"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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#2 and confused

Spade_1

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Well I've had a major case of oneitis for a girl that I've been interested for 2 years. She has no interest in me, and has interest for my best friend. He has no interest for her, but we're all friends. The thing is I'm not still trying for her, I'm trying to forget her and move on. The only problem is that when she's on good terms with my best friend she couldn't care less about me, but when she's on not-so friendly terms with him she comes straight to me. Not to talk about him, but I become #1 as soon as she's mad at him or they haven't talked in a while.

I hate being #2 and I don't even want her anymore, I just want her to stop comming to me as a backup. I want to send her the message in the nicest way possible cuz she is a friend and a good person. What should I do?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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