isn't so! This was one of the greatest love stories in the making.

Woe is me. :rolleyes:

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I'm shocked! :confused:

What happened to change from this post from the other day?





Say it isn't so! This was one of the greatest love stories in the making.

Woe is me. :rolleyes:

Cheers!
It is under control. I am loving this because I can see right through all her tests! It's great and I am having a great time. If she wasn't a headache, where would the fun be? It's just a mild headache not a migraine. As long as there is no cheating I can deal with it.

I replied to her accusation about me being mean. I said "Come over here right now and I'll show you how nice I am"

She replied "suck suck!"

LOL I think I made her horny by not putting up with her sh!t.
 

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Like watching the Titanic in slow motion....
 
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Like watching the Titanic in slow motion....

I gotta be careful not to knock her up. She says she is on the pill. She said she is allergic to the condoms. If I break out the rubber, she rolls over and doesn't want sex. What do I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vlad the Impaler said:
She replied "suck suck!"

LOL I think I made her horny by not putting up with her sh!t.

He's back! :rock:

She's in big trouble now. She doesn't know who she's messin' with. :yes:


Go get her, Leonardo!




Cheers!
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
I gotta be careful not to knock her up. She says she is on the pill. She said she is allergic to the condoms. If I break out the rubber, she rolls over and doesn't want sex. What do I do?
You say "fyck you and your stupid shyt" and you walk out.

If you don't know that, you don't know how to deal with a BPD.... you obviously have oneitis for her..... you're so screwed its sad. With a BPD you need to be the one in contro;, the one being manipulative and playing games with her head; you're playing the reactive game, not the proactive one- and you're emotionally invested which makes it even worse...... You have the tiger by the tail and you think you're the one in control; so sad, so very very sad.
 
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You say "fyck you and your stupid shyt" and you walk out.

If you don't know that, you don't know how to deal with a BPD.... you obviously have oneitis for her..... you're so screwed its sad. With a BPD you need to be the one in contro;, the one being manipulative and playing games with her head; you're playing the reactive game, not the proactive one- and you're emotionally invested which makes it even worse...... You have the tiger by the tail and you think you're the one in control; so sad, so very very sad.
Or maybe it's just that I hate the condom too and I already banged her 20 times without a condom and she didn't get knocked up. I'm not sure she would lie to me about being on the pill but I know it's a risk I can't take.

I love banging her w/out the rubber. So that makes me sad so sad since there is a good chance she is on the pill?

I guess that makes most of mankind sad, very sad!
 

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If I break out the rubber, she rolls over and doesn't want sex. What do I do?
WEAR THE FVCKING CONDOM. If she refuses sex, it's for your own good. There's plenty of women out there who'll take c0ck WITH a condom rolled over it.

Women should NEVER be trusted when they take birth control into their own hands. They will lie like a fvcking sidewalk, especially if deep down they actually WANT to get pregnant.

THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN TRUST IS YOURSELF

This cvnt is already playing games with you. Do you really think you should trust her with all the 5hit she's pulling on you? If you're going to fvck ANY woman, use a rubber. That way, you know you're not going to become a father by mistake, accident, or if she forgets to take the pill - on purpose.

If she's not going to fvck you on your terms, kick that piece of 5hit tramp to the curb.
 

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don't feed the troll guys, we already have his dozen-page epic denial of advice still fresh on the first page... your advice is being ignored.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Desdinova said:
WEAR THE FVCKING CONDOM. If she refuses sex, it's for your own good. There's plenty of women out there who'll take c0ck WITH a condom rolled over it.

Women should NEVER be trusted when they take birth control into their own hands. They will lie like a fvcking sidewalk, especially if deep down they actually WANT to get pregnant.

THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN TRUST IS YOURSELF

This cvnt is already playing games with you. Do you really think you should trust her with all the 5hit she's pulling on you? If you're going to fvck ANY woman, use a rubber. That way, you know you're not going to become a father by mistake, accident, or if she forgets to take the pill - on purpose.

If she's not going to fvck you on your terms, kick that piece of 5hit tramp to the curb.

Yeah I agree. You guys are right. I am going to tell her "f-ck you and your bullsh!t" next time she tells me to not use a condom.

Thanks. I cant afford a 18 year mistake with a BPD. I can't even afford myself.
 

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Or maybe it's just that I hate the condom too and I already banged her 20 times without a condom and she didn't get knocked up. I'm not sure she would lie to me about being on the pill but I know it's a risk I can't take.

I love banging her w/out the rubber. So that makes me sad so sad since there is a good chance she is on the pill?

