"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
27 Unique Ideas for Dates, from Yahoo!
- Thread starter blinkwatt
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Uh... "Unique"?
95% of that sh!t is lame as fvck.
"27 very plain ideas to bore the snot out of a date."
What a douche.
go to a park and throw a frisbee
take your cat for a walk
go to a "pick your own" fruit place
roast marshmallows over a sterno can or grill "spontaneously"
fly a kite off the top of a parking ramp
go pretend to be street performers - suck really bad on purpose
pistol range
rent a tandem bike
get dressed up, smoke a bunch of weed, and go sit through an opera: don't forget the gummi bears
chuck e. cheese?
play jax or pick-up sticks on a crowded street over a coffee, maybe some hopscotch once you're jacked-up on caffeine.
sneak a couple 40's into the movie theatre - bring long straws
go to a thrift store (second-hand, goodwill, etc.) and rummage around (those places are hilarious)
Put on bright orange shirts and walk around in home depot (red shirts: target, blue shirts: Wal-Mart, etc.) (heck, buy the shirts at the thrift store for a dime a piece)
get sidetracked and go with it, keep getting sidetracked - promise dinner, end up skipping stones by a river, etc.
get on a bus and ride around until you see something you want to do or see.
water ballon fight
feed pigeons/ducks/geese/seagulls
make vegetable gardens in flower pots and grow food in your bedroom window (I've got serano chili peppers, lettuce, onions, and grass for my cat in my window)
go sledding
scavenger hunt
instead of watching a movie, put the tv in the window and watch the movie in lawn chairs outside.
buy a box of brownie mix, go over to a neighbor's, ask for a "cup of sugar", reward them with the brownies you made with the cup of sugar.
go to a greenhouse and mess with the venus fly traps
blow bubbles on a pedestrian bridge/overpass above a rush-hour traffic jam
go to a dollar store, laugh at the food, mess with the toys (tell your date you are taking her out for dinner, but go to the dollar store instead for "dinner"... "Oh, you got all dressed up for Dollar General? FANCY!)
oops, that's like 28...
Go help out on Bingo night at the old folk's home?
Sure, if the smell of Ben Gay and soggy depends gets your chick wet.
Dude had like 3 or 4 ideas that didn't suck.
95% of that sh!t is lame as fvck.
"27 very plain ideas to bore the snot out of a date."
What a douche.
go to a park and throw a frisbee
take your cat for a walk
go to a "pick your own" fruit place
roast marshmallows over a sterno can or grill "spontaneously"
fly a kite off the top of a parking ramp
go pretend to be street performers - suck really bad on purpose
pistol range
rent a tandem bike
get dressed up, smoke a bunch of weed, and go sit through an opera: don't forget the gummi bears
chuck e. cheese?
play jax or pick-up sticks on a crowded street over a coffee, maybe some hopscotch once you're jacked-up on caffeine.
sneak a couple 40's into the movie theatre - bring long straws
go to a thrift store (second-hand, goodwill, etc.) and rummage around (those places are hilarious)
Put on bright orange shirts and walk around in home depot (red shirts: target, blue shirts: Wal-Mart, etc.) (heck, buy the shirts at the thrift store for a dime a piece)
get sidetracked and go with it, keep getting sidetracked - promise dinner, end up skipping stones by a river, etc.
get on a bus and ride around until you see something you want to do or see.
water ballon fight
feed pigeons/ducks/geese/seagulls
make vegetable gardens in flower pots and grow food in your bedroom window (I've got serano chili peppers, lettuce, onions, and grass for my cat in my window)
go sledding
scavenger hunt
instead of watching a movie, put the tv in the window and watch the movie in lawn chairs outside.
buy a box of brownie mix, go over to a neighbor's, ask for a "cup of sugar", reward them with the brownies you made with the cup of sugar.
go to a greenhouse and mess with the venus fly traps
blow bubbles on a pedestrian bridge/overpass above a rush-hour traffic jam
go to a dollar store, laugh at the food, mess with the toys (tell your date you are taking her out for dinner, but go to the dollar store instead for "dinner"... "Oh, you got all dressed up for Dollar General? FANCY!)
oops, that's like 28...
Go help out on Bingo night at the old folk's home?
Sure, if the smell of Ben Gay and soggy depends gets your chick wet.
Dude had like 3 or 4 ideas that didn't suck.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yeah, all of them seemed like cliché "nice guy" stuff. I will admit that the race car driving school did sound intriguing, I think I'm going to put that on my personal list of "to do's."
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
yea that list blows big time...thats things to do if you dont want another date....my personal favorite ona first date is roller skating, girls like that kinda stuff...unless theyre very uncoordinated...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Learning how to drive a race car???saber said:
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
yea It would be awesome to be a Nascar driver. Now thats a profession chics definitely are attracted to
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yeah, but I'm an anarchist. I'd want to turn the wheel to the right.NSUballer said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.