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27 and I’ve never dated, don’t have any friends either

Should I quit my job because I’m not making friends there?

  • Yeah, quit and look for a different job

    Votes: 2 15.4%
  • No, keep your job and just transfer if nothing changes

    Votes: 11 84.6%

  • Total voters
    13

bat soup

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This sh*t’s been weighing on me more these past few days and I could really use some advice so I thought I’d share here and hope you guys could help and give me some tips. I’ve never dated before, only been on one date my whole life and that was back in 2015 when I was 21, also hooked up with her that night so that was when I got my first kiss and lost my virginity. Then 5 years later in July of last year, I hooked up with another girl, but we only made it to oral so it doesn’t count all the way. I’ve never asked a girl out either (I would explain why, but I don’t want to make this post too long) the first girl came onto me and asked me out, and the second girl was a friend of my friend and we hooked up when she came over to hang out.

I also don’t have any friends and there’s multiple reasons why that happened, but I lost my last friend (the one I mentioned above) last summer when he moved out of state. I was hoping that once I got a new job that I would make some new friends since I used to work alone as an Amazon delivery driver for my last job, but that hasn’t happened at my current job that I got at a grocery store. I briefly considered quitting my job because of this, and I created that poll to see what you guys think, but I probably won’t quit because its a union job with good benefits and this union represents almost every grocery store in my area and also represents a casino and 2 weed dispensaries. So I’m thinking the better option for me would be to eventually transfer to another store or another employer also represented by this union if things don’t get any better. But I don’t think too many girls would date a guy who doesn’t have any friends, in addition to never having had a girlfriend. I think that’s probably gonna turn off a lot of girls and they’ll just get the impression that I’m a social reject and a loser. One last thing that I wanted to add is that I also still live at home with my parents and I feel like that probably makes things worse too.
What interests do you have? Find people that you have something in common with and hang out with them.

For example, go on a backpacking trip through Europe, join a backgammon club, do some courses etc. This should help you to both make friends and meet women. And no, don't quit your job. It's nice if you happen to make friends at work but that's not it's purpose.
 

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What interests do you have? Find people that you have something in common with and hang out with them.

For example, go on a backpacking trip through Europe, join a backgammon club, do some courses etc. This should help you to both make friends and meet women. And no, don't quit your job. It's nice if you happen to make friends at work but that's not it's purpose.
That’s true, the main purpose of a job is to make money, making friends is just an added bonus that might or might not happen. I think I’ve made a mistake by relying too heavily on my workplace to give me a new social circle, hobby groups that put me around people with similar interests are probably the best option. There might not be as many of them right now due to the pandemic, but that’s probably a good place to start once social distancing starts to be lifted.
 

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That’s true, the main purpose of a job is to make money, making friends is just an added bonus that might or might not happen. I think I’ve made a mistake by relying too heavily on my workplace to give me a new social circle, hobby groups that put me around people with similar interests are probably the best option. There might not be as many of them right now due to the pandemic, but that’s probably a good place to start once social distancing starts to be lifted.
Yeah, when you're at school you'd expect to make friends there but with jobs it's different.

It's good to get along with your colleagues but you won't necessarily want to see them outside of work.
 
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