Full Article and Analysis Please read as the majority of the points are discussed here : https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...-in-daygame-and-dating-and-how-to-avoid-them/
- Delaying finding good wingmen:
- Playing “Too hard to get” or trying to copy “players” and “chads” . The rare occasions women were into me I wasn’t proactive enough. I had some opportunities with women who were beautiful which I didn’t capitalise on because I was too used to rejection or I tried to be a laid back “make them chase you” sort of guy which wasn’t a good idea. Eventually women took this as me being disinterested and they subsequently lost interest in me and once a woman loses interest in you its very hard to regain it. Make sure when someone is interested in you you show them respect and work hard to date them well and create a romantic experience otherwise you may end up missing out on good experiences due to your own lack of effort .
- Not being proactive and working hard enough to approach more – I was born and raised in London which is a city full of women and I didn’t really capitalise this until my late 20s . So from the day I was born till age 26 I didn’t work hard at all to integrate in the mad city I was in both in terms of finding wingmen and meeting women . This was a pretty wasted opportunity and Im sure there are many men reading this that also feel that they’re wasting good opportunities go out there and make the best of life now don’t wait and procrastinate as time is of the essence. Being in a good position and having high smv isn’t enough- being proactive and using
- Consuming too much porn, alcohol ,fast food-
- Letting one off bad social situations stick with me for long periods of time. This was a big one for me that damaged my social skills at school and my social development university. Whenever I had a rejection I took it incredibly personally for weeks on end . Whenever I had an awkward social setting I also took it very personally for example in university I joined one club which wasn’t very enjoyable and as a result I decided to join any more clubs as a result for two years letting a one off situation really affect me for a prolonged period of time. If you have a **** social interaction – move on if you have a ****ty or awkward social event move on and maintain your activity don’t let the failures get to you. Of course as humans rejection and failure hurts so its normal to feel stressed or unappreciated just make sure you bounce back – getting hardworking wingmen who are persistent and work hard is the easiest way to help bounce back from the mental strain of failure.
- Not reading and learning enough in my teens and early twenties- I started my daygame journey around age 20 after watching Simple Pickup videos after that I did a hell of a lot of night game when I was better off really doing daygame as that got me less flakes. Even so I didn’t really read or have enough value to converse with women outside the club as well as I spent my years between 13-18 doing very little. My bad habits of the past had caught up with me and It made making conversation with women tough for me in my early 20s luckily as I ramped up life experience and did more interesting things this became less of a problem.
- Not switching to daygame earlier enough.
- Not being self aware of other cultures and countries. I had it pretty bad growing up in London and Nice/Cannes in the South of France – despite the luxuries of these places it made for a fiercely competitive dating market and I suffered badly when I was young . I felt overwhelmed by the competition in my teen years and always felt left out of social events. I went to a private school with a lot of talented sporty men from wealthy families which left me feeling excluded. This exclusion led to a huge loss of confidence in me. Had I traveled earlier to different countries where my SMV would be more respected perhaps I’d had gained more confidence and better relationships early on and wouldn’t have lived such a lonely life in my early twenties in a competitive city like London – of course the other big contributing factor in my hobbies was my lack of hobbies/ interests/ self awareness and poor fitness which too caused the lack of interest from other women to begin with .
- Not going to the gym earlier – I was a very thin and scrawny dude back in my early teens – compared to now I still am relatively scrawny compared to most but I’ve at least put on a decent amount of muscle since my early teens and look somewhat decently attractive compared to my horror show in my early teens.
- Obsessing over certain day game coaches for no real reason. This was a big problem of mine as my emotional maturity and critical thinking skills were very much woeful . I would idolise coaches like the Simple Pickup crew or Rollo Tomassi without really analysing what was good or bad about them. There’s positives and negatives about every coach out there. But you should never really “idolise” anyone coach based on their dating philosophies. It ended up turning me into an arrogant **** who’d just shill the same rehashed information without really thinking about it properly. Don’t be afraid of criticising your dating coach or the people you idolise. Its your job to think critically and analytically in all aspects of your life in particularly dating – you should develop your own philosophies based on your dating objectives and your own experiences and not purely be reliant on a coach to shill you their’s because often they’re trying to sell you a product or service which may not be sufficient for you or maybe entirely irrelevant for your dating purposes.
- Not looking after the way I dress which put off a lot of women.
- Being a selfish networker- When I started daygame I was a very selfish individual not looking out for my wingmen’s needs .Make sure when you do daygame you help your wingmen in set- be a good person to the dating community – Ive been a relationship two years now but I still just write a free blog to give back to what’s left for the community. I see it important to give back because there were a lot of people who helped me starting out . Read the wingmanning guide here where all my tips are listed in regards to being a good wingman : https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...hose-starting-out-on-their-seduction-journey/
- Not looking after my testosterone enough especially when I was younger.
- Not looking after my social media profiles- When I started night game and consistent approaching I made the mistake of having a dire facebook and instagram profile full of boring pictures. This ended up resulting in a lot of flakes as I was unable to portray value or any excitement to women through my pictures- read the social media guide for more info: https://mindful-masculinity.org/202...ial-media-guide-for-dating-and-relationships/
