27 year old Virgin

[WingMan]

I have been waiting for marriage to have sex for the first time.
Over the last year I have realized what *****'s virtually EVERY married man is and that I have absolutely no interest in getting married in the foresee able future if ever.

It makes me sick to see grown men say things like...
"Let me ask the boss"
"Honey, do you think it would be ok if I ________"
"I can't come to the mountains this weekend because I have to watch the baby while my wife goes shopping"

Screw all of that.

I am a pretty good looking (I do need to lose a few lbs, and have hired a personal trainer) and am in sales, so I am pretty outgoing.

The only problem is I don't know where to start. I was born in a very religious home and my father was a horrible role model as far as being an alpha male goes (my mom wears the pants) and I was brought up believing that you never "took advantage" of women and you had to always respect them.

So basically I have no game. I haven't been on a date in probably 5 years, partly bacause I have been a chicken and partly because I have high expectations.

I don't want to settle for a little fat girl with no personality. I want 10's. I am willing to pay my dues to get them.

Does anybody have any specific examples of actions I can take to build my confidence or whatever I need to start getting laid?

Thanks

 

[Tomb]

REad the DJ Bible, the link is at the top of this forum.

 

[lebRambo]

hey bro. well done, for starters. Ever since about age 17 i've been cursing organized religion out at every available opportunity. The evil it has spread makes any of its redeeming features meaningless. The worst thing it has done is basically imposed unnatural constraints on the male/female dynamic. Hell, it has got a sizable portion of females convinced that they have to wait until they get married to give up the p*ssy. I can't count the number of times i've been jesus-bombed and cursed god's name in anger

so yeah, congrats for throwing that bullsh*t out the window. Also, congratulations are in order for not supplicating to the p*ssy, getting married and becoming just another pet.

Okay, so....getting laid.....firstly, READ THE DJ BIBLE. I can't emphasise this enough. read it! Its the little link in the top right hand corner of your page.

However, after having read the bible, your most important test comes: actually GOING OUT AND SARGING. This is where the Keyboard Jockeys are weeded out from the pack, and the aspiring DJs are born. If you don't go out and sarge, nothing will change. You must go out, approach women and apply the techniques you learn here.

Lastly, take everything said with a grain of salt. Some techniques are completely inappropriate for certain circumstances. I'm assuming that you are a reasonably intelligent guy,and can make this decision for yourself.


Good luck, and I sincerely hope that you do well.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by WingMan
Does anybody have any specific examples of actions I can take to build my confidence or whatever I need to start getting laid?

Thanks

You want to get laid? Well buy a plane ticket for Nevada or the Netherlands and when you come off the plane go visit the local brothel...

Now if you don't want to do that then that just means you're not desperate... which is a good thing because chicks are just turned off by a guy who reeks of desperation...

 

[graffiti8nation]

Originally posted by WingMan
I have been waiting for marriage to have sex for the first time.
Over the last year I have realized what *****'s virtually EVERY married man is and that I have absolutely no interest in getting married in the foresee able future if ever.

It makes me sick to see grown men say things like...
"Let me ask the boss"
"Honey, do you think it would be ok if I ________"
"I can't come to the mountains this weekend because I have to watch the baby while my wife goes shopping"

Screw all of that.

I am a pretty good looking (I do need to lose a few lbs, and have hired a personal trainer) and am in sales, so I am pretty outgoing.

The only problem is I don't know where to start. I was born in a very religious home and my father was a horrible role model as far as being an alpha male goes (my mom wears the pants) and I was brought up believing that you never "took advantage" of women and you had to always respect them.

So basically I have no game. I haven't been on a date in probably 5 years, partly bacause I have been a chicken and partly because I have high expectations.

I don't want to settle for a little fat girl with no personality. I want 10's. I am willing to pay my dues to get them.

Does anybody have any specific examples of actions I can take to build my confidence or whatever I need to start getting laid?

Thanks

Mate, you go out and talk to hot chicks and practice more. Cheers.

 

[quest]

tell me you've been in a postition to have sex before?

its so sad if you haven't.

your like a lump of clay which we can mold into something beautiful, or that will stay a dirty peice of clay.

its up to you.

Start your reading. DJ bible + general posts/tips. You need to be smart enough to work out what is just rediculous and whats not. its easily done.

You need to beleive in what we teach.

And you need to practise it in the field. <- by far the most important step.

You SHOULD start practising tomorrow. You MAY fail. You MAY succeed..

failure is good. Success COULD be bad. With a little success you could quickly become some girls b*tch.

IF you are successful, continue to read and learn.

It will probably take 6-18 months before you have a complete change of mindset.

 

[libre]

Dive

If you do want to swim, sometime you will have to get in the water. Your fear of rejection is paralysing you; all the rest are all excuses for not moving.

