"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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1st date tonight

dice

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I'm going out with this new girl for the first time tonight. I was racking my brain trying to find something fun and action filled, then I decided to just do what I thought would be fun. I decided I'd just want to get dinner and a movie. My plan is to build killer rapport during the dinner, then go to the movie and kiss her while we're waiting for it to come on, then end the date after the movie with another kiss/makeout. Thoughts or advice?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Pimp-sicle

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Dinner and a movie is not a fun date. Secondly, your overthinking this already, which is never good, which sets her up as the prize and you as the chaser.

If you want to do something fun, be original and take her somewhere she's probably never been on a first date. How many chumps and clueless guys in her past do you think have taken her to dinner and a movie already? If you want to stand out you need to be different, right now your following the herd.

Lastly kissing a girl is not something to be thought out, its set up like a snake ready to strike... by creating attraction, reading her body language and then going in for the kill.

I'm not going to tell you what to do and if she really likes you already dinner and a movie may work, but to increase your chance of success set it up right.





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f283000

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you are setting too high expectations. 9 out of 10 guys don't get to kiss them on a first date. You need to set your expectations to just have fun. If you go out thinking "man i gotta do this and that" and then it doesn't work out you will feel like s____.

let things flow naturally and have a good time. If you put too much pressure on yourself you will only hurt your chances. You should be thinking about having fun with this girl, not that you have to kiss her before the night is over.
 

dice

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do i pay for the date?
 

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dice said:
do i pay for the date?
Did you ask her out? If she was out somewhere just minding her own business,then you approached her and asked her out,then yeah,you should pay for it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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