TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Have I missed anything? Help me brainstorm...
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
2 Days Till The Shared Custody Hearing...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
What have you done so far?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
rooting for you ladiesman
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Got all my papers in order (salary, work history, health ins,)
I've even got letters from friends who are offering babysitting services.
I'm sure it will go in front of a mediator, aka third party, and it will be broken down to a schedule that we both, hopefully, can agree upon.
It would be nice if I got my son for more than everyother weekend, and Wednesdays. Hopefully, my child support will be dropped a lil more too.
She makes twice as much as I do a year, and I still shell out $560 a month. wtf?
I've even got letters from friends who are offering babysitting services.
I'm sure it will go in front of a mediator, aka third party, and it will be broken down to a schedule that we both, hopefully, can agree upon.
It would be nice if I got my son for more than everyother weekend, and Wednesdays. Hopefully, my child support will be dropped a lil more too.
She makes twice as much as I do a year, and I still shell out $560 a month. wtf?
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Thanks PenK.penkitten said:
xoxox
btw... 8 years later.. my 1k post, was to thank no other than PenK.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
please update us as soon as that hearing is over with .
i can not imagine why a judge would not give you 50-50 at this point.
your son is no longer a baby/toddler, and he needs equal time with both parents. any court that sees a father fight to get shared custody and that can actually provide what is needed, who has stayed out of trouble, should have no beef with that.
once they say it is 50/50 i am pretty sure that support amount will go down also.
no one can guarantee what the judge/mediator will say but i just can't see them saying no unless they have due reason.
i can not imagine why a judge would not give you 50-50 at this point.
your son is no longer a baby/toddler, and he needs equal time with both parents. any court that sees a father fight to get shared custody and that can actually provide what is needed, who has stayed out of trouble, should have no beef with that.
once they say it is 50/50 i am pretty sure that support amount will go down also.
no one can guarantee what the judge/mediator will say but i just can't see them saying no unless they have due reason.
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Anybody who has followed me on this knows what I've had to go thru... with his mom, my dealings with the daycare, with my visitation being withheld from me (tis the reason I filed)... anybody who knows me, knows I love my son.
I am a good father, striving to be the best. I haven't so much as a driving ticket (2004) on my record. I work 12hrs a day 7 days a week on average to make sure my family is taken care of.
Everything I do, I do for my son. Like I said... before I'm a lover, a playa, a friend, I'm a father.. first and foremost. All my energy, with every fiber of my being, all day, every day, is spent making sure my son is loved, and well taken care of. Nothing else matters.... my purpose in life right now, is raise my son to be the best he can be.
But to do that, I need more time with him than what I'm allowed now. I hope and pray that by tomorrow, that will change. Even if I just get one more day than what I have now, I will be happy. I don't care if they don't reduce my child support, and I'll straight up tell them that. If I'm allowed to sign his report card, help decide where he goes to school, I'm totally cool with that.
He told me today, he wanted to come to court with me.......... it made me smile.
I told him he couldn't, but I would be by to pick him up as soon as it was over.
I am a good father, striving to be the best. I haven't so much as a driving ticket (2004) on my record. I work 12hrs a day 7 days a week on average to make sure my family is taken care of.
Everything I do, I do for my son. Like I said... before I'm a lover, a playa, a friend, I'm a father.. first and foremost. All my energy, with every fiber of my being, all day, every day, is spent making sure my son is loved, and well taken care of. Nothing else matters.... my purpose in life right now, is raise my son to be the best he can be.
But to do that, I need more time with him than what I'm allowed now. I hope and pray that by tomorrow, that will change. Even if I just get one more day than what I have now, I will be happy. I don't care if they don't reduce my child support, and I'll straight up tell them that. If I'm allowed to sign his report card, help decide where he goes to school, I'm totally cool with that.
He told me today, he wanted to come to court with me.......... it made me smile.
I told him he couldn't, but I would be by to pick him up as soon as it was over.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
there should be an update soon....
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.