"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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10% Rule

goodganji44

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Trying to find a new job? Better your career? All you need is a 10% success rate to find happiness. There's a simple rule to follow.


Apply for 100 jobs? At least 10 of them are going to call you back. Out of those 10, all you need is 1 job to hire you for that big salary you've been looking for.

10/100
1/10

=

WIN

The approach to women is exactly the same. Approach 100 women, at least 10 of them are going to be attracted to you. Out of those 10, you'll at least bang 1. You can't be in two places at once, why focus on the other 9? As long as you focus on the 10% success and not the 90% rejection, you'll always win.


Approach life with the 10% rule. With a little bit of effort, 10% can be achieved by anyone. So go out there and get yours! What's the worst that could happen? You get a little more success than you asked for? :yes:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zekko

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Espi said:
Those who try the most, work the hardest, and never give up, will most often always succeed.
I'll agree with this, with one small caveat:
Sometimes it's better to work smarter than to work harder.

A lot of people are driven to accomplish something and work hard at it, but the ones who succeed often figure something out that those who fail do not. Maybe it's simply a matter of location, being in the right place at the right time. Maybe it's knowing the right person who can make that one crucial connection.

Look at a golf swing. A guy can work very hard at developing his golf swing, but if he has bad habits all his hard work is just ingraining bad habits. Sometimes it takes a golf pro to look at your swing and tell you what you're doing wrong. That's an example of working smarter rather than harder.
 

VladPatton

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I like zekko's idea better than the numbers game idea. What if you do hit up 100 girls and what of you do, in fact, get zero numbers and zero success? That is a possibility. Oh wait? Were you in front of a lesbian bar and hit up 100 rug munchers? You weren't working smart, now were you??

I really think smarts, finding the edge, and getting the right help is the way to do most things in life. Great topic.
 

Thorninmyside

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Just like in sales, qualified leads will have a higher success rate and therefore the approach : lay ratio improves dramatically compared to mindless cold canvassing.
 

Bokanovsky

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goodganji44 said:
Trying to find a new job? Better your career? All you need is a 10% success rate to find happiness. There's a simple rule to follow.


Apply for 100 jobs? At least 10 of them are going to call you back. Out of those 10, all you need is 1 job to hire you for that big salary you've been looking for.

10/100
1/10

=

WIN
This only applies to entry level jobs. If you have a high-powered and you're recognized as an expert in your field, you won't have to send out 100 resumes to get 10 call backs. On the contrary, you'd probably be getting head hunted by recruiters. You should strive to be the kind of man who gets head hunted by women...not the kind of man who perpetually begs them for dates with a 1/10 success ratio. Getting shut down 9 times out of 10 is okay when you're 18. But if that's your ratio at 30, you are doing something wrong.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EbbsAndFlows

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There's no magic percent. Brad Pitt has 100%, not 10%. Chis-chan has 0%, not 10%.

Without quantifying the unquantifiable, let's quote Gretzy, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take", or something like that.
 
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