"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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2nd date closing on 1st date.

drift king

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is it necessary to 2nd date close on a 1st date? i.e. make arrangements for time/place

at some point, if the date is going well she may mute about seeing u again next time or vice versa. i have had this happen to me in the past but i've made the mistake of trying to act on it and reserve a time and place then and there which may come across as clingy..

last week for instance my date could only meet me for an hour and told me this beforehand. she said to me 'i have to go now but we can meet up again next week' (this sounds like a blow off but it was preagreed we could only meet for 45mins before the date)

i attempted to secure a time there and then and tried to find out when best to call.. i should have avoided this i think, can this potentially ruin all your good work on the date?

should u just leave the arragements for a 2nd date to the next phone call?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334

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DonS said:
Attempting to arrange another date before the first is over is AFC and needy. Dude, have a fun, light, simple and exciting date. Give a simple kiss goodnight; and then let her daydream and wonder about you. "Does he like me, will he call again, did I do something wrong on the date?" When a woman has to wonder, she has to feel attraction. Give her a call on Tuesday of the next week and invite her to hang out with you doing something you are going to be doing anyways. Play it cool and be a mystery!
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