2nd date and valentine's day advice

[LDD]

Hi all,

So, I just went out with this girl last night for the 1st date.
We kissed and hugged (no sex on first date as our society in my country is a lot more conservative than western ones).

Looking back, there were many things I could have done better (I'm a noob and honestly, I have tried my best), but overall, I don't think I did that bad since the end part of the date was pretty much much better than the initial part.

The date lasted 5+ hours. I tried to end it faster (they say 1st dates = 2 - 3 hours most, maybe 2 hours) but we both just can't control ourselves and it just had to go on.

Now, my questions are:

1) How long should I wait for 2nd date?

2) I've a social gathering next Thur and she'll be there (since we have many mutual friends). How should I behave in this sort of situation? Cos' now, she's not exactly my girlfriend officially yet, but we're not platonic friends either.
Kinda stuck in between, like a pre-girlfriend stage.
It's this kind of gray area that makes me confused. Problem is, because this is gonna be a dinner with friends, it's impossible to isolate her.
Should I ask her out for a 2nd date during this social gathering?

3) Since it's 9 Jan now, should I just wait for Valentine's day to come to ask her out for 2nd date? Cos' she's traveling overseas from end-Jan - early Feb, so it's a bit hard to nail a date down.

4) Girls always say they like funny guys and girls laugh the hardest and enjoy themselves around those naturally funny guys, but I noticed that in almost every couple I've seen on the streets, or friends etc, they tend to have a more solemn mood if you know what I mean.
E.g: girl and guy walking slowly, talking, not much laughter, some kissing instead of the girl laughing all the time at her boyfriend's jokes etc

5) Since the girl is from social circle and some of our friends have already started "grilling" me on the date etc, should I pretend we didn't go on the date, or should I just come out and admit it etc.?
Cos' the girl told one of her friends that she went out with me, and it started spreading. I'm afraid if I admit it openly, she might get pissed. Not sure, though.

Tks!
LDD

 

[Maximus Rex]

5 Hour First Date What The F*ck?

The date lasted 5+ hours. I tried to end it faster (they say 1st dates = 2 - 3 hours most, maybe 2 hours) but we both just can't control ourselves and it just had to go on.

F*ck were you doing on a first date for five hours? You better hope that during that time span you didn't do or say something that turned this chick off. The first date shouldn't be longer than an 1 1/2 and the conservative nature of your country ain't got sh*t to do with trying to hit that woman's c*ck.

1) How long should I wait for 2nd date?

When are you trying to see her again?

2) I've a social gathering next Thur and she'll be there (since we have many mutual friends).

Don't go to the social gathering, and if you do, don't go thinking that there's "something," between you and this chick. She's a stranger that you have a five hour date with, not your betrothed from a pending arranged marriage.

How should I behave in this sort of situation?

Spin plates my nigga, spin plates.

Cos' now, she's not exactly my girlfriend officially yet, but we're not platonic friends either.Kinda stuck in between, like a pre-girlfriend stage.

:crackup: You're a funny muthaf*cka. You went on a five hour date with a chick, (with no sex,) and you think you're about to become her boyfriend within a fortnight. How old are you? 14?:crackup: You're making a series of mistakes.

1) You're assuming that she feels the same exact way about you, that you do about her.

2) You're assuming that she enjoyed your hella long a$$ date.

3) You're assuming that you're the only dude that she's dating or will plan on dating.

4) You're assuming that your game is so damn tight that during course of this date, (lasted entirely too long,) that she's so enamored with you that she wouldn't entertain the thought of going out with somebody else. Nigga, you're doing entirely too much. When you get some time, you NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS

10: Stop Contacting Her Between Dates

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/11/

Episode 30: Stop Making Her The Girlfriend Too Soon

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/9/

96: Stop Being Afraid She’ll Forget You

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/2/

Episode 98: Stop Losing Women Mailbag #9 – How Long to Wait to Ask Her Out if She’s Showing Interest After the First Date

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/2/

Episode 108: What to Do When She Wants to “Take It Slow” (Stop Losing Women Mailbag #10

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/

It's this kind of gray area that makes me confused. Problem is, because this is gonna be a dinner with friends, it's impossible to isolate her.
Should I ask her out for a 2nd date during this social gathering?

Like I said before, don't go and if you do go treat as if you' weren't tryin' to holla at her. Ignore her to certain extent, keep the conversation friendly, demonstrate higher value and gain more social proof via the other women that will be attendance at the function. If possible, bring another chick.

3) Since it's 9 Jan now, should I just wait for Valentine's day
to come to ask her out for 2nd date?

:nono: :nono: :nono:

F*CK NO AND HELL-TO-NAW! Look dude, all that sh*t you see in romantic comedies that star Channing Tatum and Jennifer Lawrence one minute you Jennifer Lawrence hating Tatum, you get up and go to the bathroom, and come back, they're f*cking, getting engaged, and married, that's fantasy, that's bullsh*t. You try to take her out Valentine's Day if want her to not take you seriously and you want to never see her again.

Cos' she's traveling overseas from end-Jan - early Feb, so it's a bit hard to nail a date down.

You're over here pedstalizin' hoes. Why aren't you tryin' to holla at other chicks? Date other women till she gets back if you can't catch her before she bounces.

4) Girls always say they like funny guys and girls laugh the hardest and enjoy themselves around those naturally funny guys, but I noticed that in almost every couple I've seen on the streets, or friends etc, they tend to have a more solemn mood if you know what I mean.

F*ck what girls say because what they say is often diametrically opposed to what they're truly want. First and foremost women want a man who conveys a sense of strength and security. You can be as funny as Kevin Heart, but if she doesn't feel safe with you, you're f*cked in the game. Also who gives a sh*t about what she says she wants, you need to make her gina tingle, so that when she's ramming that rubber d*ck up her snatch, she's thinking about you.

...but I noticed that in almost every couple I've seen on the streets, or friends etc, they tend to have a more solemn mood if you know what I mean.E.g: girl and guy walking slowly, talking, not much laughter, some kissing instead of the girl laughing all the time at her boyfriend's jokes etc

As far as other couples, you spend entirely too much time thinking about other people. F*ck their relationship and perceived moods.

5) Since the girl is from social circle and some of our friends have already started "grilling" me on the date etc, should I pretend we didn't go on the date, or should I just come out and admit it etc.?

Why are you going to lie about it. If you lie about it, it's going to get back to her and she's going to think that you didn't have a good time and really won't get a second date with her. You tell you friends, what you want them to know. If you want to confirm that you went on a date, just them, "Yeah we went out." If you want to give every detail of your five hour date, do that to, unless of course they're the type to tell all of your business.

With the females, you have fun with it and ask them, "Why do you want ot know, are to trying to go out with to see what such a fun, thrilling, and exciting guy I am for yourself. I'm going to tell "whatever-the-f*ck-her-name-is." Isn't there loyalty among friends? Of course you sarcastically in a joking and fun way. Or you leave at, We went out and it was cool. I enjoyed, "whatever-the-f*ck-her-name-is," company and you leave it at that.

I'm afraid if I admit it openly, she might get pissed. Not sure, though. Tks! LDD

Are you a man or a b*tch? Seriously. Why would she get mad, unless she really isn't tryin' to f*ck with you like that? And if she does get mad, you check her a$$ and next the b*tch.

 

[_sideways_]

Damn Rex.....I think u put hella effort in setting this dude straight but by the looks of it the only way he will learn is by falling down a couple of times. Props for ur time though