"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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1 Year of Sosuave - Before and After Pics!

Audiophile

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Hey guys, I joined this site about this time last year. After logging in and reading the more useful posts, I stopped visiting this board, because I felt like it was time to put matters into my own hands. I recently came back because I am home for christmas break, and I have a few spare days in which I just sit back and relax.

I was looking through some old pictures of myself, and found one around the same time last year. I believe it was taken on the 23rd of December of 2009, so it isn't too far off. This is what I used to look like

BEFORE:
http://s140.photobucket.com/albums/r22/Spam-Robot/?action=view&current=Oldme.jpg

AFTER:
http://s140.photobucket.com/albums/r22/Spam-Robot/?action=view&current=1yearlater.jpg


I realize that I'm skinny, so I've recently started bulking like a mofo, and I just started hitting the gym up, looking to get my weight up from 147 ---> 165 by the end of the semester. I remember coming to this with absolutely no social skills, no girls in my life, pretty much the epitome of AFC. I played CS:S like a pro though, sadly I don't think I'll ever regain that skill :(. Right now I am juggling 3 girls, my social life has skyrocketed, and I'm overall a much much happier person. The way I think drastically changed, as did the way I act.

Thought you guys might enjoy seeing how the material in this site can actually change people. Cheers!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74

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Very nice man. You went from Steve in American Dad to a real cool dude.
 

Warrior74

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Very nice man. You went from Steve in American Dad to a real cool dude.
 

jafyk

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Before: What did you do with the cute wee little boy, lol?

After: Hmmm,, I think you should get shirts with more patterns (go to Macys and see) but I do like that V neck. Nothing to wrong with your body but if you wanna work out it's a plus too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fuglydude

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Love the before pic man! Totally had an urge to come through the computer screen and give that nerd a weggie!!!

Good transformation so far, but remember its something you'll be working on for the rest of your life. Nice choice on wanting to bulk... the world is quite a different place when you're physically elite. A great way to keep track of your progress is to start an online workout log/journal.... lotsa guys keep one in the H and F forum. You can get feedback there and its a great way to see where you came from.

Keep it up!
 

Solomon

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cordoncordon said:
You're so gay.

Seriously. G A Y.
Tah! I've been saying this for months

  • The American men bashing
  • The winston Wu videos
  • The "no 10's in america"
  • The continuous talk about feminzation

I mean this guy is a closet homo,

On a positive note great job to the OP for stepping his game up
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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runner83

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Amazing transformation mate!!!

And you are only young, so have much more time to become the best man you can be.

That's the benefit of before and after pics, since it really highlights the changes that occur. Otherwise, since you see yourself daily and each change per day is only minor, you can tend to forget what you used to look like.

I recently saw a pic of me 10 years ago (when I finished high school) and that has given me renewed emphasis to keep up with my own self improvement program.

PS - Big Jimbo - I suspect you may actually really be a 16yo Asian girl, but regardless, your posts crack me up. Keep up the good work!
 

Mr.Positive

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Wow, what a big change one year can make.

In the picture before, you see a young man who does not see his potential. In the after picture, you see a man who knows his potential...and has gone after it as a man does.

Audiophile, mad props to you. If you can achieve that change in one year, think about how great of a life you have ahead for yourself.

Embrace it!
 

j0n24

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Anti-Terroists WIN... haha Source is cool too bad I suck at keyboard/mouse Starcraft is a different story though.

Good job on the transformation.
 

azanon

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Aging to adulthood is an exciting process, including the extra weight and maturity provided by going from 17 to 18. That being said, I'm not sure the credit should go to SS or your gym work. It was probably 75+% maturing, 25% or less your gym work. Just being real.
 
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