10month LTR over, should I cancel trip?

[newbie81]

I ended my 10 month LTR last sunday.

We were supposed to go on a holiday trip to Italy (4days, 3nights) end april.

I ended the LTR without any hard feelings, no dispute nothing.

I didn't contact her since sunday, she didn't contact me neither. I don't plan to contact her (the trip is paid, I have her money).

Several possibilities:

1. go with my ex-gf on the planned citytrip
2. go with somebody else (this means that i have to pay a fee on her charge of course )
3. Forget about the trip & the money (i lose 180€ on this one, but I don't care about the money)
4. Sell the trip on ebay

Personally I would like to go to italy, so for this reason I would chose nr 1 (no headaches about finding somebody else).

Is it a good idea to go with your ex?

 

[Desdinova]

Is it a good idea to go with your ex?

Why would you want to reward and ex-gf? She's an ex for a reason.

Have you even considered the possibility of going alone?

 

[newbie81]

Why would you want to reward and ex-gf? She's an ex for a reason.

Have you even considered the possibility of going alone?

tnx for your reply.

I could also go alone yes.

Why do you think this would be a reward? Which reward is she getting?

Trip was planned, no hard feeling, trip goes on.

She doesn't even have to be with me when we're there, worst case scenario we only share the room & do our own thing the rest of the time.

 

[Bourne]

This could be a trip where you go alone and rediscover youself.

Speaking from my point of view, there is no way I would want my current ex to be there if I was in your position.

 

[Desdinova]

My question is why is an ex-gf deserving of such an invite? She's not your gf, she's not sleeping with you, so what has this woman done to deserve an invite on a vacation? NOTHING.

Also, why are you still having contact with your ex? Let sleeping dog lie.

If you really want to go to Italy, go on your own or take a good friend with you (whom you've never dated, nor plan to date). Your money and time is valuable, spend it on people who have been loyal to you (such as yourself).

 

[newbie81]

My question is why is an ex-gf deserving of such an invite? She's not your gf, she's not sleeping with you, so what has this woman done to deserve an invite on a vacation? NOTHING.

Also, why are you still having contact with your ex? Let sleeping dog lie.

If you really want to go to Italy, go on your own or take a good friend with you (whom you've never dated, nor plan to date). Your money and time is valuable, spend it on people who have been loyal to you (such as yourself).

Ok tnx for the reply.

No contact anymore since we broke off, didn't even try.

Btw, I paid my part of the trip, she paid her part. I never pay for other women.

-closed.

 

[ElChoclo]

Option 2 preferably or 3. Your thinking indicates a lack of social intelligence. Would you like to go on such a trip with an employee you had just terminated? Would you go on such a trip with a male friend you had decided to part ways with? I don't think so. So what is the difference, we all know.

 

[juanita]

My question is why is an ex-gf deserving of such an invite? She's not your gf, she's not sleeping with you, so what has this woman done to deserve an invite on a vacation? NOTHING.


SHE PAYED FOR THE TRIP!!! so how about the money she payed to u? shouldn't u give her her tickets or papers or whatever of this trip and make her to decide whether to sell them on ebay?

 

[speedo_meme]

Give her the money back (it's only right), then try to get a friend of yours to go, if not, go alone......

 

[flexion_]

Well:
1) give her money back.
2) she isn't going with you.