I am 39, matched with an attractive 46 year old woman on Bumble. She has never been married and no kids. Whats wrong with her?Lol. She has arleady contacted me twice in two days to say "Hi". Already coming off as a stage five clinger and we havent even met in person. Anyway, I setup up a date with her early this week. This is my first date with an older woman. What should I look out for? Do you game her the same way you would, a girl in her early 30's?
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1st date with an older woman who has never been married or kids. What should I look out for?
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AJ84
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You're risking having your head filled with opinions from many different perspectives when you meet this person, and essentially judging her before she has even opened her mouth.
If you don't mind advice from a female, maybe just go with no expectations/ assumptions, just the intention of enjoying yourself, it's your date too right?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Enjoy yourself. An older woman will usually "take care of you". Treat her well if she does.
More than likely there’s probaly a reason why no man before you wanted to tie her down. Your mission now is to find that reason if it does exist before a potential future attachment can happen…
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Desdinova
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The biggest problem you're going to encounter (which may not be immediately evident) is that she has one or two men in her past who will always be more important than you ever will.
^^^ THIS ^^^
Hopefully you will get lucky and there will be something wrong with her reproductive organs, although that can lead to her having other psychological problems. It's also possible she just doesn't like kids and had her tubes tied. However, these are best case scenarios.
Regardless of whatever the reason is, she's going to be fvcked up in some way, shape or form.
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well, I am going to have to cancel the date. I did a search on this woman’s social media profiles but she had only photos of herself from four years ago so I clicked on one of her friends page and there were a ton of recent photos of her hanging with her friend. She is now about forty pounds overweight and doesn’t look anything like her OLD photos. Does she even deserve a text back telling her I am not meeting up on Tuesday. Stay vigilant my friends!
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AJ84
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Oh gee that's the crappy thing about OLD.
I would suggest texting to say you have to cancel and not offering another time, and not responding if she suggests another time, that should be a hint to her hopefully. You don't owe her anything at this point but find a way to kill the text communication by giving a hint that you are not interested.
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I was going to suggest that you be alert to the signs of a drinking problem but it's a moot point now.
But absolutely, send a courtesy text with a plausible excuse for canceling. We are dealing with real people here. Treat others the way you wish to be treated. It will serve you well.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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AJ84
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She's not doing herself any favours by posting outdated pics on her OLD profile.
I bet if she just posted her current pics she would still get replies, maybe not from the men she prefers but I bet it's not fun having a lot of first and only dates with men because I bet that's what's happening with her. A lot of post date ghosting I would say.
I bet if she just posted her current pics she would still get replies, maybe not from the men she prefers but I bet it's not fun having a lot of first and only dates with men because I bet that's what's happening with her. A lot of post date ghosting I would say.
She’s depending on her great and awesome personality to overcome the pic discrepancy (weight denial), but false advertising in any market is still false advertising.
Bible_Belt
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The pics women post of themselves on facebook, when compared to the pics in which they get tagged by a friend, often make them look like two different people.