2day i....

[londonzen]

im ashamed
2day i..

went soft halfway trhough sex (due to looseness) pulled off the condom and rolled over.
im young and (suprisinly for me) hadnt been on any booze or weed today
she gave me a bj then got on top and rid rubbishly for 5 mins until i flipped over and got on top this lasted about 5 mins i came.

we talked for about 10 mins to she started wave her butt at me and said she likes doggy alot so i got up and started but her shes a bit chubby and i was halfhearted so i flipped her again and started banging away until she said something (am i ok) or something stupid.

she asked for doggy again and then as we moved positions i noticed i was soft. i then made the mistake of saying "this hasnt happened b4"(it hasnt)
she looked really pissed off.

she gave me a bj again i got hard then she went to ride again and..... it happened again.
at this she looked really upset but politely invited me to leave(says she was tired)

2 points
1 even though i just came, sometimes even latter in the day i can come more then once with a shorter recovery
so that shouldnt be the problem
2 shes quite fat and has realy bad cellulite on her butt
(maybe it was this)

this was my worst ever sexual performance and i feel like a failure any one else had something like this booze and drug free at such a young age
and recovered?

am i going slowly gay lol?
was it her ?
was i tired?

thanks

 

[dalynxx]

Well if you are not attracted to her - why don't you fantasize about your ideal babe when you are fuvking? Maybe it will keep you hard...

Don't feel like a failure, everyone has a bad performance once in their lives. Even women feel the pressure to perform cos most men think sex will be like the porn vids and expect us to ride like a porn star/give head like one etc.

 

[londonzen]

i didnt expect her to ride like a pro basically when she was riding she was 2 heavy and instead of going updown she was doing this left to right thing which isnt smooth.

and like i said also when i tried closing my eyes (to let my brain drift) she kept talking and even said "look at me babes " at 1 point

lol thanks for your encouragement i should recover

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

Even women feel the pressure to perform cos most men think sex will be like the porn vids and expect us to ride like a porn star/give head like one etc.

Well they would, but that's the man's fault. I've proven to women I know (even without having sex) that one woman is not inherently better than another in bed, it's how she feels approaching the situation (anxiety, fear of consequences, respect in general, being judged, told on, etc...), that determines how much of an animal she will be...even if she doesn't have hardly any experience at all one won't be "better" than another. It'll just be different given the same exact circumstances and man.

I can't really explain well here. It takes having a woman close/comfortable so that I can "paint pictures" (describe situations) in her mind so she can feel hypothetical situations and then contrast one situation with another while she's immersed in the feelings I'm describing. Sort of a fantasy "what if". Then she'll "feel" how she'd respond in different situations.

I'm sure, being a woman, you understand what I mean since it can't be translated to words only, it has to be felt.

 

[dalynxx]

Well they would, but that's the man's fault. I've proven to women I know (even without having sex) that one woman is not inherently better than another in bed, it's how she feels approaching the situation (anxiety, fear of consequences, respect in general, being judged, told on, etc...), that determines how much of an animal she will be...even if she doesn't have hardly any experience at all one won't be "better" than another. It'll just be different given the same exact circumstances and man.

I can't really explain well here. It takes having a woman close/comfortable so that I can "paint pictures" (describe situations) in her mind so she can feel hypothetical situations and then contrast one situation with another while she's immersed in the feelings I'm describing. Sort of a fantasy "what if". Then she'll "feel" how she'd respond in different situations.

I'm sure, being a woman, you understand what I mean since it can't be translated to words only, it has to be felt.

I get exactly what you're saying - when a chick feels comfortable, she will get lost in her feelings and probably perform better. But at the same time, women do worry about their performance too - a lot in fact. I dance a lot, so that really helped me when it came to riding on top. I also workout with weights (lunges, squats etc) so my thighs are quite strong and I can be up top for a long time. But I bet most guys think girls just have to show up right? But on the contrary, we're always trying to learn new ways to please our "man"....