21 year old plate

[Aesthetix29]

Okay so I've been seeing this 21 old plate and things have been going well except maybe spending a bit too much time together... Anyway I've noticed her interest level has dropped, and she still texts me occasionally and still likes a lot of my social media statuses. How can I build her interest level back up.. I became too predictable and not mysterious. Is this salvageable? Cheers

 

[bigneil]

Welcome to the world of dating 21 year old women.

They have an "out of sight, out of mind" attitude toward all men at that age.

Their selfishness is off the charts, but that is what God decided was optimal in his quest to procreate humanity.

Things I did to get my last one back:

1) Offer a date and when she stalls, retract the offer (this is when the trouble started, but it was handled correctly).
2) Bump into her but avoid her (stay on her mind).
3) Make her miss you (go MIA for 1-3 weeks).
4) Be ready to walk forever. At this point the ball is in her court - she must initiate.
5) Assuming she does initiate (in my case she sent sexy photos of her body), wait 1-2 days to reply (ideally you are too busy to see her message).
6) During your time without her, determine what really makes her special to you, and remind her about this when you do reply. This hits her with a 1-2 punch of elation that you are back, and making her feel beautiful (which was why she liked you to begin with).
7) Do NOT mention the fact she avoided you. You're too happy with other women and overwhelmed by your desire for her.
8) Have lost weight in the meantime.
9) Have got a tan in the meantime.
10) Have dated other women and have some good stories in the meantime.
11) Have got a new job and gone on a 1000 mile journey to a new city in the meantime (to make her interested, be interesting).
12) Meet her again and let her see the new you.
13) Tell her some great stories of your time away.
14) Tell her none of the other girls compared to her.
15) Kiss her and make it a good one (this can be the highlight of the entire courtship - the makeup kiss).

 

[blind_one]

I would suggest backing off a little and letting her innitiate.

1. Spending too much time together ? Spend more of your time with other plates / self improve, whatever that means to you.

2. IL dropping ? Might be because of 1. She knows she has you by the balls.

3. Still texts = good.

When was the last time you fvckd her ? Would you worry if you had 3 other plates ? I would not give a single **** and spend time with someone else.

Withdraw attention, make her miss you and afraid of losing you. You call the shots here.

I am sure she will initiate some time down the line then you take her and smash her good.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Cheers guys... I last banged her on Saturday night ... Then she started getting a bit distant.. Not texting as much etc... I did have a missed call of her on Wednesday night which i didn't return as I was sleeping ... And she texted me last night saying she would be home soon to which I ignored. Not heard off her today yet... But I think a bit of space may do is good... As I stated we was only seeing each other so nothing's set in stone. Just need her interest level to boost haha!

 

[Aesthetix29]

In fact she's just liked a FB status ... So must still be on her mind kind of. Oh and we was messaging yesterday and she referred to her girl mates as wing girls and me as wing man ... What does that mean? Haha! She's a HB7, and I think she pulled back as things may of been moving too fast or that she's met someone else.

 

[bigneil]

I take it the OP is age 19 then if he is freaking out less than a week after having sex with her?

 

[Aesthetix29]

No not at all... But I can see interest dropping so want too nip it in the bud.

 

[El Payaso]

You care too much. You care whether she likes your status or not. You care whether she texts you or not. You care too much about these little things. They give you an emotional boost. When she doesn't do these things, you enter mental panic mode. You may not admit it but deep down, you know I'm right.

You have to stop caring and be prepared to lose her. As long as you have the fear of her leaving or losing interest, you will never truly be free and your actions will reflect it.

Fill your time up with work, school, hobbies, socializing, banging other women or whatever fancies your interest not wondering why she hasn't liked your latest status update.

Personally, I think it's dumb to have her on your social media but that's a discussion for another day.

 

[bigneil]

Personally, I think it's dumb to have her on your social media but that's a discussion for another day.

This is 100% correct. NEVER have your romantic interests on Facebook. EVER. The moment they FB friend me, I know the relationship is over. Guys who think they are getting closer to her by being her "friend" are delusional.

 

[Aspiring Don Juan]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't a plate a flat-chested, or flat-assed girl?