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@25, what should I be working on?

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Hey Guys,

In a really good place right now. Have a chance to Improve alot of things in my life @Age 25. I live on my own, have an apartment and a car. Wanted to know if there were things you suggest I work on for an Alpha Life.

Things I'm already currently working on:

-More money(currently 3k a month, soon to be 5k and working towards 8.5k)
-Physique(Muscle growth and Self defense/Fighting)
-Building better credit
-Relationships with my local nightclub scene
-Learning a second language

Anything else I should be striving for?

One thing I know i'm not sure of is finding my Passion as I know that's essential for a good life. Any tips on finding that would be pretty helpful!
 

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Passion is difficult. Your interests, abilities, and circles will change as time moves forward. There’s no formula, but just pay attention to the things that you don’t hate doing, and don’t forget about the things you see/hear that sound like something you’d want to try.

I picked up golf this summer after hating it, but it was the only way to get the competitive juices out that wasn’t painful (basketball, football, etc wear you down over time). I f*kn love it now.

If you don’t hate work, definitely do what you can do stay on point and add value. Money will come, power is more important (which comes from adding more and more value).

Working out is great, but don’t chalk it up as some small task. It takes a month just to get in a habit of anything, and working out isn’t the bow flex commercial you pictured when you start. Physique can be a goal, but if you’re just starting it should be an after effect of getting in a good rhythm. I used to hit the gym to better myself for sports, and now I focus on getting my mind right. I’m lucky that I started young, but anyone can get there by starting with small, achievable goals first (same goes for everything in life).

I’ve gone on too much, but keeping your base strong is paramount and you’re off to a good start. The rest will come with patience/persistence.
 

In2theGame

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Hey Guys,

In a really good place right now. Have a chance to Improve alot of things in my life @Age 25. I live on my own, have an apartment and a car. Wanted to know if there were things you suggest I work on for an Alpha Life.

Things I'm already currently working on:

-More money(currently 3k a month, soon to be 5k and working towards 8.5k)
-Physique(Muscle growth and Self defense/Fighting)
-Building better credit
-Relationships with my local nightclub scene
-Learning a second language

Anything else I should be striving for?

One thing I know i'm not sure of is finding my Passion as I know that's essential for a good life. Any tips on finding that would be pretty helpful!
Just advice in general
  • I'd say you're doing pretty good right now but at 25, Do NOT stop working on your income growth. Work towards 40K+ a month, get yourself into the 1%. When you're in your mid 30's, you'll have the financial freedom to do what you want, when you want, where you want and how you want. People will come and go in your life and you'll be the only one who truly cares about your well being overall.
  • Stay in shape and stay away from sh*tty food as much as you can even though there will be times when you're out with friends or girls and it's inevitable that you'll eat junk food from time to time but never let it get out of control.
  • Don't be so quick to rush into a full blown relationship still in your elite prime years. Have fun with Women and a lot of sex but always be aware of falling into "The One" pit, where it may end up costing you in the end. P.S. Always wear a condom. If you're doing well financially, the last thing you want is to have a kid with a Woman you aren't sure you want to be with and then have to battle it out in court when things don't work out with her.
  • Stay clean as best as you can, Don't get involved in drugs or feel pressured to do so if you end up hanging out with people who do. Many people have this misconception that druggies are these low life, raggedy looking people but you'd be surprised to find even the wealthy and successful people indulge in that too, you just wouldn't know it from the outside.
  • When you start making more money, DO NOT fall into societies trap of debt payments. You want good cash flow and money put away somewhere to grow. Rushing out to buy a big mortgage, better luxurious car and other sh*t that will tie up your money and will potentially fvck you up somewhere down the line. Debt can be good depending on what it's for but it's a slippery slope. The Financial Institutions arent your friends, they are an asset for you to use for YOUR benefit. Banks want to make YOU their b!tch by getting you in a hole so they squeeze out as much interest out of you as they can.
  • I will repeat again, Don't fall so quick for that chick who rides you like a porn star and licks your balls all day and night. Always vet them for as long as you need to make a good decision on who you allow to tag along with you in your life. Women are great and us Men need them but if you aren't careful, they can be the most manipulative, scandalous and devious creatures you will ever meet. This applies to Men too but I'm speaking about Women because they have the pussey and will use that to lure you in.
 

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Solid friendships with people who would literally take a bullet for you and vice versa. Also don't underestimate the importance of your family relationships. As you grow older they wil eventually need you and you will need them when the occasional life-nuclear-bomb drops on you like it drops on everybody.
 

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Your off to a good start. 25 is a great age and I wish I had these resources when I was mid 20's. I'm 47
Keep going to the gym and stay fit. Eat a good diet with balanced nutrition. Take quality supplements.
Wear nice clothes and stay well manicured with hair, nails and hygiene
Spin plates for awhile, seriously. I got married at 25 and wish that I railed as many chicks as possible. My wife is great so I'm lucky!
Don't let women push you for marriage/ push them off-beat it
Be a leader in every aspect of life. Work / friends / females / social time
Learn what a female likes in the bedroom and become a master.
 

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Many good advise there I ll add some :
  • At 25 , you should watch your weight , it is start getting harder to stay lean.
  • If you are renting start thinking in owning , however if you have a better way to invest your money then think twice.
  • Like some told you, it is time to build friends and social circles, being rich without connections , like owning Ferrari without tires to enjoy the ride.
  • While many argue men peek at 35, I really think 25 to 28 is the age when you get along with women who are <25 without them thinking that you might be "old" , so if your goal to marry a young good girl , this will be your age window .
 

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Many good advise there I ll add some :
  • At 25 , you should watch your weight , it is start getting harder to stay lean.
  • If you are renting start thinking in owning , however if you have a better way to invest your money then think twice.
  • Like some told you, it is time to build friends and social circles, being rich without connections , like owning Ferrari without tires to enjoy the ride.
  • While many argue men peek at 35, I really think 25 to 28 is the age when you get along with women who are <25 without them thinking that you might be "old" , so if your goal to marry a young good girl , this will be your age window .
I agree with everything, a note on the peak:

I believe that career wise we peak in our 30s but you're right 25-30 is definitely the best for women. All women in that age range and 18-25 are attracted it seems so it's pretty cool
 

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I guess you know your doing good already. ahead of the curve.

I agree most the advice already.

Don't care how much money you earn... It is all about how much wealth you have. That is one of the most important lessons for money. Your income is a tool (bigger is better). Grow the wealth as fast as you can. That means save/invest/and take a few risk but not to many. Target 10m by 35. You actually can do that. Drive a beat car if needed until you get there. Is it better to have 1m yearly income or 20m net worth that will easily generate that same 1m while you do something fun such as earning even more.

Don't ever stop with the physical training that your doing.

Find a charity that you love. You will know it when you find it, but something that puts you in the position of being a great man. This is for you, not them.

Don't even try some of the crazy drugs. you never know what one is the one that YOU can't get away from. solution: don't try.

Women... oh my god... listen to everyone here. The point I would highlight is very simple. Make damn sure if you pick a girl for LTR and kids that she likes you more than you like her. Ideally pick someone you will be satisfied with, but you should be the more attractive one.
 
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