3 Best Tried & Tested Openers

[FireTexts]

I have tested close to a hundred different pickup lines / openers. These are the ones, I found to work the best:

1) "Hey (insert girls name), i’m curious about something”

This opener has the highest response rate out everything we have tested. The reason it works so well is because it invokes a lot of curiosity on the girls part. She thinks “oh what is he curious about” and is thus compelled to respond.

The key with this opener though, is to have a good follow-up. You don’t wanna just follow this up with “what do you do for fun” or something boring. A standard follow up text we had a lot of success with was “how do you look so innocent, yet full of trouble at the same time”.

2) “Your dad would absolutely hate me”

Believe it or not, this opener also works really well. It creates intrigue, because the girl starts wondering “why would my dad hate him” and thus responds. It is also quite polarizing, which is a must when it comes to dating apps in 2025. There are too many guys messaging the girls the same old crap, you need to stand out.

3) “I see we both have good taste”

This one doesn’t invoke nearly as much curiosity so the response rate will be a bit lower, but it is more versatile. Another advantage with this one, is that it invokes the “we frame”, which is a powerful texting technique, where you talk about you and the girl as one unit.
Girls will commonly respond by saying “haha yes we do” and from there you can really go in any direction.

Also, If you want to see more openers as well as real life examples check out the original article: [link removed because advertising is against forum rules]

 

[BPH]

Don't do this, this is corny.

Just be direct. If she's interested, there's not much you can do wrong. If she's not, there's not much you can do right.

 

[characternote]

If she's interested, there's not much you can do wrong. If she's not, there's not much you can do right.

this is kinda what i've been saying for years! Although I only talk about cold approach. I don't mess with online dating

 

[Oatmeal31]

I have tested close to a hundred different pickup lines / openers. These are the ones, I found to work the best:

1) "Hey (insert girls name), i’m curious about something”

This opener has the highest response rate out everything we have tested. The reason it works so well is because it invokes a lot of curiosity on the girls part. She thinks “oh what is he curious about” and is thus compelled to respond.

The key with this opener though, is to have a good follow-up. You don’t wanna just follow this up with “what do you do for fun” or something boring. A standard follow up text we had a lot of success with was “how do you look so innocent, yet full of trouble at the same time”.

2) “Your dad would absolutely hate me”

Believe it or not, this opener also works really well. It creates intrigue, because the girl starts wondering “why would my dad hate him” and thus responds. It is also quite polarizing, which is a must when it comes to dating apps in 2025. There are too many guys messaging the girls the same old crap, you need to stand out.

3) “I see we both have good taste”

This one doesn’t invoke nearly as much curiosity so the response rate will be a bit lower, but it is more versatile. Another advantage with this one, is that it invokes the “we frame”, which is a powerful texting technique, where you talk about you and the girl as one unit.
Girls will commonly respond by saying “haha yes we do” and from there you can really go in any direction.

Also, If you want to see more openers as well as real life examples check out the original article: [link removed]

These look like tinder lines. If I tried these on the city street, I'm pretty sure I'd get blanked hard.

 

[SW15]

These look like tinder lines.

I think the OP is focusing on swipe app openers.

If I tried these on the city street, I'm pretty sure I'd get blanked hard.

Why do you think these would fail hard in daygame approaches? Street, grocery store, mall, etc.

 

[zekko]

Don't do this, this is corny.

Just be direct. If she's interested, there's not much you can do wrong. If she's not, there's not much you can do right.

I don't think the third one is bad, it sounds pretty natural. You can go direct from there if you like.

 

[Travel memoir21]

It's ultimately your vibe and delivery that matters. That's why it's good to sort of prepare beforehand before you leave the house and get into a great state of mind socially as possible and you might want to do some warm up approaches like talking casually to strangers while you're on the venue.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Anything "canned" will seem forced & unnatural. And conversely, if it comes off naturally, you can get away with A LOT, even something brazen, like "Nice boobs!"

