Well, another one joins the fray. I just wanted to make a post and hopefully garner some support from guys who have made it through what I'm going through... or what I'm about to go through.
A little background, I'm 26, and I've been completely unsuccessfull with my social life (and dating) for the last six years or so. My days consist of going to work, and spending whatever time I have left smoking pot and watching television... not exactly a recipe for healthy living. I had some success when I was younger, despite low self esteem, thanks to my supposedly good looks. Close to my 21st birthday I finally got to date a bonafied HB10, but she took me for an absolute ride. Long story short she played me and was probably the catalyst for a long steady decline in my behavior. My crushed self-esteem led to rejection after rejection, until I practically gave up on women and focused entirely on my career and the gym (Yes, despite my drug abuse and poisoned mental state, I was able to succeed surprisingly well in my professional life, I figure if I can't stop myself, who else can?). Eventually I got into excellent shape, but with the giant void in my mind, I was still unable to forge any success, I think part of me expected for things to just "happen," but I know better now. Subsequently, I stopped going to the gym, and have fallen into another rut.
Now, as I'm getting older and watching the years go by faster and faster, I know that I'll never forgive myself if I don't take the opportunity to do something positive for myself, so here I am. I am going to try and completely turn my life around. I know it won't be easy, I still clench up at the thought of approaching a woman, and I don't have a social group to go out with. The only friends I have left are pothead deadbeats whom have stopped returning my calls, probably because they sensed the unsatisfaction in me when we hung out these last few months. We've had some fun in the past, but I need to move on to something completely different now if I'm ever to live a life that I can dwell on and be satisfied with in my later years.
So here I am. My plan is to break out of my daily routine, I'm quitting the pot and filling my time. I am going to do the DJ Boot Camp. I figure I'll just head to a mall or cofee shop an hour or so away from where I live to do my exercises. I'm getting back into a workout plan and nutrition regimen. I'm going to go and take dancing lessons on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and I'll also take Mixed Martial Arts classes as soon as my lower back heals (I hurt it recently). I also plan to start a new business pretty soon, which should definitely keep my mind occupied.
I'm definitely afraid of falling into my old ways. I know it'll be hard my first Friday night that I have nothing to do and noone to call up. Maybe I should consider going out alone? A big part of my success I think will be finding new guy friends to hang out with. Part of me also fears that I may have waited too long to make this change. Any encouragement or advice you guys could impart would mean the world to me. Do with me what you will, I will not turn down any good advice. I'm willing to try all sorts of new things, because frankly what I've been doing hasn't been working for me. I plan on updating you guys with my progress, provided there is some.
Anyway, I guess I'll just say "Nice to meet you all!"
Do you guys think my plan is sound?
A little background, I'm 26, and I've been completely unsuccessfull with my social life (and dating) for the last six years or so. My days consist of going to work, and spending whatever time I have left smoking pot and watching television... not exactly a recipe for healthy living. I had some success when I was younger, despite low self esteem, thanks to my supposedly good looks. Close to my 21st birthday I finally got to date a bonafied HB10, but she took me for an absolute ride. Long story short she played me and was probably the catalyst for a long steady decline in my behavior. My crushed self-esteem led to rejection after rejection, until I practically gave up on women and focused entirely on my career and the gym (Yes, despite my drug abuse and poisoned mental state, I was able to succeed surprisingly well in my professional life, I figure if I can't stop myself, who else can?). Eventually I got into excellent shape, but with the giant void in my mind, I was still unable to forge any success, I think part of me expected for things to just "happen," but I know better now. Subsequently, I stopped going to the gym, and have fallen into another rut.
Now, as I'm getting older and watching the years go by faster and faster, I know that I'll never forgive myself if I don't take the opportunity to do something positive for myself, so here I am. I am going to try and completely turn my life around. I know it won't be easy, I still clench up at the thought of approaching a woman, and I don't have a social group to go out with. The only friends I have left are pothead deadbeats whom have stopped returning my calls, probably because they sensed the unsatisfaction in me when we hung out these last few months. We've had some fun in the past, but I need to move on to something completely different now if I'm ever to live a life that I can dwell on and be satisfied with in my later years.
So here I am. My plan is to break out of my daily routine, I'm quitting the pot and filling my time. I am going to do the DJ Boot Camp. I figure I'll just head to a mall or cofee shop an hour or so away from where I live to do my exercises. I'm getting back into a workout plan and nutrition regimen. I'm going to go and take dancing lessons on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and I'll also take Mixed Martial Arts classes as soon as my lower back heals (I hurt it recently). I also plan to start a new business pretty soon, which should definitely keep my mind occupied.
I'm definitely afraid of falling into my old ways. I know it'll be hard my first Friday night that I have nothing to do and noone to call up. Maybe I should consider going out alone? A big part of my success I think will be finding new guy friends to hang out with. Part of me also fears that I may have waited too long to make this change. Any encouragement or advice you guys could impart would mean the world to me. Do with me what you will, I will not turn down any good advice. I'm willing to try all sorts of new things, because frankly what I've been doing hasn't been working for me. I plan on updating you guys with my progress, provided there is some.
Anyway, I guess I'll just say "Nice to meet you all!"
Do you guys think my plan is sound?
