"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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2,000 Posts in 3 years, Blood sweat and tears....

Solomon

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First of I wanna thank everyone who ever commented on a post were I needed insight with genuine and sincere advice. Anyone who ever posted in my FR’s and gave me encouragement or constructive criticism even the haters and charlatans(yall pushed me to do better!) I’m just a guy like most of you who came on this site who was frustrated with women, and wanted to “step up” his game. 2000 Post guys, for me is basically

  • 300 nights going out (2 days of day game lol)
  • Over 2000 approaches
  • Getting rejected over hundreds of times when I asked for the numbers
  • Nearly 200 first dates
  • Getting Flaked on over 500 times (probably more)
  • amongst other crap which Isn't a big deal to me these days

I also wanna talk about a guy by the name of Jophill for a moment. The guy was a gentlemen and a “scholar” as well. Jophill was the perfect DJ, and IMO just as good or even a greater poster then “He-who-shall-not-named”. He was able to go toe to toe with the titans of this site and KBJ’s and didn't flinch nor did he cower in fear of all their green dots. His wisdom never ceased to amaze me. While some guys try to write elegantly and a bunch of mumbo jumbo that may be impressive to some(but usually overcomplicates things with over-analysis aka KBJING), he kept it simple yet profound, He also was a field practitioner who was able to relate to guys half his age because of that. So he wasn't just speaking out of his ass.

The next part may seem like a rant but it’s not, it’s just some my thoughts and opinions of this site at this moment. When I first found “So Suave” I was googling seduction forums. I really wanted to find one that wasn’t so “nerdy” on the PUA lingo. I found one site by the name of Pua Training or some crap and it was so heavy in PUA lingo that I didn’t understand a damn word, even after having read “The Game”. Luckily I found this site. I was sad when I read it that it seemed the site was shut down, you want to remember I was reading a “cache” version. Then one day I just typed it in and lo and behold the site was still alive and kicking!

At first I was just lurking but there were so many jewels eventually I had to sign up. I feel like the site has taking steps backwards since I got here. It seems now every week you got some guy who wants to be a “Elmer Gentry” or “Rescue Mission” hell back when I first signed up we had guys like that but now these new guys wanna give out recycled advice when half of them sound like KBJ’s. One guy recently gave advice that you should eat “bugs” in front of women then make out with them. WTF I’m dead serious, I don‘t see that type of B.S. in other forums and this “advice“ is beyond terrible. Then you got every thread were some guy who is talking about looks or and I quote “I’m good looking, fit, great job, blah blah blah” and yet their not gaining success. I was baffled because my buddies who are truly good looking but don’t use a lot of “game” have shytloads of success and according to site mantra some of them would be considered AFC yet some of them are fuccing model caliber women. Then after meeting a couple of you “good looking” guys it became obvious that you are socially awkward, not as confident as you think you are or had other issues that are beyond women that you needed to work on I.e. Depression, alcoholism, low self-esteem etc. Then lets add the fact that this site doesn’t support FR’s among other things and guys wonder why this site is still stuck in “2004”. Hell no disrespect to any Field reporter or journal guy who posts now, when I signed up on this site. The quality of gamers here was phenomenal(we were just as good as RSD IMO) . You had guys like Snowplowman who was 19 at the time yet he had more field experience then a guy in the mature men’s forums and he was partying with models and celebs. You had guys like Jon24 who may be the most well known Field reporter on this site, this guy went from AFC to Alpha in less then a year. Not just with women but getting in shape, and starting his business. This guy journal brought tears to my eyes and even when I think about his journey I still get emotional cause his story inspired me to push on. You got guys like rushingdude123 who is just a fuccing beast, the guy did 100 approaches in one day during day game. My record is 60 approaches or so and trust me half of those can’t even count cause I didn’t push for the number etc. Anyone whose ever approached women all night knows how tiring it can be but a 100 during the day? That takes balls of steel. You had guys who were getting results like Guywhoneedshelp, Daddythepimp and my homie Slickaz (who smashed some hot hot chicks) and guys who could out-write the hell out of a field report like Macallik and Noob. There were tons more guys who posted FR’s during that era. Hell even old DuffDog posted a field report or two back then with pics of hot chicks. It was a time were the quality of the site was beyond epic. I’m just glad that I came during that era because at that time guys were pushing each other to success. We encouraged each other. I remember one time I posted a “Video Field report” wrap up basically talking about my epic night. A couple weeks later Guyneedhelps posts a field report video of him driving home while he had the chick who he gamed in his car. It was friendly competition back then no one took it serious or egoistical it wasn’t like some of these guys now who think their hot shyt but they never posted a report to begin with yet want the same accolades as a veteran poster. Then "Phat Rabbit" came through in early 2009 and changed shyt up, and single handley raised the bar of field reports. Phat was probably the first guy to post not only audios but videos after that I and a couple other guys followed suite as well. I know, what your thinking “man there goes Solo again talking about Field reports” but the truth is it’s always bugged me how guys who have more then three dots get a pass or how the “vets” on this site never posts FR’s or even comment on them. Hell no disrespect to Uncle 5 String but when the only vet posting FR’s is a married guy in the mature mens forum its kind of alarming (Uncle 5 string does a fine job though). My point is for this site to move towards the right direction we as men in the fight have to support each other. I’m personally calling out any guy with 3 green dots to comment and read a FR. I’m not saying all vets don't do it, I see guys like Jeffest giving great advice as well as guys like Espi and Yuppaz and Vice is the only mod I see regularly in journals. What I’m saying is I’m noticing a paradigm shift. The forums that are evolving are forums were guys are hitting the field, learning on their own accord, now not only are photos being posted(I was one of the first to do this regularly here) But also video footage of guys going out and having a blast. Anyone whose read my blog knows right now for me game is in the back-burner I’m trying to become fit this is my goal. I know once I do that my confidence well be back to the level it was before and That My game will even be better then it was before,