You are looking for a 10? What are you yourself? I'm sorry to break it to you, but a 10 will not date you. You have too many issues. The looking for a 10 is just another excuse. Snap out of it and start making moves to women that interest you. You do want to grow up don't you?

Make moves to women that interest you. Sure you will be rejected but you will learn that you will outlive those rejections. Practice makes perfect and eventually a girl will fancy you.

Good courage and luck sir.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by WingMan
I It makes me sick to see grown men say things like...
"Let me ask the boss"
"Honey, do you think it would be ok if I ________"
"I can't come to the mountains this weekend because I have to watch the baby while my wife goes shopping"

just by realizing this you put your self ahead of good deal of newbies on this forum. Before you start chasing pvssy you need to reflect on your life and figure out where you want to be and what do you want your life to be like at, 30,40,50....What makes you happy. Do you want to be more of a risk taker and enjoye every thing the life has to offer (travel, meeting new people, seeing new tings....) Then DECIDE to make those changes to your life. As things start to happen, you'll be more happy. You'll feel more like a man. You'll be even more confident. Once you have accomplished some of the goals, you may include wemen in.

I know this answer may be too general for you, but it's the best I can do. Go figue out what you want and make your self happy. The rest will come. Unlike on some other issues, i can speak from experience on this. I decided I was a man, and That I was gona start making things happen for me. I changed jobs, started going to the gym every day. Started taking night school (2 times a week) for personal improvment or job impovment. Started socilizing more with pople at work. I try to make and keep a friendly (light) converstion with anybody I talk to (clerks, secretarys....just random people). I've had some nice (light) converstions with couple guys in my class and some chick (no prospects at this time). I've had a lot of good responses. I am comforatable in my skin and people see it. People start to talk to you more, and give you a friendly smile as they pass you in the hallway (mostly chicks) . I also rearanged my finances so I get more for my money.....that kind of thing. obvously It'll take time. in fact, impoving your self will talke you a life time. but you'll be truley happy.

Once you are really happy with your self thats, when you can go out and find people who will accept you in their social circle. And with that come wemen......


ps: sorry about the spelling.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

"Hi everyone, My name is Mr. Dumbass - I'm a virgin in his late 20s, yet I'm better looking than most of you, plus I have better social skills to talk to anyone I want. I want super attractive girls but don't want to touch any fat girls just cause I'm such a great person even though I'm a virgin in his late 20s and make fun of other men who I consider inferior."

 

[Chrispy]

Re: Re: 27 year old Virgin

Originally posted by DjDreamer
You want to get laid? Well buy a plane ticket for Nevada or the Netherlands and when you come off the plane go visit the local brothel...

Now if you don't want to do that then that just means you're not desperate... which is a good thing because chicks are just turned off by a guy who reeks of desperation...

Just be aware that about 1/3 of the "women" in these red light districts are men.

 

[Brian20o2]

Originally posted by WingMan
It makes me sick to see grown men say things like...
"Let me ask the boss"

My stepdad uses that all the time and it just pisses me off he cant make his own decisions

 

[Jukeboxhero]

So tell me, what exactly are your plans?

Are you just abandoning your religion to get laid? Or just the one part where you want to wait til marriage?

I really wouldn't advise abandoning your religion just because suddenly realized you were a 27 yr old virgin and wanted to get laid! Personally I would try to hold some stock in the values and ethics that you were raised on and perhaps have a little more patience. Trust me, I know from Personal experience because I am also 27 and a virgin. I don't know if I will manage to not have sex before marriage but that doesn't mean I can't be a DJ and have Gf's and all that. It also doesn't meant that you have to be uber-submissive like your friends.

Anyways, it's obviously up to you when you want to lose your virginity, but I think you should also lower your standards anymore. There a plenty of options between a fat girl with no personality and a 10, how about average girls with personality?
The whole restricting yourself to a 10 seems rather shallow.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
"Hi everyone, My name is Mr. Dumbass - I'm a virgin in his late 20s, yet I'm better looking than most of you, plus I have better social skills to talk to anyone I want. I want super attractive girls but don't want to touch any fat girls just cause I'm such a great person even though I'm a virgin in his late 20s and make fun of other men who I consider inferior."

lol... yep... that's the jest of this thread.. a condescending virgin... madness...

 

[WingMan]

It's not that I just want to get laid, I'm in no hurry. I'm not lonely or depressed. I just have headtrash about chicks and it has held me back from meeting them. I let my fears hold me back.

I didn't mean to come off as condesending or offend anybody.

It is possible that I may never get a 10, but isn't it fun to dream big?

I have had opportunities to get laid (not recently however) but I always told the chick where I stood.

As far as abandoning my religion? I wouldn't say that but I defenantly don't go to church anymore. I figure I don't want to get married so in the future If I get the opportuity I may take it.

I appreciate everybody who was generous enough to give real advice and suggestions.

As for everybody else, keep setting your sights low in life and I am sure that you will not be disapointed.