Sup guys,
Basically I'm a physician out of med school that's now starting to implement info/approaches I've read over and over on sosuave (past 4-5 yrs). I'm hilariously 'behind' in regards to woman scene and I've got an acute conflict leading to some anxiety which has led me to ask for y'all input (did go over some DJ bible stuff again today).
The short of it is: One of my colleagues in specialty I'm training is an international grade from saudi. She's 'hot' to average bloke and has been a target since day 1 (5 months ago). I've been overly picky/reserved, but seem to be quite into this chick. I've Increased communication in past month texting and she's been ambiguously responsive/flirtatious (texting/in person), which I likely overly bought into. Escalated kino (initially too much) to touching her her face which seemed positively received. Flirt by explicitly joking that she's overly into me/etc. The other 'lesser' dudes colleagues of mine basically hit on her and failed, and my bro (yesterday) tells me she was always flirtatious. She's got the whole intense/independent persona (reaction to suppressive culture possibly). I feel pretty bummed bc I got over invested in making things happen, and now I feel like been getting played like those guys. I am 'brown', though like her, compared to other caucasian dudes who have gone for her.
My rational/objective voice tells me basically couple options: 1) to 'walk away' in position of strength/self control/discipline/etc. 2) say '**** it', go for it with persistent confidence, 3) escalate quickly to illicit clear 'rejection' and cheerfully welcome it that is outcome......my current plant was to basically just be persistently confident and escalate (within next 2 weeks) till she clearly rejects my advance, at which time i will cease to give her attention. Plan was basically 'tell her' we're going out this weekend to "activity/drinks".
Obviously my 'anxiety' is leading to impulses of the AFC reaction of 'anger/spite/etc' which I have relatively resolved.
I am in miami so there's plenty of targets abound, am still also working on developing that aspect of game (bars/clubs/etc). Been a relatively straight edge, fairly jacked (compared to avg), dress well etc, but prolly have some legit social anxiety.
tldr; noob DJ, going for sought after colleague doctor/got AFC thoughts/impulses/got some stuff going for me/conflict with rationale part of mind to act more like a DJ, could use some words of advice/support.
Basically I'm a physician out of med school that's now starting to implement info/approaches I've read over and over on sosuave (past 4-5 yrs). I'm hilariously 'behind' in regards to woman scene and I've got an acute conflict leading to some anxiety which has led me to ask for y'all input (did go over some DJ bible stuff again today).
The short of it is: One of my colleagues in specialty I'm training is an international grade from saudi. She's 'hot' to average bloke and has been a target since day 1 (5 months ago). I've been overly picky/reserved, but seem to be quite into this chick. I've Increased communication in past month texting and she's been ambiguously responsive/flirtatious (texting/in person), which I likely overly bought into. Escalated kino (initially too much) to touching her her face which seemed positively received. Flirt by explicitly joking that she's overly into me/etc. The other 'lesser' dudes colleagues of mine basically hit on her and failed, and my bro (yesterday) tells me she was always flirtatious. She's got the whole intense/independent persona (reaction to suppressive culture possibly). I feel pretty bummed bc I got over invested in making things happen, and now I feel like been getting played like those guys. I am 'brown', though like her, compared to other caucasian dudes who have gone for her.
My rational/objective voice tells me basically couple options: 1) to 'walk away' in position of strength/self control/discipline/etc. 2) say '**** it', go for it with persistent confidence, 3) escalate quickly to illicit clear 'rejection' and cheerfully welcome it that is outcome......my current plant was to basically just be persistently confident and escalate (within next 2 weeks) till she clearly rejects my advance, at which time i will cease to give her attention. Plan was basically 'tell her' we're going out this weekend to "activity/drinks".
Obviously my 'anxiety' is leading to impulses of the AFC reaction of 'anger/spite/etc' which I have relatively resolved.
I am in miami so there's plenty of targets abound, am still also working on developing that aspect of game (bars/clubs/etc). Been a relatively straight edge, fairly jacked (compared to avg), dress well etc, but prolly have some legit social anxiety.
tldr; noob DJ, going for sought after colleague doctor/got AFC thoughts/impulses/got some stuff going for me/conflict with rationale part of mind to act more like a DJ, could use some words of advice/support.
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