Right now the game for me is the game self-improvement becoming fit, stacking my empire and living life the way that I’m suppose too

Solo's Greatest FR's and Posts

My first Field reporter ever written by Bilogomja(*sniff sniff)
Hitting the Field with Bilo
Picking up Chicks dressed as a chick!

He's baaaaaaaaaaaaacccccccckkkkkk
The Social Proof Master
****y Funny Meets Social Proof going out with DJ Lucas
3-some with Two girls called "Destiny":yes:
Solo's Redemption aka Rise of a Jedi
Solo's Redemption part 2&3
Transformation Part 2 EPICNESSS my greatest FR Ever:rockon:
Solo's Spring Training
A year later what I learned:yes:
Solo's Game manual aka reference guide
The reunion (FR)

The club commandments
Coochie Stock options
Abundance

F--K The community do you!
Some thoughts on Pof after 3 years of experience

Videos
2009 Field tribute Vid
2010 Field tribute Vid
2 Year "Reflections VID"

right now as I mentioned before I'm more worried about losing weight and getting my empire on track. I know when I'm motivated there is no one fuccing with me and that I can achieve things that I would never dream of beyond my wildest imagination

Thank you all of you

I'm outy!

:rockon:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oneboy21

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i read some posts written by jophill, i came to know he passed away recently.
anyway, i should appreciate your help to this community.
 

Vice

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Sh*t dude.

At 2000 posts you're at this point, I have some serious catching up to do.

I should have gone to the strip club tonight instead of doing my homework.

This has motivated me to fire up my own field reports again. They really do help.
 

Scars

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I've posted a fair amount of FR sense I've been here. Most of the time they go unnoticed, or I get one or two guys who give me a 'thataboy' and that's it. So I agree, a lot of people don't post too much on FR's, maybe they're intimidated by them or something? Idk what the deal is. I know I don't post in every one either, but I generally rep a person for posting one, if it's obvious they didn't completely make up the story (which I believe a few people here are guilty of, no names.) But more or less, it's generally sh!t I already know. Most of this stuff is pretty "text book" so to speak. So a lot of times, I really don't have anything to say, other than 'good job'. Rather, I like FR's wear a lesson is learned. Why did it work? Why did you take her home this time? Etc.. etc.. Or even the K-closes. I like those because I can generally outline where they may have messed up and could had turned it into an F-close. I don't consider myself a "veteran" by any means, I can wipe my ass with green dots, and I'm not on a power trip now that I'm a mod, but I don't feel like I'm entitled to post on every FR, or any post for that matter. I'm sure like most everyone else, we post in threads that interest us, we can offer advice in, and I support the members I have grown to become friends with. I'd like to see more FR's too, but we can't force people to write stories who aren't getting laid.

Another thing (and I'm sure a few members can agree) is that we don't always update this site whenever we get laid. I know I don't. Sometimes you post a FR and half way through writing it you just feel like you're trying to impress a bunch of inter-nerds and think, what's the point? I've done it a few times. Sometimes I won't even write about it at all. I may bring it up in a later post (using it as an example) but a lot of times I don't feel the need to have a whole thread dedicated to me. I generally only post FR when I learned a new gem, or if something funny/irregular (out of textbook) happens. I'm not about bragging, but my number is 33 girls. I'm only 21, so I've been around the block a couple times. But admittedly, I usually keep a couple plates around so I can fvck them as I please. I really don't want to write a FR about a girl I've already fvcked before, and have been fvcking for the past two months. That's boring. Do I have to be bedding a new check every week in order to be considered "successful" or a "veteran"? I've been getting laid at least once a week for several months now. I don't write about it. Do I need to?

