2 excellent books that every frustrated boy must read

[Suspens]

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff by Richard Carlson


Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and in Life by Margie Warrell

 

[Lozboss]

Will check them out.

Any links to ebooks (Dropbox/torrents etc)!?

Although I wouldn't say I'm a 'boy'

 

[Drummer93]

Manliness by Harvey C. Mansfield.

My favorite.

 

[SeymourCake]

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover

Ebook: https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf

 

[Darth]

Really, Pook was the most valuable material regarding women I ever read. I am so thankful to Pook for how my life is now, 10 years after I read his stuff for the first time.

 

[sph21]

Pook is a great reading material. He taught me of how to become natural.

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida is another great reading material if you want to know about how to become a real man.

 

[Suspens]

Excerpts from Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and in Life by Margie Warrell

ONEITIS

If it were easy to surrender our desire to have things turn out
just as we wanted, the world would be a far happier place. The
reality is that letting go is far easier said (and written about) than
done! There is no one-off trick I can teach you, no magical secret
I can share, no prayer or meditative technique that will have you
walking calmly and coolly through the rest of your day, much
less your life. You see, letting go is not a one-off event; rather, it
is done one day, sometimes one hour, and often one moment at a
time. The core ingredient essential to letting go is your commit-
ment to your own happiness and, with that, your willingness to
let go whatever stories, behaviors, and concerns get in the way
of your having more of it.

Letting Go Calls for a Spirit of Adventure

That you will have to experience change in your life is a certainty.
Whether your experience of change is one of fear or of wonder
is a choice. If you are terrified, not only will you be unable to
adapt to changing circumstances, but also you will miss out on
the opportunities those circumstances present. In Who Moved My
Cheese? Dr. Spencer Johnson taught that to get what we want in
life, we must be ready to adapt to change. Furthermore, he stated,
“the fastest way to change is to laugh at your own folly—then let
go and quickly move on.”

 

[Suspens]

Excerpts from Find Your Courage: 12 Acts for Becoming Fearless at Work and in Life by Margie Warrell

The quality of your conversations determines the quality of your relationships.

Seek Progress, Not Perfection
Finally, don’t wait to feel masterful before you begin the conversations about whatever is undermining your happiness, limiting your success, or causing you either low-grade or high-grade angst. Becoming an effective communicator requires ongoing commitment and practice. Begin right now by taking a big deep breath and, as you exhale, decide that the time has arrived for you to
begin speaking up and putting your thoughts and opinions on the table—however clumsily

Before you launch into a conversation that has you unnerved in contemplation, invest some time to prepare yourself. That way, you will know which step you will be attempting to achieve en route to your eventual outcome. It will be well worth your while.

 

[blind_one]

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

Wholeheartedly agreed. Very good read, eye opening to the things you thought are natural and expanding on them.

 

[RangerMIke]

Really, Pook was the most valuable material regarding women I ever read. I am so thankful to Pook for how my life is now, 10 years after I read his stuff for the first time.

Book of Pook is a GREAT read, recommended start point for anyone that wants to be a DJ.

Also "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and "The System", by Doc Love, "Unlimited Power", by Tony Robbins, are old but still relevant and almost ALL the relationship stuff for guys being sold today all come in some shape form of fashion from these three books.

 

[NSX-R]

I'm currently reading the book of pook and I'm amazed by the material. I feel already better and different after reading the half of it .

 

[stevo]

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff by Richard Carlson

Good recommendation.

This was also a good read, part of the series Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love

 

[switch7]

I think there are lots of books out there and they all really boil down to the same thing; being used to getting out of your comfort zone and not fearing failure. The ones on my list so far are:

Psycho cybernetics (already read this but need to start implementing the exercises)
Feel the ear and do it anyway
Napolean Hill: Think and grow rich
How to win friends and influence people

I'm also forming a new habit of reading autobiographies of influential people, starting with Arnold Arnold Schwarzengger's. (some may laugh but this guy is a genius) His rules to live by: Trust yourself, Break the rules, Don't be afraid to fail, Don't listen to the naysayers, work your butt off, give something back.

 

[Suspens]

New gem: Models A Comprehensive Guide to Attracting Women , by Mark Manson

Power of Vulnerability


Think of it this way, there are two men. One stands tall, looks
straight ahead. Looks people in the eye when he speaks to them.
Says what he thinks and is unconcerned with what others think of
him. When he makes a mistake, he shrugs it off and maybe
apologizes. When he sucks at something, he admits it. He’s unafraid
to express his emotions, even if that means he gets rejected. He has
no problem moving on to people who don’t reject him, but like him
for who he is.

Now, the second man hunches over, eyes dart around and is unable
to look someone in the eye without getting uncomfortable. He puts
on a cool persona that is always aloof. He avoids saying things that
may upset others, and sometimes even lies to avoid conflict. He’s
always trying to impress people. When he makes a mistake, he tries
to blame others or pretend like it didn’t happen.
He hides his emotions and will smile and tell everyone
he’s fine even when he’snot. He’s scared to death of rejection.
And when he is rejected, it sends him reeling, angry, and
desperate to find a way to win back the affection of the person
who doesn’t like him.

 

[homie]

Some of mentioned books made me more frustrated, so be careful.
I realy enjoyed "no more mr. nice guy", I think that it is number one for every frustrated guy, book of pook is good too, it is inspiring, but materials are not always that good. Also there is a book called "gorilla mindset", teaches you to treat yourself like your best friend. It helped me a lot, because I used to demand too much from myself.
Don't recommend Carnegie's books, they mess with your head really bad, makes you unnatural.
But I think it depends on person.

 

[AlphaNate]

Anyone? No one? Fine, I'll do it.

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