"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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3-5 day rule and texting

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Does the 3-5 day rule after getting the phone number applies to texting? I am getting some long distance digits from girls living in smaller communities outside of Vancouver, so they suggest texting rather than calling. I could probably call anyway....though.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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If you think she likes you, don't wait that long. Besides, dude, women are on to that 3-5 day rule.
 

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yeah, she approached me and I hit on her right there. I ve got socially proved by my friend's hot acquittance (those girls know each other), so she strutted next to me and asked for a smoke. I was tipsy, she was a bit tipsy and a little high... They have this very nice, fu*kable circle of girls and I would like to be "passed around" (can't screw this one up)

Say, 2 days and I call her, should be fine, right? I see others that say no way man, stick to the rule.
 

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I've been saying this for years. The rules here are guidelines; they aren't fail proof.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Why not make it a full 7 if they're onto a 3-5 day rule? You'll still be the guy who is different.
 

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I prefer 2 day rule.

If you fone the next day your a chump.
 

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These rules are very loose and context sensitive. I've texted girls as soon as I leave the venue with their number and still gotten a date.
 

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Faded Image said:
I've been saying this for years. The rules here are guidelines; they aren't fail proof.

Yep. When I was younger and less confident, I would do the normal "Wait 2 days" thing. These days, I call/text when I want. I don't worry about coming off as needy because I'm truly not needy.

The only rule I abide by in texting is, don't spend a bunch of time doing the back and forth conversation. Set up your date in 1 or 2 messages and end the convo.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rules come from experience. An theyre not exactly rules; just advice.
I think of two guys who have never had advice and have never known about the 3-5 or whatever days's rules:

A needy guy -> feels his chest is gonna pop if he doesnt call -> He calls right away and comes as needy -> Doesnt get the date.

A confident guy -> really doesnt feel inside he has to call right away -> He calls when he wants -> Gets the date.
 

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Maxfarsigth said:
Rules come from experience. An theyre not exactly rules; just advice.
I think of two guys who have never had advice and have never known about the 3-5 or whatever days's rules:

A needy guy -> feels his chest is gonna pop if he doesnt call -> He calls right away and comes as needy -> Doesnt get the date.

A confident guy -> really doesnt feel inside he has to call right away -> He calls when he wants -> Gets the date.
Puts it in the perspective, very nice response.


Don't worry, we will dial her nicely.
 

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thats what I can't stand about girls, is knowing when not to draw the line when coming across as desperate, needy, clingy, or not interested.
 

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PapiChulo said:
Does the 3-5 day rule after getting the phone number applies to texting? I am getting some long distance digits from girls living in smaller communities outside of Vancouver, so they suggest texting rather than calling. I could probably call anyway....though.
I have two questions?

1) Why are you dealing with women you can't see on a regular basis?

2) How does texting improve your game?
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i dont believe in that rule bullcrap. i just text when i want or call.

seriously. if the girl likes you she doesnt care when or how.. this was said in another thread.
 

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Just do what your gutt tells you, not your brain. Sometimes calling on the same day is a good idea, sometimes calling a week after is. It depends on your interaction. I am sure your gutt know what is desperation and what isn't. The same apllies with texting, but honestly calling is better (in 99.9%) of circumstances lol.
 

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Ease said:
I prefer 2 day rule.

If you fone the next day your a chump.
I think two days is best, definitely don't wait three. However, I wouldn't dismiss any guy who calls the next day as a chump. You have to assess the situation. In some situations, a next day call/text may be the only option.

For example, you number close a girl at a bar where she may have given her number out to five other guys that night. If you wait even the two days, she may forget. However, wait longer and ALL those guys could start calling.

As to the call/text debate, while many girls are heavily into texting, men should not allow themselves to fall into endless back-and-forth texting sessions. The exception could be where the girl has one of those phone plans that limits her minutes, which could be why she prefers text. Still, guys should minimize texting to only when needed.
 
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