"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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2nd date closing on 1st date.

drift king

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is it necessary to 2nd date close on a 1st date? i.e. make arrangements for time/place

at some point, if the date is going well she may mute about seeing u again next time or vice versa. i have had this happen to me in the past but i've made the mistake of trying to act on it and reserve a time and place then and there which may come across as clingy..

last week for instance my date could only meet me for an hour and told me this beforehand. she said to me 'i have to go now but we can meet up again next week' (this sounds like a blow off but it was preagreed we could only meet for 45mins before the date)

i attempted to secure a time there and then and tried to find out when best to call.. i should have avoided this i think, can this potentially ruin all your good work on the date?

should u just leave the arragements for a 2nd date to the next phone call?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tsmith2334

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DonS said:
Attempting to arrange another date before the first is over is AFC and needy. Dude, have a fun, light, simple and exciting date. Give a simple kiss goodnight; and then let her daydream and wonder about you. "Does he like me, will he call again, did I do something wrong on the date?" When a woman has to wonder, she has to feel attraction. Give her a call on Tuesday of the next week and invite her to hang out with you doing something you are going to be doing anyways. Play it cool and be a mystery!
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