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Question answered, thanks.

 

[omega05]

when you had drinks with her you shoulda kissed her. Try for drinks again maybe and kiss her

 

[Igetit!]

I've known this girl I work with for about a month and I think we hit it off right away. I was doing pretty good with ****y-funny (she's laughing, IOIs, etc) and after the first week I got her phone number. She texts over the weekend but we don't meet up.

Week 2, I bring her to a dinner with all my classmates and get tons of social proof (seriously a perfect storm--lots of friends seeing me with a new girl and throwing all kinds of ego-boosting stuff my way). She texts me all weekend.

Week 3 we do some work at my apartment on a weekday and she begs me to go have drinks with her (we do, but talk about dumb things that friends would talk about like the news, etc). That weekend I bring her out with some friends again and introduce her to all of them and get OK social proof. She texts me all weekend.

Week 4: Same stuff. She texts alot, we go do a few things, but I can tell things may be getting kinda stale. We talk about work and stupid sh!t friends would talk about. I try to compliment her ("you look good") a few times to show that I'm not trying to be her friend, but dunno how she took it.

Week 5: I text her to do something dumb and she declines. She seems cold whenever I talk to her. No texts. Few indicators of intrest.

Where did I go wrong?

You went wrong in week 1.

You said you were ****y-funny,you made her laugh,and got the IOIs. All that stuff is like pre-heating an oven. You're not pre-heating it just cause you're bored,or pre-heating it just to pre-heat it,you're doing it cause you're PREPARING IT for something.


That's what "game" is. All game is is getting a girl prepared to accept your invite to asking her out. You pre-heated the oven,but never put anything inside it. You "gamed her".....got her laughing,got her number,and got IOIs,you got her "prepared",but you NEVER asked her out.


And after 5 weeks of hanging around her and HER waiting,of course her interest is gonna wane. She gonna think you're either scared,or truly do want just friendship,which BOTH are turnoffs sexually.

My thought is that I never really asked her out formally or told her I was interested in her.

You would be correct sir.

Thing is...somebody has to RISK REJECTION. And if this chick is "hot",it ain't gonna be her.

I just brought her out with me a lot and maybe gave the impression that I was leading her on. We were kind of in a murky area where we could both probably tell that we were interested in each other, but I never really made a move,

You see that last sentence? Can't do that kid.

I just assumed things would keep escalating. Is this a mistake?

Yes,it was a mistake. Seduction is like driving. SOMEBODY has to be behind the wheel. You can't just take your hands off the wheel and expect things to just "happen",you have to PURPOSELY direct things where you want them to go.

Do I need to actually tell her "hey, I like you" etc? Overall, we have had very little kino thoughout the 5 weeks.

Naw....don't say that,but you need to "ask her out". Not "hang out" like you've been doing,but take her out on a date.


Hate to say it,but after 5 weeks of "hanging out",you MIGHT BE headed towards the friendzone.

 

[Purefilth]

Repped igetit but I would say you've been struck off as a pvssy chump already 5weeks?
Waaay too long, friendzoned already, if I'm wrong, make a move and post results please