"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Right now, I have two girls who I know are interested in me.

Now, I'm 18 years old, currently in high school, and I've never been on a date, been with a girl, ect. I know this is not a good thing for me, but I've been recently becoming much confident over the past few years by working with the info on this site (yes, years. I've been trying to be able to talk to and attract girls for the longest time). Now, I'm much more confident, popular, ect, and now I'm in a situation I've always dreamed of.

I would like to date these two girls at the same time, but I'm worried that my lack of experience would only lead me to loose them both. I know, however, If I choose one, I will regret not going with the other. Should I go ahead and try to date both, or just date one and grit the regret?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Microphone Fiend

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well if you fail with one, there is always another one waiting in the wings :D

Just keep gettin more and more prospects and before you know it you'll be pimping things up. Doesn't it feel great to have more than one option?
 

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I'd go ahead and go on dates with both of them just to see who you like better. I'm not advocating dating a girl while you're in a relationship with another, but finding the one you like the most. Pretty standard, I think.
 

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Hey, thanks for the input, guys.

I forgot to mention, however, that they're both in my high school. Should the prospective akwardness deteer me from going on dates with both?
 

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The fact that they both go to the same school shouldn't deter you, unless the two girls are friends or something like that. I mean you're just dating ya know, it shouldn't be all that serious. You should be able to go out on a date with both girls because that's what dating is all about. You date people till you find one that you like. I doubt you'll be committing to either one of them after a first date.

Be young do what you want to do. Since you don't have that much experience, it should be perfectly reasonable for you to date around to get a feel for what you like in a girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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congrats on your successes. I will almost guarantee that you will have many more with your new found outlook on life.

Now that you have gone from nothing to what you think is too much you are ready for another step in life. This should be de-programming years of wanting and not getting that has led you to believe that you need to choose only one option. PRMoon is right on the money here. You are just starting to date them you dont have to choose yet. You really dont know how to choose yet as you haven't had a chance to see what each of these girls can offer you. Do not push yourself towards exclusiveness just because a girl likes you back. You've been here for years reading but now you are in the field. This is were real experiece comes from. You might try to juggle this and fall on your face but do not become discouraged. You are going to have years and years of girls chasing you and leading you to make choices. Every action you choose will lead to an opposite reaction. Gaining experiece in making choices and taking action will eventually give you the mindset and insight to make your choices with somewhat of an "educated" guess. I use the word educated loosely because as you mature and look at choices you'll be able to see that educated changes rather severly throughout life.

With all that said I guess the jist of the reply is that you are capable of making these choices on your own and are in a position where you are farther along the learning curve than you actually realize. I hope that you enjoy your success and trust you instincts. Above all just make sure that you have fun with all of it. You seem to be on that path anyways.
 
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