If you've been here long enough you can generally tell who knows their stuff and who doesn't. Some guys here don't write FR's, but they give examples. I like to think I pay pretty decent enough attention to certain members to know who to listen to and who to just take their advice with a grain of salt. FR's are nice, informative, interesting, and influential, but I've gotten past all that. I'm not trying to speak on behalf of everyone though, this is just how I feel about it.

I kinda lost my train of thought.. but to end this, I'll just say Poonani posts FR's like a mad man. Seems like that guy is getting a new chick every time he goes out, or at least reports back with how he approached 10 different chicks. Respect.

Jophill, of course. RIP. Agreed, he was an amazing poster. We could write a new Bible with half of his posts.

Edit: Another interesting point. Check out this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176328

Watch Poonani get harassed for telling his lay stories. Accused of being lame for "bragging to a bunch of AFCs on an internet forum". He still handles it like a champ though. Not everyone respects FR's as much as you do Solomon, unfortunately. I'm kind of the same way, what's the point of trying to share your story if you're just going to get harassed or accused of lying anyway? Or some keyboard jockey trying to tell you how you "could of done it better". I'd rather save my breath. I KNOW I got laid, I feel awesome afterwards, but I don't need to share it with the world. You saw it yourself with Jophil, he gave great advice but he always had someone questioning him at all times. That's what happens when you get green dots, or show any shine of being successful. It makes you a target. I get personally attacked even more now after becoming a mod, but I just shrug it off. You're always going to have the haters who are jealous of your success. People want to be meticulous and jump at any opportunity they can to "expose" you, claim you give horrible advice, or go against that is outside of their moral code. Fvck them.

-Scars
 

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Nice post, you and scars got my respect haha. But I got a couple questions. How did jophill pass away? And why are there never any new articles? Is there just nothing more to add?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Respect Solo. Thanks for sharing your thoughts & experience.
 

5string

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Solomon

You are one of the best guys on here. I consider you a friend buddy. One day we'll have some beers.

I know you have goals and priorities right now, especially getting in shape. You can do it. Make it happen.

As far as married man field reports go, I'll try to keep them coming. Heck, why not? A married guy has to hold the frame and manage his woman right? The fire needs to remain hot in an LTR or marriage. Maybe that's the hardest thing for a DJ to do? It's not always about getting a ONS from a little hottie. Could be that maintaining a relationship and keeping it interesting and sexual is the ultimate goal, at least for some of us.

I came here for other reasons, and decided to stay and hang out. I already knew how to get the women. The guys on here are very cool. Some are my friends. I want them to be the best they can be. I want to sit back and watch them improve in life. You as well.

Now, I'm on top of the mountain. Things could not be better for me. I really have it all. It took 50 + years, but I'm there. I hope you solomon, and everyone else on here will reach this stage in life. Granted I'm an ol' fvcker now, but I ain't done having fun yet!
 

Deicide

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Hey Solomon, keep up the good work. I liked reading your blog among other things that your success has brought to you.
 

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....keep pushin bruv......you got the knowledge the know how and the attitude...one of the best here
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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luckster

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Solomon said:
right now as I mentioned before I'm more worried about losing weight and getting my empire on track. I know when I'm motivated there is no one fuccing with me and that I can achieve things that I would never dream of beyond my wildest imagination

Thank you all of you

I'm outy!

:rockon:

Glad I came on the boards today... I've found less and less motivation to come on lately cause it's so bloated with the same stuff all the time (and I've only been here barely 6 months!). This sort of pumped me up a bit :up: Thanks Solomon.

I've thought about making FRs but I haven't had much to report. In my time in joining and reading these boards, I've probably done 10 approaches with 2 # closes, just no dates. But that's 10 more cold approaches & 2 more #s more than I have done ever, haha. Also lost about 15lbs, going for more still...

Started a 10-12hr/day job recently, 9AM - 8/10PM, barely anytime to do anything (project deadline approaching, so everyone's working their asses off -- pays very well though) It's basically work, then workout, then snooze. And just friendly banter with anyone and everyone wherever I can squeeze it in to improve my small talk skills.

I'll try to post some FRs if I ever get the chance, heh. And I gotta meet some DJs in SoCal to keep me motivated soon!
 
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