Believe me over the years I've heard it ALL, and delivery is much more important than what you actually say.

Swipe apps can be harder because with just text you loose all the inflection & bravado that live real time interaction entails. Even the phone or video call is better than straight text alone because much of what is communicated is non verbal and going on subconsciously to a degree. Your mind prefers the non verbal information to size up another human. We are all built that way.

The man I know who totally slays on the swipe apps (other than being tall and having above average looks) is amazing at text banter. He picks something specific to the woman to comment on rather than a direct pick up line. That often gets an exchange started.

"How did you get into rock climbing?"

"What was your favorite spot in Italy?"

Remember gentlemen, every person's very favorite topic is themselves. So you ask a question about something she shared on her profile. This automatically tells her 2 things:

1. You actually paid attention and read the profile

2. You are curious to find out more about her

Obviously you find her attractive (duh) otherwise you wouldn't initiate contact at all (double duh)....

The corny lines given by OP are canned because they don't require an individually tailored opener.

Takes more time; gets better results.

 

[zekko]

The man I know who totally slays on the swipe apps (other than being tall and having above average looks) is amazing at text banter. He picks something specific to the woman to comment on rather than a direct pick up line. That often gets an exchange started.

"How did you get into rock climbing?"

"What was your favorite spot in Italy?"

Nice open ended type of questions. Places like this tend to discourage texting, and that may be so for most, but I think I'm pretty good at texts banter myself - and I'm not one to needlessly brag. I've never tried OLD though. I'm sure being tall and good looking is a huge asset for swipe apps. Especially since so many women screen for height, or so I'm told.

 

[SW15]

Anything "canned" will seem forced & unnatural. And conversely, if it comes off naturally, you can get away with A LOT, even something brazen, like "Nice boobs!"

There's an argument that "canned" openers are good for people with less experience in approaching strangers. If a man can memorize a canned opener and deliver it well, then that can help him.

they don't require an individually tailored opener.

Takes more time; gets better results.

It can be more difficult to individually tailor openers in real life approaches. It's not as difficult to do that on a swipe app because a man has more time to think and plan a response. That time doesn't exist in real life.

delivery is much more important than what you actually say.

This is true. This isn't measurable in swipe apps or via social media DM. That's why pics/videos demonstrating lifestyle can help. On Instagram, men need a good quantity of Followers and more Followers than Following in order to DM well. On Instagram, a man with 5,000 Followers will be able to get away with more than a man with 100 Followers who is Following 400 accounts.

the phone or video call is better than straight text alone because much of what is communicated is non verbal and going on subconsciously to a degree. Your mind prefers the non verbal information to size up another human. We are all built that way.

One of the worst trends in mating in the last 15-20 years is the de-emphasis of the phone call in the early stages of interactions. The majority of communication has been moved to the written word on an electronic screen.

A lot of in-person approaching has been replaced by text messages and social media DMs.

A lot of things that were phone calls after 1st or 2nd dates are now text messages.

I don't think that it has simplified things. I think it has made things more difficult.

 

[Oatmeal31]

I think the OP is focusing on swipe app openers.



Why do you think these would fail hard in daygame approaches? Street, grocery store, mall, etc.

The last 2 don't work without any context and the first may or may not be enough to get somebody engaged in the city. Also needs a good follow-up, something to do with intent, but most openers do anyway

 

[zekko]

There's an argument that "canned" openers are good for people with less experience in approaching strangers. If a man can memorize a canned opener and deliver it well, then that can help him.

I've said this before, but when you watch video of Mystery running through his canned openers, negs, and other pre-designed remarks, regardless of context, and while ignoring anything and everything the people say, he comes off as a severely mentally deficient robot. There's no conversation, just running through his act.

I guess if a guy can use an opener and bridge that into a conversation, good for him. Personally, I'd find it embarrassing. But I prefer to be more spontaneous. In fact, I'm not sure I could even work from a script and still function. It would put me too much into my head.