I guess that makes most of mankind sad, very sad!
Yea- you're right champ- I don't know what I'm talking about.

I didn't go throught the exact same situation or anything- nope not at all. I couldn't POSSIBLY be speaking from expirence; I couldn't POSSIBLY have had a BPD ex who used the EXACT same lines and tactics on me!

So- by all means; keep playing with fire... I, and everyone else here, will laugh at you when you're stuck paying 18 years of child support to a psychotic *****.

(PS from the future where she's knocked up)- get a paternity test; its probably not yours.
 
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Yea- you're right champ- I don't know what I'm talking about.

I didn't go throught the exact same situation or anything- nope not at all. I couldn't POSSIBLY be speaking from expirence; I couldn't POSSIBLY have had a BPD ex who used the EXACT same lines and tactics on me!

So- by all means; keep playing with fire... I, and everyone else here, will laugh at you when you're stuck paying 18 years of child support to a psychotic *****.

(PS from the future where she's knocked up)- get a paternity test; its probably not yours.

Nah, you're right I agree. There is a good chance she is lying about the pill.

I'm going to take your advice. Next time she is over, I will tell her I gotta put the rubber on. If she resists I'll call her out on the BS and walk out.

She was never allergic to the condom before. She just said she doesn't like them. She is obviously lying about being allergic. WTF?
 

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don't feed the troll guys, we already have his dozen-page epic denial of advice still fresh on the first page... your advice is being ignored.

Vlad? A troll?

No way! :mad:

He's our Leonardo Dicaprio and will make you eat your words. :trouble:


When I grow up I want to be just like him. He's my hero. :yes:


Cheers!
 

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No, she is DEFINATELY lying about the Pill... hell- you just admitted that she's lying about being allergic to the condom!

She is a pathological liar... she cannot be trusted in any way!!!!!

*SIGH*

This chick better be smoking hot.....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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But if she wanted to get preggo, why is she holding out on sex?

I could have banged and busted in her 5 times by now and she resisted. She had me good and drunk. Maybe she is waiting for the right time of the month :eek:
 

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She can get pregnant at anytime.

She is just getting you in the habit of having her in control, being the one with the power- the one controlling the frame. She is putting the lasso around your neck, the ring through your nose. She is going to lead you around and control you- you claim that you see through her games; but you're blind even to this.

You're a novice- my advice to you is to run away as fast as you can..

If you don't- I'm done with you. I'll be back to laugh at you, and drink your tears, when she's finished putting your testicles through a ringer.
 
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She can get pregnant at anytime.

She is just getting you in the habit of having her in control, being the one with the power- the one controlling the frame. She is putting the lasso around your neck, the ring through your nose. She is going to lead you around and control you- you claim that you see through her games; but you're blind even to this.

You're a novice- my advice to you is to run away as fast as you can..

If you don't- I'm done with you. I'll be back to laugh at you, and drink your tears, when she's finished putting your testicles through a ringer.

OMG- she admitted she just wants the control. She said she has been hurt MANY times and she wears this key around her neck. She told me the key is a reminder she is in CONTROL so she can't be hurt again.

Damn, I am a novice. Thanks for kicking me in the head! I was about to knock this b!tch up.

And YES, she is smoking hot. Longest legs I ever seen and she turns every head that is male.
 

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Vlad, I can't read your posts on this subject anymore. It is like re-living a personal nightmare. I am sure it is like that for the other guys on this forum that have cluster b battle scars, even though they are reaching out to help you. The various behavior patterns for the different cluster b's are very similar.

Listening to you lie to yourself about how you have the situation under control just because you have hung a label on her is painful. I do not care how alpha you are or believe yourself to be, a normal mentally and emotionally heathy man is ruined by one of these 100% of the time. Would you play those odds at a casino?

You are already scr@wed and nothing anybody says to you will make you turn out of the path of the on-coming train. I was the same way. Even if you end it right now, it will hurt like hell maybe for years. The longer you stay the less self-esteem and resources you will have when the inevitable comes. I have been in your shoes, and all the amazing sex in the world is not worth the case of PTSD you are setting yourself up for.
 
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I just read Aenigmas previous threads. Like I said thanks for kicking me in the head. The worst thing I could have done is bang her without the rubber. I already did it when we were together before. All the time. She didn't get knocked up thats why I believe her about the pill. But this is the second round. She is lying now and is ready to be knocked up.

Everything else is pretty much a cakewalk I know I can get other women.

Next time she tells me not to use the rubber, I'll direct her to the front door!!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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