So i met this 28 year old half chinese/white chick over the weekend and I must say shes quite attractive/sick body/really nice. I'm 22 btw. We first met through a group of 14 people and it just so happens we were chatting it up at a bar and eventually we went to a club and danced together almost the entire night. Anyhow she emailed me monday asking if we should go out for dinner sometime during the week. I obviously wrote back and said yeah i'd love to go for some dinner. Now, she doesn't look 28, but rather my age, and I have this feeling that shes really sad that shes 28. Does her asking me to go to dinner, prove that she wants to have sex? What can a 28 year old chick get out emotionally out of a 22 year old dude other than to bone right? Any words of advice on how I could seal the deal and lay her that night?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
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28 year old chick asked me out for dinner, i'm 22, need advice
- Thread starter cheese06
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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You're reading too much into this. She asked you to dinner because she's interested in you.
Women date guys for many reasons regardless of their age. Now, quit thinking that she's a goddam prostitute and take her out to a fun place for dinner!
RedPill
Master Don Juan
You're reading way too much into this. Treat her like any other chick. Btw if all she wants you for is sex, then it's really the perfect situation, right? Take her out, tease her, have fun, be confident, and have some condoms available.cheese06 said:
Freewheelin Frank
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People mature and grow at different rates. There are people who are 27 and are a fuller, more developed person than people who are 42. So to say an older chick couldn't POSSIBLY want anything but sex from a younger one is immensely stupid and its a generalization. My brother's wife is 8 years older than him and they are very happy together.
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penkitten
Master Don Juan
she digs you, what else do you need?
At that stage...I personally don't see much difference between a 28 year old woman and an earlier 20s man. Maybe she is not as mature as other upper 20 women. Maybe she finds you attractive or likes you. Maybe (if you are not careful), she is working to put you in the friend zone.cheese06 said:
It is not as if you were looking for a wife. So...who cares? She is CERTAINLY in her PRIME.
daSoCalpimp
Don Juan
your thinking to much, don't think, don't ask for advice, just do, it will all work itself out in the end
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Post like this make me wonder what happened to just going with the flow? When you get a gift on christmas and aren't sure what's inside do you then ask everyone around you if it's a good idea to open it and investigate? Sounds pretty ridiculous doesn't it?