 

[BeExcellent]

I've said this before, but when you watch video of Mystery running through his canned openers, negs, and other pre-designed remarks, regardless of context, and while ignoring anything and everything the people say, he comes off as a severely mentally deficient robot. There's no conversation, just running through his act.

I guess if a guy can use an opener and bridge that into a conversation, good for him. Personally, I'd find it embarrassing. But I prefer to be more spontaneous. In fact, I'm not sure I could even work from a script and still function. It would put me too much into my head.

Agree. I am picturing Norman Bates doing stand up at the Improv. No bueno @BaronOfHair lol.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I've said this before, but when you watch video of Mystery running through his canned openers, negs, and other pre-designed remarks, regardless of context, and while ignoring anything and everything the people say, he comes off as a severely mentally deficient robot.

Canned openers are for the ladies, not for the dudes watching them.

If a guy feels more comfortable approaching with a canned opener, it's better than wishing from the sidelines.

Sure, they aren't ideal.

But ideal situations and ideal game is only for KJ's trying to outflex each other online.

The real world is messy.

Use whatever tools get the job done.

 

[SW15]

The last 2 don't work without any context

I see how those 2 would fail to land with outdoor approaches (streets, parks, walking/hiking paths). Most of your outdoor approach experience is pure street approaching.

the first may or may not be enough to get somebody engaged in the city.

I agree. As a real life opener, the female might not care enough to hear the follow up....

“how do you look so innocent, yet full of trouble at the same time”.

The follow up line is decent if she can get engaged by the opener.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Agree. I am picturing Norman Bates doing stand up at the Improv. No bueno @BaronOfHair lol.

Annie Knight here
https://www.facebook.com/share/169i2ZdPMP/ is almost certainly wishing she got rammed by Ol' Norm's blade instead

 

[BaronOfHair]

2) “Your dad would absolutely hate me”

Believe it or not, this opener also works really well

Particularly when one refrains from following that up with:

"Once the cops knock on his front door at 2AM, bearing crime scene photos of your t-ts, cl-toris, and scalp hanging on my living room wall"

 

[FireTexts]

Don't do this, this is corny.

Just be direct. If she's interested, there's not much you can do wrong. If she's not, there's not much you can do right.

There is a hundreds of guys trying to message her who she finds attractive. Catching her attention and standing out is the only way to succeed, especially with the hottest girls

 

[FireTexts]

Canned openers are for the ladies, not for the dudes watching them.

If a guy feels more comfortable approaching with a canned opener, it's better than wishing from the sidelines.

Sure, they aren't ideal.

But ideal situations and ideal game is only for KJ's trying to outflex each other online.

The real world is messy.

Use whatever tools get the job done.

this isn't for cold approach lol. Just dating apps

 

[FireTexts]

Advice from the old lady:

Anything "canned" will seem forced & unnatural. And conversely, if it comes off naturally, you can get away with A LOT, even something brazen, like "Nice boobs!"

Believe me over the years I've heard it ALL, and delivery is much more important than what you actually say.

Swipe apps can be harder because with just text you loose all the inflection & bravado that live real time interaction entails. Even the phone or video call is better than straight text alone because much of what is communicated is non verbal and going on subconsciously to a degree. Your mind prefers the non verbal information to size up another human. We are all built that way.

The man I know who totally slays on the swipe apps (other than being tall and having above average looks) is amazing at text banter. He picks something specific to the woman to comment on rather than a direct pick up line. That often gets an exchange started.

"How did you get into rock climbing?"

"What was your favorite spot in Italy?"

Remember gentlemen, every person's very favorite topic is themselves. So you ask a question about something she shared on her profile. This automatically tells her 2 things:

1. You actually paid attention and read the profile

2. You are curious to find out more about her

Obviously you find her attractive (duh) otherwise you wouldn't initiate contact at all (double duh)....

The corny lines given by OP are canned because they don't require an individually tailored opener.

Takes more time; gets better results.

This is only for dating apps. Not cold approach interactions. For that I agree, its better to just wing it